I agree it has to do with age. I'm 23 and I want to continue testing the waters. Right now if I'm going out of my way to see a girl I have my reasons, and it isn't to here the latest Tmz gossip. Above is also why I have no desire to get serious with anyone again for quite a while.
Just noticed you said exceptions not expectations. And there were guys she would hang out with, but they were also friends of mine that she knew I trusted. Just like the girls I said were exceptions were also good friends with her. I just didn't go run around with girls I would go party with when I was single, just as she didn't do that to me. We trusted each other completely, just had a mutual respect not to put ourselfs in the wrong situation. Guess I explained that poorly earlier.
thats the 2nd shot you've taken at me..lol whats wrong with you man? I am not controlling, not am i some type of psycho...this **** has been going on for a while and I didn't say much of anything. This weekend **** just blew up because they were so f'in annoying. After I lost my cool at them, she goes and hangs out with them and lies to me about it. sorry, but I have a bit more pride than that..that is just disrespect and makes me look like an idiot. Since then I haven't talked to her, and I really don't care. That **** just pissed me off finally....but i'm not controlling by any means that's insane. IF ANYTHING...she is always complaining about girls who write on my wall or soemthing "they are all sluts and whores dont talk to them"
No, I don't mind at all, but that's because all of her guy friends think I'm cool, and we enjoy hanging out since we all have similar interests. They are her friends. I am her boyfriend (well, fiancee now, but that doesn't change anything). The lines are very distinct, and different. Are they attracted to her? Probably. Does it matter? Not at all.
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It sounds like your anger is misguided because your beef seems to be more with your girl than those guys.
There are real cool chicks in this world man...really really cool chicks. This girl is not one of them.
Man this won't end well. Your instinct is telling you something. If it was a healthy well established relationship both of you could laugh at all the hounds sniffing around. Well its not and dudes know it. Keep your cool bro she's just not ready for a serious relationship. At least that's my 2 cents
my first post was a statement in relationships in general. there is something wrong if you can't trust your partner. and if your partner doesn't respect you enough to not go behind your back, then ultimately it's not going work out. sorry if i misunderstood and took you as controlling. but the more you tell her you don't want her to do something it'll have the opposite effect.
Agreed, it is the same for my relationship. To answer the question a later poster asked, i'm 31 and married with 1 child. I have always had female Friends with who i had no intention of dating them. Of course i have been single for a period of 2 months in the last 14 years.
When my wife and I were dating we followed a simple guideline. If the other person was doing what I was doing right now, would I be upset? If I would, then I wouldn't do it. It was harder for her to follow that guideline, but she learned that guys are not as harmless as girls can sometimes be. Now that we are married and we have a child I go the extra mile to help her know that she is the woman who gets my attention. As a leader in our church this is tough sometimes. My wife has also had training in counseling so I tend to send women who need to talk to her or have her with me when I talk to them. I also never give any girl or woman a ride home by myself, ever. As a christian leader, too many bad things have happened to other leaders, so I put boundaries in my relationship to give me transparency and trust.
Im 33 and she's 32...I cant remember exactly, but I think Ive always been okay with my gfs and their guy friends. I know I cant say the same about those girls being okay with me having girlfriends. Age definitely helps.
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Don't have a GF . But most of the time a lot of the guy friends are "Gay" or guys she tells you are gay to sneak behind your back.
Ya'll need to be more secure of yourself and your relationships. Some of my girlfriend's guy friends are cool and some are vultures but at the end of the day, you gotta trust your girlfriend.
