The first reason would be because, at this juncture, she appears to be unable to handle an exclusive bf/gf relationship. It may be that she is immature, or it may be that she just isn't in that phase of her life where she feels the desire to be committed to one person (and there is nothing wrong with that as long as you don't go around cheating on people who think you are being exclusive with them). I suppose my second reason would be logistical considerations, but I have a feeling these may not apply to you two. Things such as: do you go to different schools? Are you just in town together for the summer? Do you think you would be a temporary thing (girls, and guys, in college will often hold onto a relationship through the school year, break up when summer rolls, maybe start up a summer relationship, then break up with the summer relationship when the school year rolls around)? It sounds like you are pretty into her. Maybe a little too much at this point. Don't let that cloud your judgment.
This and the CWebb thread have reaffirmed my distrust of women. You can't turn a hoe into a housewife.
I watched (most) of the video for this song on YouTube as I heard a friend's sister-in-law (46-ish?) singing it. She said it was "bad but catchy". In the comments someone just had to bring up how homosexuality and cheating are wrong and immoral. So of course people jumped in to defend the song saying she really wasn't gay; just experimenting, etc.... I'm sorry but since when do two chicks kissing ever need defending? Ever?
Not really related, but the thread reminded me of this thread, from when I was still a lurker. Perhaps the most entertaining thread of all time. It should be immortalized in a Hangout Hall of Fame.
Franchise3 pretty much said everything I was going to. 1) Ask yourself what you want, do you want her to be your gf? If so then think about the future, if you're going to different schools then how often will you see her? If that is the case then I don't see how you can trust her at all based on what she's doing now. Who's to say she won't do the same thing to you? 2) Put yourself in the bf's shoes, sure what one doesn't know won't hurt them, but things like these always seem to find their way into the open. Tell her you want to be with her, but she has to break up with the other guy. You can't continue going behind his back and doing what is wrong. 3) If you decide a relationship won't work for whatever reason, or she won't break up with her bf to be with you, then she must not be that into you. It seems to me like she wants to keep you there just in case something happens in her current relationship, and I wouldn't think that's a good feeling. 4) Last but not least, you can be like most guys and say screw all of this and anyone else's feelings, I'm going to do what makes me happy without thinking it through. So to sum it up, if you guys will be close together during school (able to see each other on a pretty consistent basis) and she's willing to leave her bf, then definitely, try to take it to the next step. If none of that works then tell her you don't like what is going on and you guys can't be anymore than friends. Have you ever heard the right thing is usually the harder thing to do? This is a perfect example. Pugs
Here's my advice: Take a deep breath and calm down. I think if you get to overworked over this you might scare her off or find yourself turning into a bus stop stalker. I agree with Franchise3's advice and would add you should play it cool and let her work out things with her BF first before you try to charge in and break things up. One, that might scare her off and two that might lead to a beatdown from her BF. My next word of advice is that CF.net is probably not the best place to look for dating advice. (Especially when you don't post pics! )
You gotta get on that: NSFW for languange Spoiler <object width="425" height="344"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/w2TD6j9A62I&hl=en&fs=1"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/w2TD6j9A62I&hl=en&fs=1" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowfullscreen="true" width="425" height="344"></embed></object>
Wow, I just browsed through that thread, and it was ****ing awesome! Kept me awake another hour, haha! It's even better cause I live in Vancouver, and that's a legit Vancouver bus stop in the pic 3814 posted...it could have been any bus stop though so...meh nevermind.
Thanks for sharing that legendary thread wes. me and the girl are talking on MSN right now and we've decided to 'not do anything' which will hopefully cool things off. It won't be hard since all we have to do basically is not skip work. Yesterday was just crazy and very spontaneous. I feel sad but I THINK this is the right decision.
damnit, i can't edit my last post... screw it, i'm going for her. typing it on here sort of enables me to do it freely. otherwise everytime i come on clutchfans and view my own posts im just gonna see my last post.
