[work advice] Facing bullying, should I stay at my current job?

OK I am sorry. I am not a prettyboy. I was drunk when I wrote that and lacking sleep. My "pretty boy" period was a few years ago and now because I am worn down I am now fat, and noone wants to look at me. I am pretty ugly by most standards now to be honest. Girls literally do not talk to me, even when I go up to them and try to start conversations. I am serious. Please do not think I am some sort of douchebag. I only wrote that to state that I am not some loser guy everybody looks down on. I was only trying to state my merits, however few they may be.

I think, and I KNOW, I can take a joke. My mates joke around with me all the time, and I am ok with it. If my mates insult me and they all have a laugh, I am happy that I can provide happiness to my mates. Or I can just dish it back with insults of my own. However the difference is that we have mutual respect between myself and my friends. My friends and I have a personal relationship, so apart from the jokes we also can talk/chat everyday conversations. To put an example if we have an joking session, or perhaps even more seriously an argument(presuming), after the argument we can just be normal friends again and chat about normal things. Its just that if there is zero personal relationship between me and that guy, and I tried for months to establish some sort of small talk chit chat relationship and he was not interested. The guy wouldn't even look me in the eye when he talks to me, ever. If some guy on the street started mocking you continuously, would you feel its right? But if your makes were to just make fun of you, then you would probably just know its just them being mates.

I am sorry for sounding like a douchebag, but I am simply trying to get advice for my very serious situation and I just tried to state some positive things about me.

I'll be honest. I have a total of 3 friends I am in regular contact with. I have no girls. I get on really well with my family and thats about it. I get on with 3 of my colleagues really well, we would go to the gym together or go to eat.

Guys please be serious. At the end of the day I know I am probably just an efemminate Asian guy to most outsiders. But what I am saying is real. And I desperately need help.

 

Hey look, I know that on an internet message board most people will always value entertainment value over more serious things. But please don't think I am trying to troll everyone. I know what bullying is, and its not because I "can't take a joke". You know when something is bullying or when someone is just trying to play around with you.

I was only trying to illustrate the "redneck vs city guy" kind of picture, to help give everyone more information.

 

Thanks for your advice.

I think that there is some validity in saying that I am not suitable for a work environment like this. It is something I need to improve on.

I have tried to adjust mentally, however I just couldn't turn myself around.

 

Thanks. I think all of your points are valid. I need to reflect on myself about this.

 

Ok, the more I read about this the more I think that you are right. I didn't realise a lot of these things until you outlined them there.

I am definitely insecure, I think. I think I definitely feel like I am judged by everyone. I think I am too eager to please others who I shouldn't really be spending the effort on.

To be honest I don't care if people admire me or not. I just want some kind of basic respect, I suppose.

Gotta run, a mate is waiting for me to go eat with him.

A lot of things to fix myself upon.

Thanks for your sincere advice.

 

Yes. I need to grow a pair and fight back. I should have fought back.

Something to take on board for the future.

 

Yes I am depressed.

However as others said, I should have not tried to avoid the situation and instead should have fronted up to the bully and fought back at him.

Then I would not be as depressed as I am now.