Why do you rarely see mixed couples where the guy is of Asian descent?

Can't wait to go back. Neither can my wife. She was the majority there... I was the one getting the funny looks.

 

bnb, I'm not trying to be racist. You can't handle what I'm posting. No doubt there are beautiful women of every race. I would be an idiot to think otherwise. My hypothesis is based on talking to friends of all races except Latino and American Indian (sorry I don't know any that well). I put that in there to let everyone know I'm not pulling my hypothesis out my ass. If you think my hypothesis is wrong, make it on the grounds my friends opinions don't reflect the general population. I would like to do this survey cause I think it would. We could break it down by race so every race has a chance to be represented equally.

About Asian men, I have no idea. I'm Asian. That was based on not seeing many Asian men/other race women couples. Do Asian men prefer to date within their race or do women of other races not find them attractive?

 

SJC,

Here is a pretty good article that goes into some of the questions you have been asking regarding interracial relationships.

Whitebread,

You might say that, but you are wrong (as far as influence, not "bulk of the club scene).

Smokey,

I am sure your premise is pretty accurate and I owe it to socialization and history (look at stereotypes for black women over history and the only sexual one is that of willing rape victim/animalistic, not really ideal associations for relationships).

Me, personally, I put black women in my top three with Asian (and I mean all, not just East) and hispanic.

 

1. You are not logical
2. I don't reference your "posts" enough to do anything repeatedly
3. YOU said I referred to hip-hop clubs, with NO mention of Khans post.
4. For you "dumbing down your posts" would be redundant.

Ding, Ding, we have a winner....

 

SJC, its a shame that your thread had to get so severly derailed. It was coming along nicely for the first couple of pages..

/ugly confession time

I am gonna hate to admit this, but a couple of years ago, at work I only had a TV that would get KRIV, and at 11 in the am the Jenny Jones show used to come on...and i know for a fact that more than once they had shows where I saw entire audiences of black women getting mad at white women for dating/marrying black men.

So, it appears to me to be a valid point..but since I dont know more than 5 black women closely enough to discuss this kind of thing with...i cant give you a reason for why.
That will have to be left to men in a better position to know.

I do find it weird that I was wondering about just this same question not a week ago, but didnt have the cajones to start a race thread to find out why.

and for what it's worth...
I have dated an Asian girl, two black girls, and several Hispanic girls in my lifetime...but if I were to try to now...I would be in the same boat AB describes...


and, as a final note...

if you think hip hop is the only genre of music influenced by/ directly attributed to blacks...then you dont know diddly bout music.
Jazz, Blues, Rock...just to name three

T_J, stick to subjects you actually know something about. Cause your knowledge of music is non-existent.

 

wow! great article!

 

Yeah, The Atlantic always has good articles (and they have had a few about iterracial relationships), which is why I am a subscriber. Glad you like it Lil and SJC.

 

Thanks for the article, Rimbaud. A good read.

 

I'm not saying you're hypothesis is wrong (though I am highly skeptical of it), but personal experience and opinion are hardly examples of a random sample from which to draw statistcal analysis. You cannot draw concrete conlusions just because you have met a person or two from every race.

Also, I think it greatly depends on what percentage each race is of the population that you are intending to sample. I am of the belief that a person of a particular race will on the average have a natural inclination toward another of the same race. So if of your sample blacks are only, say, the 5th most populous, it would stand to reason that they wouldn't be in the top 3 of your rankings.

 

The Atlantic kicks the asses of Harper's and the New Yorker.

 

I got to this thread late, but let me just say that after going out clubbing in NYC roughly 900 total nites to all kinds of venues, I have never really experienced any problems with any particular race at all. Sure there are certain places where predominantly blacks or latinos or asians or whites or persians or what have you will hang out on any given night. But people have been generally inviting and if not, they keep to themselves and don't really try and prevent interracial mixing. I have gone up to chicks of all kinds of races even while they're with a group of their own race and have never had any guys from said racial groups even throw a dirty look my way.

So I gotta say, a lot of these observations I am reading about in this thread kind of puzzle me. Maybe the rest of the world is a little behind NYC in the evolution of civilization.

And as far as the thread title, I do see quite a few couples here with the guy being Asian and chick Caucasian, but prob not as often as vice versa. I would guess this is because there is likely across the board general familial pressure not to marry outside your race, but men are generally given more leeway and liberty than women are from the same family/culture.

Also, I love the black people in my movie theatres!

 

Now that I think of it, I didn't really explain this very clearly. Saying that there is familial and peer pressure not to date/marry outside your culture is prob more accurate. Meaning if a caucasian dude were to date a chick from Japan, for instance, I think he would have a little more leeway from his family and friends to do so than a caucasian chick would have to date a dude from Japan. That goes for the family/friends of the person coming from Japan as well - I think they would give the guy less trouble than the girl over it all.

But if the couple includes an Asian-American and not someone who just came from Asia, then I don't really know why you would see less of the mixed couples having an Asian male.

Oh well, it still may not be that clear, but at least I've tried my darnedest.

 

Some more things to consider:
1. The supposed "Asian Invasion" hasn't had an effect on Rich's -- a gay bar downtown.
2. There are many Asian guy/non-Asian couples on the coasts -- LA, NY, SF.

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To answer the orginal poster's question: Asian guys are (1) less/not represented in the media and (2) tend to be less concerned with outer appearances.

Things are starting to change, of course -- more people are finding Asian guys attractive and people are becoming more fashion-conscious. If anything, with everything so homogenized, it might be nice to have qualities/features that set you apart. Now, how can you set yourself apart from the rest of the Asian/Asian American community?

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On a different note...sometimes, it's nice to know that you can be attracted to someone for something other than their looks.


University (Fine Grain of Rice) Blue

 

asian gangstas. baggy pants indians. trashy latin people. why did you leave out your thoughts on black people??

i find it ironic that you make any comments about minorities, considering that most probably whenever you go to one of those 'white clubs' that you like, some of the patrons must be making similar ignorant comments about you. lets be real, who wants to party with osama bin ladin???