Would It Bother You If Your Wife Kept Her Last Name?

no wouldn't bother me.

incidentally just this morning, I told my wife I wanted to get my signature tattooed on her tit.. right above the nip. I did it with a sharpie and it looks pretty hot.

/got nuthin

 

I don't consider a 'wife' as a husband's 'property' ... rather unity

My vote is no

 

what does this have to do with property? do you name your fridge after yourself

 

I would suggest my future wife to keep hers. I've spoken to my gf about it in the even that we do tie the knot. She was born with hers, why change it to mine?

If she changes it, how would her old friends find her on facebook? This is more important than anything.

Now as for the kids, they'd be named after my last name.

 

I would prefer the wife keeps her last name, because it will make things simpler when the divorce is eventually filed.

 

will just add this - if the wife has any kind of immigration status (visa, permanent resident, etc.) - never ever ever ever ever ever ever ever ever change the name. never.

 

My wife has my last name, but it wouldn't have bothered me if she had kept her own.

 

I am pretty sure women in Arab countries keep their own family name. Same with other cultures.

 

Good point about the kids, Jontro. I was actually very open to this, my son either taking my wife's or my last name- we both decided for him to take mine because I'm fortunate to have a great family and my wife was unfortunate to not have this- actually, her mom was a terrific lady (R.I.P.), but her dad and brother are the biggest sexist, racist SOBs you could ever meet. So, she definitely wanted my son to keep my last name because her dad wanted my son to have my wife's maiden name- she took great delight in telling him that would never happen (very sad how these things turn out sometimes, but my family is like her 2nd family and at least her mom was a good person).


BTW, I didn't mean to insult anyone who preferred that their wife use their last name- it kinda made me feel funny at first, too, her using her maiden name, but it was just good business sense- and we didn't want to deal with that whole hybrid last name thing. My relatives in New York City totally understand.

My relatives in El Campo, TX, though, always ask us about it- I mean, it's a farming community- they address the Christmas cards to us as:

Mr. and Mrs. Dan Dorotik

Geez.

 

Mrs. rimrocker kept her last name.

I don't mind at all. She was successful and accomplished before we married, so why should she change her good name?

Regarding kids: While they may be screwed up, they're not screwed up because we have two different names. (Our daughters have my last name.)

Also, I'll note it has become less of a deal lately. For example, when we first got married, there was a clerk at the utility company that refused to start our service and was real snotty about it. Had to get a supervisor to overrule her. I'm sure she thought we were God-hating heathens or something. Those kinds of encounters have been fewer and fewer as the years go by.

 

Me and my girl have talked about our names...

she's taking my last name along with her last name, and I'm taking hers.

Why? Since her bro and his wife aren't having kids, the name has to live on somewhere. So why not have it be...MY SEED, SON!!!

 

I'll look into Crimefighter. I don't see how someone can argue that since a lot of last names are derivative of trade, like Smith, Glaser, etc. Or maybe Ochocinco.

I actually have my stepfather's last name now, so I have no real attachment to it. I thought about changing it back to my father's last name, but it's not a simple last name like Smith. I like simplicity. I was thinking 'Finn' since the biggest chunk of my mutt pedigree is Finnish. I might still do it.

My wife's last name was Payne. Pretty damn cool name, IMO. Still, hard pill to swallow, pride wise, to take your wife's last name. And I'm generally not a guy who gets hung up with pride.

Scribo- I thought it might be the case of some poorly held wife's-tale-type belief on the part of the county clerk when they said I would have to pay court costs to change my name to my wife's. These government workers aren't the best or the brightest. Glad it worked out for you, though.

 

Fixed.

 

it's in my name

 

Guess im in the minority, my wife is taking my last name for sure.

 

It's a name, not an identity.

 

Yes, it is like this in my culture as well. I see nothing wrong with a woman keeping her maiden name. As "dandorotik" mentioned, the husband's name is used for both partners every now and then, for things like letters and emails, but on official documents the names are different. It is confusing for some people here in America because they're just not used to seeing married couples with different surnames.

The children always get the father's name, too.

 

I assumed your wife's maiden name was Cheetah.

 

Finals Tavern-Bound would've been pretty cool.