Would It Bother You If Your Wife Kept Her Last Name?

superglue her wedding ring on her finger and i don't have a problem with it.

 

It doesn't bother me one bit. If she wants to honor her family's name, why not? Why is a woman required to change and not the man? Trivial to begin with, even more trivial to get uptight about.

Just my personal opinion on it.

 

wait why is that disappointing?

i voted "no".. but we're not talking about racism or sexism or something. It's disappointing to see that different people have different opinions and yours isn't the majority?

 

hmm seems like a double standard...

 

It's pretty common in China for the wife to not change last name. Changing names are a pain in the butt (all your documents, accounts, and etc.).

 

you may not believe this, but:

 

On chili and relationships we agree. On politics, not so much.

It's all good. We just got into an argument over nothing special.

 

I can help you out with this problem. And I won't even charge.

 

I also vote no on the same grounds. The problem here though is that if the woman doesn't take her husband's name because she's not his property, does she remain the "property" of her father by virtue of keeping his name?

Perhaps in the interest of unity and doing away with ideas of property, married couples should choose entirely new names to share, like Bananahammock. Or Crapbag.

 

The people who thought this was strange, even 12 years ago, were cavemen. They probably still are.

 

Oh, damn. I repeated basso's point without knowing it by posting without reading the whole thread. Boy is my face red.

Of course, we all know what they say about broken clocks.

 

How is taking care of the house, especially if there are children, not "working?"

 

This particular tradition is rooted in the idea that a woman is the property of the father and then the property of her husband. That is the entire reason behind this bit of "our culture. . our traditions."

Kind of like slavery.

What are we . . .without that culture. . that tradition?

 

I think society views it as your wife strapping on a dildo and going to town on you. It might be progressive, but is she capable of going to the forest and cutting down lumber and building furniture while you nurture all day? Doesn't that testosterone estrogen mix up make you feel guilty to the point where you want to turn things around?

But as my latest foundings have taught me, there is no real right and wrong. Just women outperforming men.

 

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so, nobody ever answered whether it would matter whose name the children took.

how do you trace lineage? like others said, it's a sign of unity. doesnt really matter whose name is used in my opinion but there should be one name. why even get married at all then? just be an unmarried couple. the whole process of marriage is a pain in the ass anyway. why go through the trouble just to half-ass it?

i like the idea of making a new name to share. then there's no question of who's taking whose name.

 

Keeping the husband's last name. . is *exactly* like being chained and beaten and forced to work without pay.

Thanks for setting me straight on that Mr. Jones.

Can you now explain how residing in the same house is like a lynching.

Rocket River

 

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BTW . . . shoot me a few links about this Tradition being based on women as Property.

this link: http://www.couplescompany.com/Features/ChangeName.htm

suggests -
The key reasons for a bride taking the groom’s name are:

1. Protection of family and wealth
2. Designation of a new life direction
3. Acknowledgement of God’s presence in and endorsement of the marriage



I dunno much about the site but it is one of the 1st ones that came up on a google search. *shrug*
I wanna check a lil research on this before we just 'accept it as fact'.

Rocket River

 

Batman Jones,

We are slaves to women. Least they could do is...

Take our names and put on the damn handcuffs when I need them to.

 

BJ as a woman. You open the door for her, she gets irked and calls you a slave master. Bahaha...

To me, a woman taking the last name is symbolic and practical. It symbolizes the commitment, just like a ring, and for practical purposes it avoids confusion and awkward public situations. If she were famous then it would of course be less practical to change the name and it wouldn't bother me in that case.