Why don't I have any friends?

I feel your pain about not socializing. I'm the same, I don't have any friends, friends don't exist, period.

Of course unless we're talking about family, that's another story
But don't blame somebody on the Internet for that, nobody cares but you.

Nobody cares about my problems also except me so I keep them for myself but it's very important not to talk to everyone or anybody for that matter.

I don't even know why I responded to this, prolly cause I found myself in few sentences.

 

I need friends too. Let's get stoned and discuss the meaning of life.

 

Good luck with socializing.

Yep I have the blog but it's for basketball purposes, not for socializing. It's about basketball, Houston Rockets.

 

You don't want friends.

What you want is to be entertained. You don't want to be bored. It may not be obvious to you but in the OP you pretty much say that the comfort most people find in personal interactions with others is not all that appealing to you. You want someone to play ball with. You want someone who enjoys all the same things you do. You will not find that unless you concede some of your precious time doing some things you do not enjoy...but you already said that's out of the question.

You want acquaintances. Some people call them friends but they really aren't. People you know but you just hang out with them for specific things. It's pretty easy to find a couple people who enjoy one or two of the things you enjoy.

I have two real friends and that's only because we've known each other for a long time.

 

tha truf about ronny he's a sweet ol boy about the sweetest lil boy in the whole wide world he'll make the toughest homeboy fall deep in luv see once u had a ronny u will never give him up he's a special kinda boy that makes his daddy feel proud ya know the kinda boy that stands out in crowds found a tender ronny and the ronny is so right i think moes gonna luv him for the rest of his lifes

 

I think you need to focus less on "what I want" and invest a little more in other people.

The answer to many of your questions is actually yes, and that might surprise you. You SHOULD become interested in what other people like and what they talk about. You should be interested in their inside jokes and what they find funny. You should be interested in what they are interested in. That's the only way you're going to make friends.

If all you're interested in is people who look like you and talk like you and think like you do, you're going to be a lonely human being for the rest of your life and you will die forgotten.

 

I am with you. I don't like faking interest. I also don't really care to get along with men, I have plenty of guy friends I don't need more. I stay away from a lot of mixers and networking opps because I simply do not care about what those people have to say. So why should I go? To network? To gain something? To use them? I don't think so. I try and cut out the BS.

So the solution isn't to fake interests but instead to always be nice. Be the nice, warm, easy to approach guy. Try to get others to have fun, offer drinks, to help, etc...

Be nice, don't feign interest.

 

this might be part of the problem...

I can only suggest you try more true introspection.. and be less extrospective.. especially when contemplating people and yourself.. this can only be achieved when looking free of ego.. free of misplaced arrogance and "pride".. and most definitely.. free of fleeting bias.. self-conscious or otherwise..

you haven't earned the time to look at others.. when you've clearly invested so little in looking at yourself..

you seem to show signs of faulty judgement.. revolving around complacent misconceptions.. with an eagerness to self-satisfy and self-victimize all at the same time.. you're quick to dismiss others for not matching a certain set of personal ideals.. while the very person behind those ideals isn't all too sure of where it stands in the world itself.. to be rigid with such shaky ideals.. is pointless.. counterproductive to your intended "goal".. as they're not well-founded or well understood in their inception.. and so you're just sacrificing potential friendships for no cause, purpose, or any damn good reason.. simply squandering mindlessly..

so, first strip yourself of any and all self-delusions.. and superfical self-awareness.. that you are apparently lending sufficient import to, to deprive yourself of what you actually want.. detangle yourself from these all too tangling aids of confusion.. before you continue to rush into the social world that is the human existence, deciding so erratically what's what, and who's who...and how so little of it suits you..

 

Is that considered cursing?

Didn't you call his wife fat at one time? Just saying...

...playing along with thread also...

And the OP sounds like he lifted the synopsis of I Love You, Man...

 

The OP is the biggest attention ho I've seen in a while around here.

It's not just this thread but pretty much all his recent ones.

 

Trust me, you don't want any of him. He'd give you a beat down

 

I don't think he's being an attention, but I may just be saying this cause I can relate to him to some degree.

Hey OP, what would you do if you didn't have your fiancee, would that change things at all?

 

This explains why the word grabbing was capitalized.