I'm going to have to disagree with you somewhat, DaDakota. I know you are trying to offer the best advice you know, and I fully realize that you're on the more populous side of the morality fence (the views on this BBS notwithstanding). I personally don't see the leap from the indiscriminate sex a prostitute would have to the more selective (albeit promiscuous by many standards) sex an adult film star would engage in. Nevertheless, you’re not alone in making this leap, so I’ll address it as it stands: You say, “don’t sugarcoat it,” and to that I’d have to respond that it’s not necessary to demonize her with name-calling either. “Hooker” and “w****” are just two words that were coined to express the very negative connotations that you and most of society have regarding prostitution. As to the disease part, I’m gonna have to agree with Macbeth too. I would imagine the adult film industry as a whole—simply as an act of self preservation—has a much larger awareness of STD’s than the remainder of society. Monthly testing may not show everything, but it’s certainly better than the complete lack of testing that most of the rest of us go through. Promiscuity exists all over the place, but a sexually higher profile institution like the adult film industry should be comprised of people who are much more aware than the average person. That being said, I have no idea how diligent this lady in question is with her protection, but I think Macbeth can ascertain that himself—and he certainly should have the means at his disposal to protect himself. The arguments that condoms can’t always protect you from things like the clap are certainly valid, but those problems exist outside of the adult film industry as well. Again, I think it comes down to awareness of consequences, and I’m pretty sure there’s plenty of that in the adult film industry.
I think, ultimately, the test is would you want the same for the people you love. If not, you wouldn't want it, really, for her. I don't want my daughter to be a p*rn star - so - ultimately - I don't want anyone to be a p*rn star. I may think it's hot - but ultimately - I'd allways want the girl to stop. It's hard to be honest with stuff like this. It's easier to make compromises with your ****. You could call that honest, if you think **** is all you are. But I don't. My Dad thought there was something more to me, God bless him. He thought that about my sister, too. Sure, I'd want to date a pornstar, and I'd want the date to lead to great sex. But somehow, I'd have the crazy idea that I'd want her to stop, cause ultimately, I don't think it's a good thing.
Uhhhhh...Anyone got the time? Record it. 1st time in BBS history when MacBeth hasn't known what to say.
DD...I know you're trying to help, and i appreciate it...I just don't appreciate the method you have of delivering your medicine with a hammer to pound it down. I understand you have your views..I understand you disagree with what I did. ANd I understand that you say, in my position, you would have done differently...But you wouldn't have been a hypocrite, because unlike me, you think either it is ok to judge someone without knowing them merely based on what they do, or you think that p*rn is morally wrong, or both. I get your message, and share your concern, but look at it this way; we have sex with hundreds of people in our lives, and I would imagine that of those hundreds, there are probably many, many of them who have had many partners and are nowhere near as sex aware or protective as..wow, first time I actually started to write her name..anyways, as protective as my 'friend.' So how am I being any less safe with her than any of us are with many of those we sleep with?
Well, after reading that I feel my position on this aspect has been covered. Pole, wanna take over for me?
..........sigh.......There was a time when DOD and I got along, and then we didn't, all of a sudden, and I have no idea why. It happened after my unpopular stances on political issues, but it went from DOD joking with me a lot, to DOD ignoring me, insulting me, and then banning me from a game for calling Yao Floyd, which was a great nickname, a BBS nickname, and was catching on...now he just criticizes everything I say or do, if he makes any comment at all...and I have no idea why, unless he is so opposed to my political stance that he has a problem with everything else...I have no problem with him, but I am confused at this turnaround.
i caught the train to work today instead of driving, however the train driver was a reall hotty, so i slept with her, seemed like the safe thing to do.
Okay...here's the thing now...We hooked up again today, had fun, and she wants to hook up again tomorrow...I have to work, I said, so she said to come by the hotel after, we'll have dinner there. It's not a big deal, and probably just my being arrogant, but does it seem to you that she might be getting a bit too serious a bit quickly? This isn't something I would normally ask advice about, I just go with what I feel, but you guys know so much about it that I thought I might as well..And again, I've had no real problesm at all...I'm more attracted than I was yesterday..we spent a lot of the time today talking ( B-Bob is rolling his eyes right now at picturing just how the conversation went; JAG pontificating about the sate of legal reform in Indonesia, TP/KK/KT snoring on the couch )..and we had a great time. I'm not averse to seing her at all...but it's just, a little niggling feeling that she's moving a bit quickly considering what both of us said were our limitations. It's probably nothing, because she has never done those things girls do when they're getting serious... What she did do today was talk specifically about some of the more well known ladies in the business..names even I recognized, and one that I only knew because it was mentioned over and over in here i asked about, and she told me lots. Devon was the name I gave..was that accurate,cause she seemed to know right away. Anyways...it's still light hearted and fun when we're together, and she's greeat on the phone, so maybe I'm just dealing with the usual " Don't get too close too quick" vibes, even if they're not grounded. Advice?
Are there some of you out there that have really slept with over 100 different people? Seriously, I can count the # of people Ive slept with on one hand and one of those is my wife.
i think your reading too much into it, you spelled out that you not looking for a serious long term thing right...... and didn't you agree on being friends which would possibly include being sexual friends, well surely having dinner at her hotel falls into the category of get togethers that friends (sexual or not) have. also isn't she in town for only limited periods of time at a time, it would seem obvious if you are her new favourite friend while she is in town, whom she obviously enjoys spending time with, that she would want to spend time with you on multiple days without it being construed as a long term thing.
Maybe it has nothing to do with your political stance. Maybe he thinks it's silly to devote an entire thread to "should I date a pornstar, maybe, maybe no, she's so hot, oh I don't know, oh what do I do, I wish it was kismet, ohhhhhhhhhhhh". Of course I started a UT Hangman thread so who am I to criticize.
