Would It Bother You If Your Wife Kept Her Last Name?

Yeah, that's what a lot of girls say. "Since I'm not pumping out no babies for your lazy ass, there is no practical reason for me taking your trashy name. I'm a Washington, not some Wilson!" Yeah, then I go, "Oh, yeah, then what is the perdactical reason for me getting you that fancy ass $199 cubic sri lankan whatever ring then that you were pining over, unless you make me some sandwiches b****. Oh, and don't make you get my moms to call you, while you are getting me that beer."

 

The point is, its less confusing if everyone in the structured family unit has the same last name. It is a question of lineage.

But its probably also just another evil male conspiracy to keep women barefoot and chained to ovens.

Just like your women's studies professor told you.

 

Of course it would. When a woman marry a man, she make a sexy time and take my name.

 

A family that is friends with our family...they have three daughters. Two of them forced their husbands to change their name to hyphenating it with their last name (e.g., husbands were name Pussycat and Whipped, respectively, girls were named Biotch, so the husbands had to call themselves Pussycat-Biotch and Whipped-Biotch). One of the girls took her husband's last name.

Guess which two marriages ended up in a divorce, and which one is still stable...?

Might be a coincidence, but...

Posts like this one are why (other than the amusement factor in your other posts) I still keep reading your posts! Good post.

 

Mama said there'd be days like this...

 

one of the best Ernie, Charles and Jet moments on TNT was probably after a 1st half and Kenny hearing the joke and building up the softball to Chuck. "So, Chuck, what do you think of women asking for watches."

Chuck...on national TV at TNT halftime..."Women don't need no watches; they have a clock on the stove!"

actually probably an old joke, but it was great hearing Barkley say that on TNT....

and I am sure Tamarie would agree. 'eh jn

 

Oh....and I have proof of these cubic sri lankan wanting b****es. off of ccfan.net ads

<img src="http://s0.2mdn.net/viewad/1787227/Valentine+Diamond+Necklace.JPG">

Valentines day? So if I spend $50 on this you will expect $199 later on you wedding ring when I have to buy a full bar for my friends.

girls are wierd/

 

oo I like that^ I want one

If and when I get married, I'll take my husband's last name.

 

Sounds like the question is framed to finding this out at the last minute, but that type of thing would not be a surprise- you'd know this type one date in.

 

I dont have a problem with a wife not taking my last name. If I married Jessica Alba, she wouldnt and SHOULDNT change s**t for my broke ass. I don't have a problem with a woman outperforming me. At least SOMEONE would be accomplishing something. If I had to stay at home while she worked, I wouldnt give a crap what anyone thinks about that, along as MY kids are BETTER for the arrangement and contribute to society later.

But I would NOT take HER name.

I don't believe in the opposite day "Men have had their turn, now its WOMEN'S".

Nope, EQUALITY means equal OPPORTUNITY for everyone and sometimes equal outcomes. It does NOT mean equal length of tyrannical rule. I dont give a darn what our backward forefathers did, I'M not that and for the most part today WE'RE not like that. I don't support the "slant" of power. As soon as its equal or close to it, thats where the power struggles end.

 

That's true sacrifice and moving to hear. Though I gotta ask you, hypothetically, if your spouse does not stay with you in a hospital for a month due to her circumstances (career or other ailing family members), would you blame her? If she can sacrifice her worries to be with you why can't you sacrifice yourself to spend some time alone and let her pursue her goals too? Who gets to decide this time? Next time? The time after?

I find your post incredibly confusing that's all. How can you so proudly proclaim "Having the same name just makes it real" then blatantly refuse to consider the other half of the name adopting possibility? You're parading hypocrisy around without even realizing it. Now I'm NOT saying you should take her name, that's not something for me to decide. I think I would have been fine with your post if you simply said "She gotta take mine and I ain't taking herrrrrrrs!!!1111eleven" without the pretentious piece of romance in front of it.

Why, I didn't realize taking the husband's name was such a uniquely American thing...I guess everything we stood for will crumble to pieces on the day all our women decide to not take our names...

 

Let's get back to Basics . . . .

What does MARRIAGE mean to you?
The definition of marriage nowadays has become a bit . . . murky

Basically . . it seems. . Marriage means whatever the people calling it a marriage want it to mean.

Rocket River

 

.....but I'm pissed because it stays like this

-2pac

 

Do you know what a culture is?
It is a collective group of mores and folkways ascribe to a group.

To make it simple. Let's say arbitrarily 10 things make Culture A.
If you change 8 of them . . . .is it still Culture A or is it a new Culture?

Rocket River

 

Ummm... one of the things about getting married is becoming ONE FAMILY, which is of ONE LAST NAME. Now, who said it would be the man's? I don't know, but that's just the way it is because of certain cultures and other gay crap like that... but... I am with whoever says that CHANGING LAST NAME is one of those kind of little things you MUST do if you love your husband enough. Your KIDS will not be mother effin' confused.

Don't confuse the mailman. Don't confuse the government. It's frowned upon!

It's one of those things that says "I respect matrimony and I respect my husband." I can see some peeps who don't want to be the "head of the household" accept that their lady won't take their last names.

Also, in Mexico, the bride keeps her last name and attached "de GroomLastName"... like if one of you gringos would be living in San Miguel De Allende and met a Mexican lady, her name would be Mexican Lady de Gringo Last Name. The kids will be named Kid Gringo Mexican Lady in full. So... ladies, if you want your last name to follow you around, move to Mexico?

Boy, it got NAZI really fast in here.

 

Mrs. B-Bob kept her last name, and that was my preference. We each had a set of publications already; it's confusing and awkward when a scientist or author suddenly changes her name mid-career. "From the author formerly known as ..." Also, my last name is not terribly exciting. Also, we're not having kids. I guess it is confusing for our pets, especially at the dog park.

But I don't have a strong opinion about what other people should do. And Mrs. B-Bob doesn't get mad or anything when she's called "Mrs. B-Bob" on a letter or invitation or whatever, or at the many super-fancy parties and restaurants we regularly attend.

 

sigh. you're so cool, b-bob.

 

I was kidding about the super-fancy parties and restaurants.

 

You're so eloquent and progressive.

If I hadn't already conquered you with my knowledge of mediocre NBA wing prospects, I'd e-shake your hand.

Nevertheless, I'm hungry for wolf kin.

 

I was a college radio DJ -- you would have really loved all my hip music.

HMH ... so true. I would trade it all -- ALL! -- to have won that bet.

Is wolf kin some sort of Duran Duran reference? Should I recommend some more progressive and alternative music?