I forgot to add, attend clubs or groups at your university. Get invovled, you'll meet people. I was depressed for a little bit when I first moved to a big college town (college station), mainly because the friends I had were just drinking buddies. And the girl I was making on, I was nothing more than a booty call for her. Only hanging out with my friends when we were at parties and or bars, eventually got depressing. Luckily, I got inot the emt paramedic courses that made it like being in a club, classes were very hands on and group oriented, made friends with a number of people in it. Some became very good friends, future roomates, and people I always hung out with. Hell, our entire class used to throw parties together. Good times. If you don't have the esteem to hit a club etc, hit the gym like the other poster said.
I'm just trying to paint some perspective here, not trying to be a downer. Life is a very short, finite thing. You either get busy living or get busy dying.
hit the gym dude, i went to utsa my freshmen year and had similar problems, classes were terribly boring and i never could study. luckily you don't have to study much for freshmen classes at utsa, but what saved me from going mad in my 2 bedroom apartment that i shared with one of my best friends who after 10 days stopped staying at our apartment for the rest of the year to stay with his girlfriend (runnnnonnnnn), was the gym. i literally played basketball or was at the gym just hanging around whenever there wasn't a rockets game or i didn't have class. what was even more depressing was that every rockets game i had to go to buffalo wild wings ALONE to watch rockets game. i did that alllllll year. i would suggest finding some more friends to pass them time, or get a job. i'm in my last semester and my motivation is absolutely non-existent, i desperately want to get out of here, but don't want to have anything to do with class, i mean right now i am sitting on the last row of a 400 person class chattin it up on clutchfans. are you satisfied with your major? does it entertain you at all? i know mine didn't, i am a govt major and i absolutely hated it, luckily the language i study took so many hours it allowed me to change my minor to a major with only extra classes which i took this semester and over the summer. i wish i would have added or just switched 3 years ago, but i am glad i found something i want to be involved with for the rest of my life, i suggest you look for the same. and another thing, i was talking to a friend yesterday and we were talking abt grad school and how we need a year or two off because some people, like us, are just not made for school, in highschool we thought we were just lazy and goof balls, but college made us realize we just simply hate school lol. good luck to you sir, take summer school and get out asap
everyone has problems...some bigger some smaller and some more life threating...I would suggest, exercise & diet and getting out of the house...you may think its hard to meet people but actually its not...everyone has a need to communicate and belong and being in college is an amazing time, a time to learn, grow and get some...seriously... You have to get out of the house...i lived in Albuquerque, NM and Chattanooga, TN, two of the worst places to hang out so I know what you're feeling but even in those crappy towns, there are cool people and places to hang...hell, just get out and watch a football, basketball or whatever game, just get out... hope things work out...
THIS. If you were good at the bar scene you'd not be starting this thread! Go out there and meet people. Doesn't matter what club as long as it's something you're sort of interested in.
Yup. I did. My situation has deteriorated from then though so even at the risk of being banned, I started this one.
You can't go to college without getting involved in some kind of activity. I mean besides just studying and drinking. Usually all it takes is 1 group/activity and presto - you have a bunch of lifelong friends. To this day, many of my closest friends are people that I met in college 20 years ago. I have no idea how I would have met people if I wasn't in some sort of social group. Doesn't have to be a frat either. Anything. Mine happened to be music/band. You just have to get out there and find people you have things in common with. Best way to do that is to find a interesting group to join and go from there. You can't sit around wallowing in your own misery. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Maybe get a job waiting tables. That's a great way to meet people while practicing your social skills. Pretty good money too.
Do you work part-time? Maybe work can occupy you, plus you meet some people, and you can get some extra cash. I know everyone is saying party, but if don't really know people that do party, it might be hard to get into it without it being awkward. Definitely join someone clubs and meet people and establish relationships based on interests. Just realize a couple more years and all that will be behind you and you'll be in the real world.
Appreciate everyone replying so far. I guess I posted and even knew some of the answers before I did to an extent. I don't exercise much anymore and I used to. I could use joining some clubs up here and/or attending some more meetings for them. Thanks for being pretty blunt and on some replies, kicking my ass. I needed to see it for myself before I could believe what I'm doing was no good. man, that would be so lonely (even for me right now, lol). I empathize with going alone to places all the time, it's not a lot of fun. I'm semi-satisfied with my major. I want to really just do the computer hardware part of my computer science degree. I don't have a real interest in code, but some of my classes still require a decent bit of coding and I don't care for that too much. I am on track for a math minor though and like that fact. I don't think I'd change it to my major, but I do at least have that going for my college career with the 5000 math classes I've taken lol. It's hard to tell sometimes if it's just the semester and my lack of going out/general lonely feeling that's influencing why I'm questioning my major and school right now, or if my major is genuinely dis-interesting and not for me. *shrug*
just hang in there buddy. I have a friend thats going there evelyn something. The worst thing you can do is fall apart and get kicked out of the school. I wish I wouldve gone to a big university rather than the community college. You wanna talk struggles, drive 35 minutes to get there, be in school for about 5-8 hours then come home for 30 minutes to get ready for the most physical job in the world (ups). After im done with my associate Im planning to go to MD anderson get into radiation therapy (2years)
Good advice ima. Next semester would be my first semester with a job in college (if I got one). I was thinking about taking 16 hours, but I've haven't taken above 10 hours the last 3 semesters (with the drops this semester as well) and don't know if going 16 hours and work is a good idea. I would like to work though just because it is a little sucky sometimes depending on my mom for money and having no real income of my own. Would you recommend taking a class or two less and working to see how it is for a semester? On a side note, I do have a guitar here and would like to start playing it consistently/practicing. I suck right now at it, lol Not right right now, nah. Yeah, I don't really see the partying thing as part of my mantra either. However, I wouldn't be opposed to joining up with a few clubs and/or hooping it up at the rec center as ways to meet people instead. I go to bed old man style at like 11 pm :]
Remember my friend, it's always darkest before the dawn. Stay positive and things will start to happen.
Eh, only if it doesn't interfere with your studies. You should sign up for a guitar class at the school of music. Pretty sure they're open to non-majors. At least they were when I was there. You could probably meet some nice (loose) women too, since it will no doubt be full of female Music Therapy majors.
