This thread is dumb Regardless of their motivation or how they feel, what do you expect them to do? Just instantly cut off all communication once they learn that she's dating someone else?
It's about respect more than anything else. You have to shift the power to yourself and if she is disrespecting, you have to put your foot down. I noticed that my generation is VERY SOFT. Just keep it 100 with your girl and there should be no problems. If you can be her best friend/boyfriend at the same time, she doesn't/wouldn't need any other male companionship.
And she can have friends as long as you are putting your foot down, she will still be your girl. Be honest to yourself and her. It's not like you have no female friends?
Depends on what you want and what you expect. If she's just there for fun then okay, have all the friends you want. Probably not a long term thing. If it's something more serious I'd be more reluctant if there's a lot of odd guy activity(and not that gay dude stuff).
This. I've had both male and female friends ever since 3rd grade. Some of the girls/women were very physcially attractive. It has rarely been an issue. Most people I know also have friends of both genders, including good-looking ones. I pretty much agree. IMO, people who are secure generally have no problem having friends of the opposite sex. Even if they're a bit attracted to the person...he/she has enough self-control and maturity to not act any further on that. It's just not a big deal. The OP's girlfriend's male "friends" seem immature. Hopefully his GF has enough sense to cut ties with one of them if he crosses her boundaries. Her letting them hover around like panting dogs is not a good sign for the future well-being of the relationship.
Yeah, guys don't like me being anywhere near their girlfriends. Or women in general - they know they'll never be able to measure up. There's definitely a level of silent respect and admiration on their behalf, but once they figure out I'm not something they can aspire to be because I have such a unique magnetic field around me (most of which is genetic), they feel salty. And I can understand that frustration. Luckily I'm a secure and nice guy so any hate against me just seems jealous. And I leave all the petty and vindictive talk to the girls or guys who watch reality tv. My relationships are strong .. because I challenge girls to cheat on me. Find something better. Please. Spread your wings.. and some have tried , but they all come crawling back to the Mack Daddy. The big bear. The honey pot. It's just not fair for you guys.
(laughing real hard) Man, some of you guys would make the WORST bartenders. Just saying, maybe all those years behind the bar taught me the hard lesson of trust. Because that IS what all this is about, TRUST...or the lack of it.
An oldie but always worthwhile in threads such as these... BLOOMINGTON, IN—A new study released Monday by sociologists at Indiana University found that women will always answer their telephones unless mind-blowing sex with a man other than the caller prevents them from doing so. The findings were consistent across all demographic groups in a sampling of 500 females between the ages of 18 to 35, which included women who were romantically involved with the caller but had requested some time apart to clear their heads, as well as women who had dated the caller briefly but assumed it was understood by both parties that the relationship had not worked out. [more at link]
Well more power to you guys. As weak as this might sound, I'm not into going after someone else's woman. That's just lame. Plenty of broads out there, I have no desire to deal with any drama between a girl and her current BF
Same here. There seems to be too many young guys in this thread. Yes, as men, we can screw just about anything. It does not mean we have to. Evolution (and human biology) shows we have much lower standards than women. But, there's quite a few of us who refrain from sleeping with our female friends regardless of their relationship status. If women have friend zones, men can too although maybe not to the same degree. Most of my friends are pretty, and I've told them I wouldn't kick them out of my bed if it came down to it. They know I'd be lying if I said otherwise. But, it never would lead to sex because there are so many alternatives out there. More importantly, a platonic, cool female friend or two is worth a lot more than a temporary affair. After a week or two of sleeping with her, the novelty of screwing your girl friend will fizzle out. In the end, you lose a friendship. Once you establish from the outset that they are not wife material or NSA f*kc buddy, relegate them to the friend zone. There's the added bonus that other women are attracted to you if you already have (attractive) women in your company.
Stop being so insecure... Would you care if she asked you to stop having friends that are girls (assuming you have any)? You should trust your girl enough not to pull some stupid **** and cheat on you. Grow up.
