As you said, you can only tolerate so much. I bended over backwards for him repeatedly, and finally had enough of his crap. Real shame too, we clicked on an ungodly level... anyway this is your thread! Bingo. You are now a threat in his eyes. Some people just can't handle not being the cooler/dominant one in the relationship and have to have their own personal underling(s). You've outgrown him. You sound like a truly special person from what I've read of ya over the years, Ace... Go out and get some people that will appreciate you.
Hey Anti, Thanks for your comments. It does mean something, what you said. Bring on the love, bro... you seem cool too! I guess I am at the point now where I don't know whether it is worth it. Can it change or was the basis of the friendship messed up from the beginning? I do know what you mean, these guys tend to want to be regarded as the cool guy... and if they don't they go weird. Anyway, don't worry about talking about you and your matters! I'm interested anyway, and I am not too good with being the centre of attention anyway. About clicking on an ungodly level... I know what you mean. When it comes to other things we get along really, really well. So don't know if it is worth throwing that away. Maybe I should do something drastic (not so much as punching them in the face!) and then go back a little later after time has passed for it to settle. Do you ever see your friend on even a casual basis or have you completely stopped contact? How did it happen? Did you confront him, ignore him?
Ace, you're honest with yourself, and thats the most important thing. But you're also insecure with yourself, which people can see that from afar. You have to change your thinking and realize that you are whatever you want to be, even as silly as that sounds. People like confidence, and as long as it looks real, they will respect it. Instead of trying to show people up, just forget them. Find the goals in your life and live them for yourself, and not others. Your life is about you ... and the moment you want to impress others and prove others wrong, you have given them control of your life.
I knew someone really similar, but it was only on the basketball court. Biggest ******* in the world and a real insecure hot head when it was game time, but outside of that he was one of the nicest people I've ever met. A true Jekyll/Hyde persona. You'll have to ask yourself if the time for drastic measures has come, but don't turn the other cheek too many times like I did. As for my situation, it's a long story so I'll spare ya the details. I initially confronted him, and we had a mini-falling out for a couple of weeks. We started hanging out again very briefly but the problem again reared its ugly head, and it was apparent that he wasn't going to do anything about it so I haven't spoken to him at all in over a month. Luckily, there's a girl I've been dating and this BBS ( ) to keep me occupied, otherwise I imagine that losing my best friend would be particularly devestating... Or maybe I'm just grown up enough to realize I shouldn't feel bad over getting away from that situation. LeGrouper, you're just jealous there isn't more young man-ass barking up your tree.
Haha, sounds exactly like the situation i used to be in and kinda still am. Two of my friends have been doing stuff like that since i was in first grade. Their both older than me though plus i know they're just messin around so it doesn't really bother me. Sorry this was kind of a pointless post just thought i'd say that im kind of in the same situation.
mmmmmm I just woke up from a ninja kung fu nap. I didn't read all the posts cause my eyes are killing me, but it looks like everyone is giving you good advice so i'm going to go back to the kick his arse plan. Your friend must be pretty cool for letting you stay with him.
no_answer, re your sig: If Ray Charles is God the Father, Then Stevie Wonder must be God the Son, Who is the Holy Spirit?
