I don't think it should be a big deal if she pays for a date. It looks a little insecure if your masculinity depends on providing 100% of the financial resources. But I would disagree a bit with Mrs. JB sentiment in that I didn't worry about a guy insisting on paying for a date. I did worry about a guy asking me out and then expecting me to pay for it. I think as long as you don't start freeloading as a rule, you're doing alright. Also, at some point in the relationship the distinction between "your money" and "her money" dissolves and you both start being concerned about where "our money" is being spent.
My girlfriend's still finishing up at UT, while I'm working full-time. So usually, I'll pay for all the dinners, while she'll pay for smaller stuff like sandwiches or ice cream/frozen yogurt. She offers to pay, but I know that she has lots of expenses, and her part-time job, is just for pocket money.
Hell yeah she can pay. I was always taught whoever asks should pay. Now do these type of women actually exist??
Sounds like, given your finances, if she didn't pay you wouldn't go to the movies at all. That sounds like one hell of a date. Paying for dates is one part chivalry and one part dominance. If you can't afford something, the chivalry drops out. All that's left is a desire to dominate. I'd say it'd be a bit less than upstanding to not allow a woman to pay in such a case.
I've been gone for a few days and I needed to laugh out loud. Thanks! I think the poll was worded poorly (sorry, Antisonic ). The choices should have been greater and the question concerning letting a woman pay should have been framed in a less inflammatory manner. I think whoever feels like paying, for whatever reason, should be allowed to. When I dated (back in the Jurrassic era), it was never an issue. I always offered to pay... when I had the bread. If I couldn't afford something, I didn't bring it up and found fun things to do that were free (at my place or hers) But I had times when a girlfriend knew I didn't have the money to do something that she knew we'd both enjoy and offered to pay. I accepted her offer without the least bit of guilt. So should you, Antisonic.
Why not! As long as you've been steady for awhile. But if it's a new GF, avoid it at all cost. You want to make a good impression, and not a cheap impression. However, once you get married, it's our money and you will have no money.
