i hate games.... i have this girl telling me to leave her alone and get out of her life and then she updates her myspace with crap saying "i wanna be the girl he's scared to lose, the one where he cant walk away from knowing shes mad at him" And her whole thing is "no drama" yet she freakin loves it. I give her space and then whn i think its time, shes still pissed off and saying leave her alone....i have no choice but to just rape her now to settle things down.
The reason why she backs off is because she doesn't want people to think there IS something there, so she's over-compensating for it by completely ignoring you. Playful touching (hitting, shoving, grabbing of the arm, etc.) is always a tell-tale sign that she feels a connection with you. Women are huge on body signals, and the ones she's giving you scream that there is some sexual tension there. It's harmless right now, and I would take it for what it is.....now if you feel like you two would really get along well OUTSIDE of the workplace, then maybe it's worth pursuing. Otherwise, just enjoy the attention, and have fun with it.
I came very close to going out with her when I first met her. She let me know where she was going kinding of just dropped it on me and I asked her if I could come along and she agreed. Well it never panned out and she ended up calling it off. Shortly afterwards she gave me all these long speeches about not dating people we work with. We often eat together when she isn't giving me the silent treatment. "Well its pretty obvious that the week she goes w/o talking to u is her way of being in denial for the feelings she has for you." It's strange but I feel a connection to her that's hard to explain and I agree the times she's off on her own is just proving to herself she doesn't need me. I've decided to have fun with it and take things in stride and not get to serious about her.
Sounds like you are doing the right thing. There's no way to really know with 100% certainty what's going on in her mind. I would say that if she feels it strong enough she'll eventually be more overt with her signals. Right now because she's giving you the hot and cold treatment you have an excuse for why you never made a move on her, should she ask in a rejected kind of tone. Just have fun, since you do seem to have that with her.
the last time i had that sort of relationship at work i ended up nailing her on the couch in my office
Women, not all, but most, don't know wtf they want...guys do, they just want to get laid...I'm just being honest... I agree she's in denial about her feelings...I have no real advice other than hit it... I'm kind of talking to this one girl and one minute, there is a connection, we talk about hanging out, and then the next day, absolutely nothing...I'm reserved to the fact woman are nucking futs, which she sounds like...
I had something like this sorta... We would go get snow cones once a week on lunch, she always said she was going to throw hers on me. Well, one day she did. She was like "Ill take you to your apartment so you can change." She then followed me to my room, and you can imagine what happened next. Never got serious though.
Buy her a riding crop for valentine's day, be submissive and call her mistress, then prepare to be her b****. Sounds like you might be into it.
Let me put this in basketball terms. You are the backup point guard. You think you can start but she’s just holding onto you because you’re the serviceable backup. Sure, you get in the game but you’re not in there to score. It seems like you’ve been there a while, so you’re a vet. She knows what you’re about, atleast she thinks she does. You can a) wait for your number to be called if the starters get moved or you can b) sign with another team and hope your game speaks for itself, making her pine for you as her starter. In short, she’s just not that into you.
Stay away. That happened to me once and it lasted 20 years. I have a rule. Don't date women at work PERIOD! However, if she thinks that she can whip you then I might consider challenging her. Tell her that you were the 6th grade champ in thumps. She might back off. If she doesn't then she will see that you are acting like a complete weirdo and kick you in the nads. Of which you might enjoy. win-win
