[Work]Sexual Harassment

I'd keep record of the chats and speak to your HR rep. sounds like he's not taking the hint and to be honest he sounds like a stalker in the making

 

I have to take sexual harassment training every two years, so I'm very familiar with this topic. "Harassment" is defined as a series of repeated offenses over a period of time. One off color remark or butt slap does not sexual harassment make. If he repeatedly does it after you tell him you're uncomfortable, then it's harassment, and you can follow your company's SH protocol.

Of course, if he whipped it out while you were having your morning dounut and mentioned something about your glaze licking abilities, I think that kind of thing gets handled on a case by case basis...

 

Wait.. how hot are you Di? I mean, maybe it's not totally his fault. lol jk

no but really how hot are you?

 

Seriously? You mean we get a freebie? Damn...all the wasted opportunties.

 

LMFAO!

no way that you have to wait for someone to slap your ass 10 times before it can be considered harassment.

 

If you told him it's not cool and he continues, send in your boyfriend.Tell him one last time, that you are really getting aggravated and annoyed by it and see if he stops this time. If he continues, than report him. If he continues, send him a pic of you holding GUNS. He'll most likely stop after that.

 

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Don't answer that!

Every male on this bbs imagines that Lady_Di (and every other female poster), is a million times hotter than is humanly possible. Let's not kill the dream.

 

These are inappropriate behaviors of a sexual nature that would not yet constitute legal sexual harassment, in and of themselves. If they stop when you express to the person that you wish them to stop, no big deal, it's over.

However, if

1) you tell him to stop,
2) alert your supervisor, and
3) the behavior continues

You may have an actionable sexual harassment claim against the perpetrator and your place of business for not acting upon your complaint.

Go here: http://www.eeoc.gov/

 

I was just using "butt slap" to add a little humor. If he repeats the offense after you tell him to stop once, it's probably considered sexal harassment, but it often depends on the company and that company's specific plan.

One thing you do NOT want to do is break protocol. Follow the sexual harassment policy to the letter. If you don't follow protocol exactly, not only does it make you look bad, but it could ultimately get you fired.

 

Thats a good point.

 

that's what she said

 

Just make sure he wasn't talking about your ass...

 

Let it be clear of your standards, nothing under a 9.. he will leave you alone

 

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You need to, in writing (IM or email is fine, just keep a copy, or several copies since you said he was IT? Print some hardcopies too) or in front of a witness in a conference room (preferable), tell him the following or something similar:

"I really do not feel comfortable with some of the things you say to me, such as (insert sayings here), and I would appreciate it if you would please keep our relations on a professional, work related level from now on. I am not trying to be rude, but it just makes me feel uncomfortable. Thanks."

Then begin documenting all events from that point on, including the discussion above.

The last thing you need is for this to blow up, you file a claim, and the investigation yields that you never SPECIFICALLY asked him to stop makig such comments. I know you said you told him it wasn't "cool" but there needs to be NO DOUBT that you asked him to cease a certain type of remark and behavior.

If he continues, take your documented events (do this on paper, not on your PC) to your manager, and have he or she discuss with him and his manager with an HR rep. present.

You can never be too detail-oriented nor thorough with something like this, because so much of sexual harrassment cases are up to interpretation and perception rather than actual intent. In fact, if I go up to a gal at work and say "You look very nice today." and she is uncomfortable....guess what...I can get in a lot of trouble if she pushes the issue.

I have managed people in the workplace for so long, and have seen so many of these things happen.....it's ugly. I have seen a woman get her manager fired because he mentioned something about her hair. The previous day, he and this gal had gotten into a verbal altercation of some sort during a coaching session, and she walked out of the room crying saying she was going to get him fired. Well....she did. Later, she was overheard saying he never said anything about her hair....she made it up.

Another case involved a couple that was dating at work. They split up, and it was ugly, and she decided to get him in trouble (even though it was always consentual) for some things that were said and done at work.

I can tell you stories all day. But be thorough, document everything, and never say, "That was no big deal." What's not a big deal today can turn into one tomorrow.

 

This person should be fired.