Why get Married?

My parents have been married for 31 years and counting. Sure they've had their ups and downs but I cant possibly see myself not getting married eventually. I've seen way too many good things growing up to know that in my mind marriage can work and can be a wonderful thing.

Of course I'm no life'ing it on the campaign trail now and plan on joining the peace corps soon so who knows when I'm ever getting married.

 

If you can find someone whos **** you dont mind putting up with for the rest of your life then yeh get married.

 

i think with any relationship, you gotta keep an open mind, otherwise you'll always be single haha

I think when its the right person, there will be no doubts and confusion. When you're ready to commit to someone its because you're ready to be with only them. When all the cheezy love songs finally begin to make sense..thats when you'll know. so don't be skurrrred of marriage LOL

 

Interesting thread for me to read, I got engaged about 3 weeks ago, so I enjoy reading the married peoples responses.

I've always planned on getting married some day, and I can't imagine living my life never wanting to get married to that special someone. However, I can't wait for all the wedding planning to be over with.

 

I remember when I told my folks I was getting married, my stepdad looked me in the eye and said "moestavern19 you're a ****ing moron! You can't get married, you can't even take a crap without b****ing about how uncomfortable it was being removed from your colon. You've got nothing to offer, you neurotic pansy-ass candy-ass chicken-lipped, pidgeon-toed, green-horned tub of guts!"

But he's a racist so **** him.

 

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I've been married 13 years and feel the same way. As Jerry Maquire would say "You complete me"

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I think marriages get in trouble these days because every one just believes it's "Happy Ever After" once you slip on the rings. It takes work on both parties to make it work and keep it "happy".

So, I'd say, if you have ANY qualms what-so-ever about putting in the effort, being completely considerate towards another person with your life as a whole, and being humble enough to, not only know when you are wrong, but to keep improving yourself for your partner's and your "team's" sake; then you shouldn't get married.

 

I like marriage so much that I did it twice...with the same person.

I think a lot of people's views on marriage stems from the kind of relationship their parents had. Mine have been together for over 30 years, and I always knew that growing up marriage was something I wanted to do. I know a lot of people think it's just an unnecessary label, and I can see their point. But personally I just feel like it's the ultimate commitment and statement of your love, and if you feel it then go for it. If you don't, don't. It's not easy by any stretch of the imagination, and if I've learned anything it's that you shouldn't even consider marriage unless you are absolutely sure it's what you want. Couples that just get married without ever really considering what level of commitment it requires and just do it because "it's the next logical step" are doomed for failure. I know firsthand how difficult it is to be honest with yourself about that.

 

everyone who gets married says that about their spouse though. I've nothing against marriage. If you (general "you") think that marriage will make you happy more power to you. But I've experienced the **** storm that my parents went through after 25 years and divorce. Then there are the numerous accounts of my friends' failed marriages (lots of stories of cheating). It jsut makes me think, "damn, that's what i have to look forward to?"

 

Greatest thing I ever did was to get married. Here's a pic of me, my beautiful bride, and my lovely new Mother-in-law:

Spoiler

 

I think so. Isn't a pre-nup the same thing as saying "I love you, but.....", or "I love you, but you are not worth putting all my chips on the table."?

 

Or "I love you but...I know how easy it is as a man to be fooled by a dirty skank into thinking she is a nice innocent beautiful angel only to find her taking it dirty from the neighbor in 4 years."

 

Since when did love have anything to do with money/property/assets?

Keep those out of it.

 

Well, I agree with that kind of pre-nup. I stand corrected.

 

Men can say that title of marriage doesn't matter, i.e. if two people know they love each other and want to be together then the actually marriage certificate doesn't matter one way or the other. I'm sure you'll find a decent percentage of men who'd say something similar.

However, women do not feel that way. You are not going to find any woman that feels like marriage is unnecessary. It is a huge deal to most women. So since men don't really care either way but their partners are absolutely set on doing it, men will just go ahead and respect womens' wishes and go through with it.

 

Simple. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. I wanted to stand before family and God and express my love and devotion to her; that I would not leave no matter how hard times get.

I've never been about the casual relationship...as strange it may sound coming from a guy. But that's the truth. I've always wanted something more, something deep. And I proudly wear my ring as a symbol of our unity.

 

agreed...I think if you find a women who doesn't want to get married (a recently divorced one), you can have fun for a while, however, then the above list comes into play...

Having been divorced, the first couple of years I was of the mind set of "I'll never ever ever get married"...As time went on and the constant replay of the dating game, I think I could be content committing to someone, maybe even marriage...

it's soo tough find someone who'll put up with your crap...