Would you continue a relationship with your ex-girlfriend/boyfriend after broke up?

Difficult to say. I would like to think that it was our resolve that kept bringing us back together, but I think it is more accurate to say that it was meant to be. When we would try and pull apart, God, Karma, the Universe, whatever you wanna believe in, would always bring us back together.
It has definitely been rough at times, but obviously it has been worth it.

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I can safely say that I love her more everyday and she says the same to me.

GUYS who are just jealous!

 

Speaking from personal experience...

Don't break up with a girl unless you MEAN it. If you do, make a clean break and never look back. Life is too short to live in the past.

 

No, there was just one girl who I clicked with pretty well and we seemed to be having a great time, at least good enough to take my mind off things for awhile. It's not going to turn into anything, but it was fun while it lasted.

 

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Absolutely 100% f*cking-A right on!

 

Was that the girl who gave you the wrong phone number... by one lousy digit? Whatever happened to her?

 

Nah, she never called back...oh well. I'd have just loved to see the look on her face when she got the message I left her!

 

CRC,

I can tell you it didn't work for me. But I was on the other end of the situation. After about 3 years - a time in which she changed me from indifferent to 'meant to be together' - she decided it wasn't the same and it ended.

She immediately tried to stay 'friends'. Kept calling, talking about this and that, what she was planning on doing on weekends, wavering back and forth about 'what she wanted', yadda yadda yadda.

I couldn't handle it. I told her I didn't hate her, but I wasn't healing any by having to talk to her every damn day. So after a month of the torture, I said it best if we 'didn't talk for a while'. I knew that this would essentially mean 'don't call me I'll call you', but I couldn't think of another way to let myself get past it.

She called once more, supposedly just to say she 'heard about a job' I might be interested in, left a message for me. I never returned the call.

It's been a year now. I've only seen her a couple times, brief waves or hellos was all that passed. I too find myself wondering if I should have tried to stay friends, tried to keep contact just to see what would happen. But I learned something too:

The only way to see if it's the right move or not is to stay away. Keeping contact only drags it out, and never allows you to see the situation objectively. Only time does that.

And in this situation, it wasn't my choice. So I'll be damned if I'm going to be the one trying to change it. I tried that right when it happened...after that, I was done. Until I can talk to her knowing that it no longer effects me (which may not be for a long time, if ever), it's best to stay away.

I never could understand why she tried to be friends right away, or why it was so hard for her to see that things just don't work that way. But she was young...which was part of the problem, in the end.

Anyway...my story.

 

Well, I should amend it. Time...and other experiences...are what teach you what you need to know. She has gone into another relationship, correct? And you have not allowed yourself to? That doesn't seem fair to you.

Something new coming along - something you actually give a chance to - also teaches a great deal about what direction you want to head into.

 

I think that "let's just be friends" thing is overrated. Just like a person who once drove a Ferrari can't all of a sudden lose the Ferrari and switch to a Kia. Once you step over that line into romantic love, any chance of resuming a normal friendship goes from slim to none.......and slim just left town.

 

The thing that has worked for me was trying to remain friends and then let the relationship grow apart. You broke up for a reason most likely. It's all about realizing that.

 

To quote a friend of mine

IF I WANTED A FRIEND. . . I'D GET A DOG!

Rocket River

 

It depends on the length and the deepness of the relationship IMO.

I havent really talked to any of my serious ex's because it has been way too fu#king painful, and you get locked in tunnel vision - thinking only of the happy times yall spent together. You never think of all the **** you had to go through becuase you long for the day when the relationship was all puppy dogs and sunshine.

To me, its best to just (like others have already pointed out) to make a clean brake. Its hard as hell, but you have to put her out of you mind and move on. There are many many many many girls out there for you to meet, and its cool to have a fresh start on things - believe me.

Good luck. It isnt easy, but prolonging a friendship will only hurt you in your long term recovery of being a single man. Which, I may add..... Is a GREAT thing.