You meet the coolest chick ever and then she says......

I don't mind kids (especially since I have two of my own), so my personal criteria would not include such a restriction.

I, however, often get the invocation of the boyfriend very early in any conversation with a woman, even those I'm not even thinking about in a romantic way.

For instance, I may be making small talk with a classmate who happens to be female just to pass the time. I will say something along the lines of "Nice weather we've been having, huh?", to which I'll receive a response along the lines of "My boyfriend likes weather."

At that point, I'm very offended because it certainly appears that she thinks I was hitting on her, even though that was not the case. So, in essense, I've been shot down by someone I wasn't even interested in hitting on.

That's depressing.

 

Mr. Paige -- very good point. I have a similar story to share. There was a new secretary here in my office who was about the same age as me. I thought I would try to make friends with her basically just to be a nice person. She was new, most people in the office were considerably older than her, and she appeared to be shy. I had no intention of anything further than that. The way I saw it, I was doing *her* a favor.

Then she has the audacity to drop the "boyfriend" line on me in a manner that was completely out of context. I was offended in a major way. Since then I have begun employing psychological warfare tactics on her. I believe they are having an impact. Now when she talks to me she is extremely nervous and says things that don't make any sense. She seems very embarrassed when we speak. I view this as victory.

 

Now that's funny.

Once when I was in school I had a Chem class with this cute girl. She was attractive to me mainly because she was smart, otherwise her looks were average. Anyways, we were talking a lot after classes and meeting in study groups and I was starting to think she liked me. Until one day I was in the library with a cute (hot) friend of mine whom she thought to be my GF, well she stopped being so nice to be after that. She had a crazy look on her face when she saw us in the library, my friend was like I think she is jealous... (I did have a GF at the time though, just keeping my options open)

Long story short - women are crazy. Drewdog, good luck and don't marry the first girl that you lay.

 

They are out there, Drewdog. Just scratch yourself a few times, vigorously shake your head so that your ears flap (you know the drill), keep your nose to the ground and keep sniffin'. When you locate your objective, ignore the fleas and aim to please. Don't start wagging your tail until she's at your place or hers.

And don't worry about her attachments... my wife had a serious one when we ran into each other. The dust settled, we picked ourselves up, and that other dude was history. Persevere.

 

And then we get pissed and jealous when our girlfriend or wife doesn't state clearly to some flirtatious boy that she's got someone Too funny. But as a guy this makes perfect sense to me.

 

Awesome! What kind of pyschological warfare do you use, I need some for my office. Do you chew gum to annoy here?

 

Too funny. You must elaborate now, unless it's going to show your sick and twisted mind.

 

Drewdog, they're playing the Cardinals.

 

I've been having really good luck at Uropa recently. Barfly on Fridays usually has more chicks (lotsa hotties, too) than dudes, too, which is pretty damn rare.

 

The key is to make her self esteem fall dramatically without her recognizing your intentions. It requires a great deal of discipline and restraint, and takes practice, but when successfully executed can be a very powerful tool.

My strategy is centered around the emotions of guilt, shame and jealousy. Some of the easier tactics to use include inviting her to do things when you know that she is busy and can't attend. She will be forced to say no to your invitations, which will help develop feelings of guilt. Another is befriending other women in the office and becoming good friends with them, but not extending the same effort in developing your friendship with the 'target' (jealousy). A third is demonstrating to her that you are a good person with a kind heart (may require faking) and then acting reluctant or shy around her when she passes you in the hall/cafeteria. This throws her perception of others' thoughts about her into doubt (shame).

You do have to be careful -- if she recognizes your intentions, she will just get pissed off at you and not care. This will defeat the purpose of your efforts and result in a colossal waste of time. However, when successfully executed, it is a very rewarding experience.

 

Brilliant work! The shame technique is especially intriguing.

 

We're building it ourselves. Those people are rip offs and they usually mark it up at least 35% to 40%. My father's built several homes and commercial property so he is our liason. I simply went to certain sites and picked up the contractors myself. Instead of using multiple middlemen. In the area homes are selling for over $140 pqf, versus we will build it around 40% less and we get to be selective with our designs. We are utilizing a design of a townhome in Fairview, its an area off of Westheimer with an incredible array of newer style homes.

And i'm down to meet up for some night action anytime. Drew, one way that I try to go out is to be flanked by some cute girls that I know, so other girls (as insecure as most are) will find you much more interesting if there is competition for your attention.


TJ,

That reminds me of when I was an intern at a prominent financial company when I was 19 and had a fling with a 32 year old very hot secretary that lived alone in Allen House apartments. A quick five minute jaunt for 'lunch' was common. The best part was that she didn't want anyone to know so we would give little looks in the office and thats all. Classic.

BigTexx,

Europa is a sweet place, I haven't been there in a while, but its nice because of all the little corridorrs and pretty hot women. I haven't been to the Social Club in a while either, which in its beginnings was just loaded with women that I swear were flown in to go there.


The first thing we have to deal with if we go out is how we know each other. Couldn't you hear the psycho whispers and sudden outbursts of 'my boyfriend, fiance, dog' if it was through a basketball internet site????

 

I would say that 90% of women with boyfriends are easy targets. If you give them a whole lot of attention and then suddenly take it away, they start reeling. You can't be mean to them. All you have to do is begin taking it away. I've seen it time and time again. The women will start trying to real you back in. They wear the clothes you like. They'll change their hair. It's subtle, but you know they want that attention back. That's when you have them in your pocket rather than the other way around. but in the end, they always end up with their boyfriends. Only about 10% will ever cross over to you. But if all you want is control. It's easy to get in my opinion.

 

I typically hit Social (since I live nearby), Seven, Uropa, Gatsby (thursdays), BarFly, Zimm's, Belmar, Sierra (wed). I rarely go downtown anymore due to crowd that it now draws. I'll occasionally go to the Village, which I think is a decent spot during the week, but not on the weekends. Your new place sounds ideal for the "after-party" with the ladies.

 

I haven't been to the Belmar, but a guy I know hosts a parties there on Thursday nights. I really don't like the village unless i'm with a date and we just want to relax and maybe have a drink. Its almost like a frat party that everyone knows each other and there's not much music or anything lively to promote any 'hunting'.

Living in San Antonio for four years when I was at Trinity, a lot of my friends were Mexican Nationals and students from South America. I like going to some nicer latin places at times, but they usually end up turning into Pasadena after a few months. Usually they have some people that host parties like on Friday nights at Gatsby sometimes and on Friday's at the Post Oak Grill. But the good thing is places like Bongo's after 2 that keep on serving in the vip section till like 4 and its closed off.

 

Honestly, maybe its just bad karma, but I don't like trying to seduce somebody else's girlfriend. I understand TJ's psych warfare in light of her comments, but to intentionally do it is asking for trouble. I'm sure I could think I'm doing the guy a favor so he knows he has a cheatin' slut might as well make it easier for her to get caught so he knows what he's dealing with, but I'd rather not deal with the drama with all of the beautiful single women out there.

That and I already thought about it after this very hot brazilian girl that works out in my gym and is married began flirting with me.

 

I agree. It's not worth the drama that you always get with it.

 

damn I'm glad I'm married.