Wow. Thats all I've got to say for now. PS. Isabel, what does your Husband think about your frequent visits to this forum? I am married too and I am not sure how I would react if I was in his shoes. Also how much help do you think the guys around here could be to you? Or are just letting of steam with this thread? Just a candid exploratory question. I have so many questions and I don't even know where to begin. Best wishes to you and your husband. My prayer and hope is that all works out well for both of you. I truly believe I have the greatest wife in the world but I still realize that I have to treat her even better. When I saw this thread, I asked her a candid question and the answer she gave saddened me. Anyway take care of yourself and never stop seeking for the "truth" and the "answer".
I saw that show! It was on international channel. Those "flying" girls on wires right before were pretty cool. The dancing robots number was amazingly over-the-top. Maybe I should send Isabel the tape. It doesn't get any better than that that new-year scoll "celebrity" competiton! There's your pick-me-up, girlie. Dancing chickens for you.
I've noticed on many internet forums and boards that people feel comfortable talking about extremely personal issues. I think part of the appeal is the anonymity of the Internet. Its like talking about a personal problem by saying, "Well I have this friend.." The flip side is because of the anonymity and openness you might not get the best advice. Since we're largely anonymous its easier for someone to say "All women are whores!" when they would never do something like that to your face. OTOH you can get very sincere advice that is totally useless, or harmful, from people who are unqualified to give such advice. I think there are some huge benefits to getting support from an online community like Clutchfans but like most things its buyer beware. If Isabel feels comfortable with looking for personal advice and feels she knows the posters here well enough to discern the ridiculous from the meaningful I don't see any harm in her looking for advice here and I'm happy to help her out as I can.
Since my Mandarin is poor I didn't get much of the celebrity scroll competition or a bunch of the humor bits. My favorites were the live 1000 armed Guan Ying dance and the martial arts and gymnastic pieces. That kid who could do a standing split and put his foot behind his head while balancing on someones head was amazing plus the gymnast who would balance people on each others shoulders three people high and then toss each other to the next shoulder were incredible too. I would like to see that last group enter a US cheerleader competion because while they might not know they hip hop moves they would clean the house on talent and difficulty of act. The one complaint I have is why did they just have Jackie Chan sing during the martial arts pieces instead of doing something? The guy doesn't have a bad voice but who goes to a Jackie Chan movie to hear him sing. Also what was the deal with guys dressed like gay cowboys during the dance of Chinese minority groups? I can believe that there is an ethnic minority in China that might wear chaps and cowboy hats but I have a heard time believing they're mostly skinny guys into hip thrusting and wear that many spangles.
Probably the same thing your wife thinks about your frequent visits to the forum. (sorry, couldn't let that one slip by ) Don't worry, I would never make a life-changing decision based on a bunch of people on the Internet. I take everything with a grain of salt (besides, I'm naturally rebellious and don't do what I'm told too often). But it's great to see all the support. Things have been up and down in the last two days. (not to mention the last 10 years) It gets tiring, but I know I'm not perfect either and I will try to keep things going, for his sake and the sake of all our history together (shared hopes, dreams, experiences, and similar tastes in a lot of stuff)... unless/until I get to the point where I just can't deal with it. He is a human being after all. As for "insensitivity", as an example, there were three guys who irritated me Monday, and he was only one of them. The others - not for relationship reasons, just being generally clueless, giving mixed signals, making me feel bad (probably not intentionally), being rude. I started to wonder if it was just something to do with the Y chromosome. Glad to hear this thread has made people think better about how they treat their wives. If it helps even one of your relationships, then it will have been worth it. (oh, and a thought for the day: if your wife comes home tired, is only going to get 3 hours sleep, and doesn't want to do the thing she said she would do with you... put your "snake in its cage" and try not to get too upset. Is it too much to ask to a) express sympathy and concern because she feels bad, and b) try to help her with some of that work?)
It actually made me realize that my wife isnt a pain in the ass. She just likes to shop alot and this is really the only thing that bothers me.
I'm sure she'll find it comforting that you realized she isn't a pain in the ass from and internet bulletin board. Ahh, love.
Yeah...after hearing the whining..... I did leave off my smiley...damnit! Hey Jeff, Im gonna send you an email in a little bit.
Snake in his cage... Now that's a new one. And on the men's part for the women. When your male significant other is being sulky don't try to make him pour out his soul to you. A lot of time we men just like to be alone, or with an Xbox, motorcycle, punching bag and etc.., with our pain.
Almost the exact opposite happens to me. I tell my gf that we will do something later when I get home and I end up having to stay late or it is a hectic ass day and I have to go back to work the next day. I come home, say I dont feel good and she needs to put her "snake in its cage". She goes balistic
If you know the person well enough, can't you usually tell they've had a horrible day and adjust accordingly?
I'm not sure that is a totally fair assumption to make. Even if you know someone intimately, you can't read minds. You can't know that what they are upset about doesn't involve you personally or isn't about something completely unrelated. I think that it is fair to try and gauge the situation and THEN back off or try to help. There is often the sense from men and women that their partners should KNOW them and understand. But, sometimes it is hard to know exactly what is going on without some degree of inquiry.
