Why does it matter to you that the chick is white and you're Chinese? The best advice I can give you is pretend that it doesn't matter that the girl is white and pretend it doesn't matter that she's pretty. Talk to her like a normal girl. The biggest problem that nerds like you have is that you think of yourself all the time and not the girl. Be Rico Suave and think only what the girl wants, what she wants to hear and how she wants you to make her feel. You're sitting around worrying about your own shortcomings (having an accent, being Chinese, being shy) and worrying about how YOU will feel if she rejects you how about the girl? What she wants is to talk to someone interesting, nice or cool or 30 seconds. That's all you need to do to break the ice with her.
If you do end up friending her on facebook, make sure you're only using it as a tool, not the primary means of communication. You end up sending mixed signals if you flirt with her online, but aren't able to speak a coherent sentence to her in real life.
I have a similar situation at work where there is this young female coworker I have had an eye on for the past few weeks. I have seen for brief moments (saying hello as we pass by, etc) and I know exactly where her cubicle is located. Problem: she is on the other side of the building and we work in different units of the company. Outside of seeing her in her cubicle I have only passed by her in the break room and in the hall. She is a part-time employee so knowing what her schedule is can be tough, like knowing when she takes breaks or likes to get up and just walk around. The point is it doesn't make you a creep to elephant eye the girl next to you in class, but to wait 'till your final year of high school to make significant contact with her makes you a loser.
"Should I add her on Facebook?" LOL, yeah. That will really make an impact on her life. You can be one of her 3,000 internet buddies. When did high school guys turn into such wussies?
i blame video games, exclusively. they can't talk to girls, but they're perfectly trained for mass school shootings.
^This. If you don't talk to her at all, she'll think you're a self-centered jerk. Make an effort even if you're feel like running away. If she likes you, it'll seem like it's easy for you to talk. She'll think better of you if you do something than nothing at all. If there's any advice you listen to here, allow yourself to **** up.
This thread shows how young this forum is and not because of the childish asian d!ck jokes or the ole club and bang jokes. Most of you are still working on your first pubes. On topic: dude I used to be one of the shyest kids in middle school and always had trouble talking to the ladies, the best advice I could give is not to really care what the outcome will be if you end up talking to her. Rejection is a lot of people's worst fear but really the worst thing that ever happens is the other person says no and if you don't even speak to her it'll end up being your biggest regret, especially if you find out that she actually liked you back. It used to be mine and I learned to overcome it by trying to be silly and make fun of the situation.
"Say, say...SAY lil' mama," usually seals the deal for me. Ha, just kiddin. I'm Viet, and in high school there weren't many Asians around, so I dated white girls. To me, back then, they were just girls. As I got older, things I wanted and looked for in women changed/matured/whatever. I'm no womanizer, but the best thing you can do is relax, and not put women up on that pedestal. Treat them good, nice, and all that, but be real too. If you can't be a man around her, she'll never respect you. Show both sides. The nice and naughty, WUUUUT!?
Why do guys fear rejection? Is it the possibility of getting laughed at or ridiculed? In that case - why would you want to be with such a person in the first place?
Why do we have so many Asian penis experts? Got a raging homosexual-Asian fetish contingent in Clutchfans I don't know about? A lot of dudes giving expert opinions on Chinese ****. This is what I'm saying. Do you nerds expect the girl to make the first move or a sign from God? Man up and try to think what the chick is thinking, it's going to be harder for her to make a move than for you. As long as you're not creepy rejection isn't a big deal. Even if you're rejected it might not even be you, maybe the timing isn't right or she's insecure or got some chick reason.
