If he does decide to drop the lbs and soon, might not be as tough as later. My reading, and what I have seen...seems to indicate there is some sort of weight your body gravitates to (probably the cf nutritionist types will correct me). It's tough to get below that point, but recently packed on pounds seem more willing to stay off, once lost.
Do all same sex couples have 1 bear and 1 twink? Can there ever be 2 bears or 2 twinks? Is there a balance between bears and twinks in the overall community, or is it a role you have to adapt to? Just curious, not trying to mock anyone except beartexxx.
If you care about him then you should support him in his effort to get into shape by being there. Also if both of you don't like the gym have you considered doing other things like playing B-ball or other sports? I personally don't like lifting weights and doing other such exercises but I do it so that I can improve or just keep on doing things I like like sports.
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You aren't helping matters by "enabling" his weight gain, and I agree with those above who said that's a heck of a lot of weight to gain in a relatively short time. It's far easier to put it on than to take it off. Yeah, that's obvious, but still true. A good friend of mine, who had hit 295 lbs (he's 5'11"), decided about 4 months ago to get serious about taking some off. He loves single malt scotch, but he started drinking water at the bars when we had our weekly "guys night out" thingy. Oh, he'd slip maybe once a month, but that was it. He changed his diet to salad and steaks or chicken. He started to go to a gym 5 or 6 days a week and mostly did an hour or so on the treadmill, with some weight lifting from time to time. Mostly the treadmill, or walking around Lake Lady Bird here in Austin once in a while. That's it. He's lost 60 pounds.
OmegaSupreme- The underlying issue isn't the weight, it's your SO's insecurity. He wants attention and needs confidence. So while weight loss would help, he would probably switch to complaining about something else sooner or later. The best you can do is encourage him in everything, much like with a child, and be positive about everything. But he needs to build himself up. No one can do that for him.
It's a weight loss thread. What possible difference could it make? And why should anyone care? Hell, nevermind. I don't want this shoved down to D&D.
the next time he mentions the gym tell him you will join with him... make it something that yall do together. edit: I should have read the thread before answering... but I really do think that would help. If you are into it doing those group classes together is good... like spinning or kickboxing if they have those two things at your gym
I dont feel comfortable telling a DUDE what he should tell his dude, thats just too weird and disturbing for me.
I assume he's not old, so why not bring him to the CF pick up basketball games? It's a good start of a much needed exercise.
Is he Hispanic??? Then he WON'T. It's our prerogative to make our partners keep telling us "you're fat" and not do anything about it. We're looking at our own bellies and won't do crap about it. We'll continue to wear our 10-year-old pants and pretend they're not tight. If he's not hispanic??? (which is most likely), then... forget what I said. No Homo here.
