Actually I think a law to make a prenup mandatory in a marriage contract is a good idea. It can get rid of the bad vibes surrounding doing a prenup and make it more common place. Don't you all think it is odd to have a contract that involves the income of two persons with a predefined exit clause? Why shouldn't the party to the contract to have hammered out the exit clause because they sign it?
sacrificed? how do you know she sacrificed? maybe she always wanted to he a stay at home mom married to a rich man. im curious if they had a nanny and/or a maid. my sis always wanted to be a home mom and thats what she is, to a very well off man. Saying she 'sacrificed' if they ever got divorced would be comical.
Then it isn't a sacrifice but more like a personal career choice. We can pay for maids, cooks, dry cleaners, house sitters, psychiatrists and for sex. If you want that in a wife, then it really isn't hard to find at least 2 of the qualities. I hope one already knows that a prospective wife is lazy. Thinking that she'll change to fit all your needs isn't bait n switch, but rather a delusion.
Yeah it is more like a personal choice. But sacrifice is also a type of personal choices. For some people, it can be a sacrifice. For others, it might not. But in this case, since it mentioned that the wife always wanted to have her own career, I think using "sacrifice" to describe it is ok. To further developing my conclusion, I would ask: why do you allow your wife to make such a choice knowing that by doing so, it will be very disadvantageous to yourself when you two divorce? If your wife makes such a choice right after marriage and you don't like it, you should just divorce her there. Then you won't owe her much at divorce. If you choose to accept it and let her stay home, then you get the consequence of your choice. It is as simple as that. I don't see anyone is at fault or anything that is unfair.
My question is, men make the laws in this country, men enforce the laws in this country, men judge to determine how laws should be interpreted in this country. And they still get screwed over in divorce cases?
Married for 29 years. Lived together, off and on, for 4 years before that. Middle aged and still have sex multiple times a week. Two kids who are brilliant. Deeply in love. Yes, marriage sucks.
20...and a lot more mature than you. please don't give me the sermon again about how naive/stupid i am about relationships. i really don't care.
Why is it that I always hear men complaining about the most trivial bull****? It reminds me of that sarcastic line on Friends, "My wallet is to small to hold all my fifties and my diamond shoes are too tight." Some of you guys who whine about women sound more like little girls than grown men. Grow a dick.
I'm sorry. You're 20. My bad... I know you think you're more mature than myself. Most 20 yr. olds think a lot of things. Here's one thing that you'll never surpass me on: Experience. I knew quite a few "good" marriages in my 20's, also. As far as sermons? Spare me. You're in your first relationship. As most people will tell you, your first love is easily one of your strongest. Not saying it won't work out, either. But I will say you are not one to talk about relationships.
False. She will begin catching up as soon as you keel over, likely due to either liver or cholesterol problems, and from there it's just a matter of how long she can stay alive.
I do, without question, but I also complain about men, kids, adults, single people, married couples...all of it. I just don't aim my anger and frustration at a single gender because they hurt me. Boo hoo. I'm divorced and if ANYONE has reason to complain about being hurt by it, it's me. But, I'm not so petty that I'm going to hold a grudge against any PERSON let alone her entire gender. That makes zero sense to me. And Fatty, c'mon. You claim experience, yet you post in here all the time about the same issues and admit to being bitter about things that happened to you years ago. Doesn't sound like your experience has helped you a whole lot. You may be older than finalsbound, but you don't generally act like it.
Touche'. But I also know literally dozens of married couples. As hell-bent about marriage as y'all may think I am, I sadly, still would love to get the heart-pangs I once did, and I'm not averse to experiencing it again. But I am not a "clinger." ie. someone who has to have to have companionship regardless. I have a fantastic group of friends that I've known for 20 years. FWIW, (and this will seem out of character for me) my friends girlfriend treated me exceptionally a few weeks ago, so I told her I owed her dinner. Before the Rockets game, not only did I spend 4 hours in the kitchen making Moussaka, but, because my boy's girl requested it, I had my mom bake 18 cupcakes for her. (and by that, I simply asked if my mom minded, which she didn't.. Remember, she had an aneurysm in March of last year. We just celbrated her birthday yesterday.) If anyone ever wants to meet an incredible woman, who is the daughter of the woman who introduced montessori school to Texas, let me know. (and, yes, my mom loathes my attitude towards women, but also realizes it has nothing to do with upbringing. In fact, I had my mom tearing laughing today by calling my own son a moron. I'm a conundrum.) And Jeff, be honest: You're roughly my age: Percentage-wise, how many good marriages would you know about? We, sadly, live in a different age than our parents. And I've not only dealt with it personally, but I've noticed the majority of people I know fail, as well. And before you judge that line, realize that I had roughly 100 friends at Bellaire. Combine that with the other 50 friends I met at Tech. I'm not a genius anymore, but I'm not stupid, either. To any man: Be patient. Don't fall for the girl who makes eye contact with you. Attractiveness is always important, but these are THE two things to look for in a woman: #1: Personality. They will lose their shape. Be sure that you enjoy their company. #2: Confidence. I cannot stress this trait enough. If the woman doesn't have it, she will cheat on you. I'm getting off my soapbox now. Sorry Jeff.
