I'm a nice person. I'm just wondering why you feel the need to drop hints that you like girls in nearly every thread you post in. Is it from lack of attention? If it is I don't think you need to resort to getting it from having a bunch of losers jeer at you on a message board. Just trying to be helpful.
Honestly? Cause I feel like I can't be myself in front of my family. Thanks Dr. Phil, I feel better now.
Be yourself for the sake of you, not for anyone else. Your relationships will suffer because of your unhappiness with a false reality.
Noooo lol My relationships (with my fam) will suffer if I tell them the truth. My boyfriend knows, my friends don't care. The whole unhappiness with a false reality really doesn't apply. It's not like I'm a brooding pot of unhappiness cause I can't share that part of my lifestyle with my family. I don't care for anyone's opinion on me other than my family and close friends. It's the internet, I don't know you people, therefore I don't care. Just as I'm sure others have said things on here that they wouldn't tell anyone in a normal day to day situation. Edit: Talk about derailing. Sorry to the OP.
Well, women notice the attention an attractive woman gets from men. It's natural to assume the perks she will get is from her looks. The competitive nature of the business world just works differently for women. I can't really say if that is petty or b****y. I mean getting screwed out of a deal from a colleague is just as bad or a similar form of warfare...
Lets be real. An attractive man or woman deserves extra perks for his/her good looks. That is the reward for having good karma. Since you were a good person or animal in your previous life, the universe has granted you extra good looks. Remember kids if you are good in this life, maybe you can be Brad Pitt or Mila Kunis in the next life. I've had my share of perks due to my handsome looks. People often times hold the door open for me when I am behind them and even say hello while walking past me in the hall!
Back to the original topic. I don't think I can generalize very much as I've seen workplaces and projects where women get very b****y and also where women work great together. One of the worst bosses I've ever had was a woman but she had a lot of problems that had nothing to do with specifically with being a woman. One of the best bosses I've had was a woman and the last few times I've managed women things have gone very well. To generalize a little I do think women do pay attention to other women's appearence and many will be quick to judge. Also it seems like women are often more into maintaining social clicques than men. Remembering back to high school and college it seems like out of the people I hang out with the women were more concerned about maintaining the social clicque while the men were fine hanging out with new people.
you can see this in all the reality tv shows these days....the women cliques that is. sure, men/women make alliances but i think there's a difference. the main purpose of a clique seems to be to antagonize and tear down anyone who's not in it.
Women drive me freaking nuts. I actually find it easier to make friends with guys. I can occasionally manage an individual friendship with a female, but it's rare with a group. They're catty. They try to impress each other by acting according to what they think is the right script for their lives. There's a lot of subtle competition going on there. They will decide you need a makeover, like "Isabel, let's go out and buy you some cute clothes" or "Isabel, we need to chop off your hair" (eeeek), when maybe you're not into the whole looks thing, and even if you were you would want to have your own choice about how you looked instead of letting your friends decide. They can get jealous of you for having long legs or big "chest melons". (But you can also get jealous of them, for being skinny and petite, or having more of that cute factor. When I was younger I rolled my eyes too much around the cutesy ones and acted like they were pathetic and helpless. I now realize that the guys who are going to like me will like me anyway and I don't need to be jealous of other girls. That doesn't even get you anywhere.) So now I just want us to all get along as human beings, be honest, be our SELVES, and have interests other than getting our nails done (of all the things to spend money on). This usually puts me in the company of guy friends. Now, at work. I'm a teacher, so most of the day I'm the one in charge and not dealing directly with others. (I particularly like college adjunct teaching; you hardly ever see anyone except for your students.) I wouldn't like the whole corporate environment, but I definitely think women would be harder to get along with. They have their cliques and their expectations. My best friend works in an all-female environment and there are some scary stories coming out of that place. Gossip, drama, getting into other people's personal business, not leaving anyone alone, even analyzing what each other is eating for lunch. Do women come on this bbs to get attention? Maybe. If my fellow ladies do that, so what? I'm not going to get all jealous. Because I can't lie. I probably, subconsciously, come here to get attention myself. The male:female ratio here is great. I've never had any sexual interest in women, so can't talk about that (nor add to any fantasies on the part of the guys here), but I have told everybody I have large... well, you know... and everyone seems to have remembered that. I wasn't doing it on purpose, not consciously. Subconsciously, who knows. I want attention, just like all women. The difference is at least I admit it.
I use to manage a salon back in the days with nothing but women workers. Let me tell you something, it was brutal. Never had so much white hairs in my life in such a short time. I thought I was back in 8th grade with all the stuff going on. Workers coming up to me complaining left and right over the stupidest stuff. She moved my lunch over here blah blah blah........ Little kid stuff. Sorry!!
Lung warts, Thelma & Louise, sweatermeat, happiness and a spare, Prisoners of the Playtex Penitentiary. It's not that hard.
