Unless you and your friend have the best women skills around, you're doing it wrong. Get the girl's # on the spot, call her # there, have a fake funny convo for a few seconds, then call her later. Women are not supposed to call men. Also, if a girl gives you a fake #, you should not have asked for it in the first place so you did something wrong.
If I could afford it I would definately travel more. Did I mention how friendly the girls were in Ireland? I had heard of getting fake numbers before but I don't recall ever getting one. At the same time I've never given one out. Not being much of a Cassanova on the rare occasions where I have had to fend off a woman trying to hit on me that I'm not interested in I've just let them know I'm not interested.
The last few times I've gotten a number we've just called each others cell phones right there and that seems like the way to do it. My friend is more tech savy than me so he probably should've known to do that but he is somewhat shy and maybe thought it would be too presumptious to call right away. I wasn't there when he got the number so I don't know exactly how he asked for it or if she just gave it to him to get out of talking to him. As far as giving a girl your number that's not always a bad idea. From habit I will often hand out business cards even in social situations and a couple of times have had women contact me when I hadn't asked for their contact info.
Yup. About the Hooter's girls though. Some of them are a bit...... crazy. So I completely understand why dude may not have given his number to one of them. Unless you think regardless of how crazy she is, "She works at Hooters, so all that doesn't matter". Heh
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I was dating before the age of cell phones but I gave out fake numbers often enough. I did this if a guy stopped me on the street in his attempt to pick me up. I can commend the forwardness but at the same time that kind of guy is clearly too persistant to accept a simple, "not interested." Generally guys would ask for my number if they didn't already know me or a friend of mine well enough to already have it. Honestly, if a girl is attractive enough to you that when you first meet her you want her number then she probably isn't desperate enough to call you if you give her your number. And if you don't know her well enough to know you'll run into her again or that she is interested, give up. Or wait until you know her better. Unless you don't particularly mind a lot of rejection. As to whether or not girls will call guys, yes! When I met guys I was interested in I pursued them. But somehow the category of guys who gave out their numbers and guys I was interested in didn't overlap. What I mean by that is that I personally wasn't interested in guys who were so obviously interested. But lately I'm developing a Jane Austin philosophy concerning many single female friends. It goes something like this, if a woman is very much influenced by that sort of romantic ideal she will want to be noticed from afar and pursued in some incredibly gentlemanly way. From my observation this does not actually pan out very often because the woman will want to give every signal that she is not interested and still manage to get the guy in the end. And when guys do ask them out it is never the Darcy type so they keep waiting. But if you are a Mr. Darcy type there are quite a lot of single women out there desperate for you to pursue them. On the flip side, somehow these don't seem to be what most single men are looking for. JV suggests that if a guy meets a girl he thinks is hot and asks for her number right off then he's looking for a bathroom wall experience. The answer to that dillema is fairly simple. You don't call someone for that, skip the number thing and go find a bathroom wall. After all, if she's up for that she's looking for someone for that evening not for later. Probably most women fall somewhere in between the two scenarios and I would hope most guys are do as well. In that case, back to my original advice. If you are intersted in her, find a context to get to know her better and get a better guage of her interest before asking for her number.
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It's path of least resistance. They don't want to the guy to be persistent after the first or second rejection so they give out the fake digits.
I've never had a girl give me a fake number. I have however given a girl the Rejection Hotline number before.
I was there when a girl gave my friend her number and then left. I took a look at the number and knew it was fake. It took him a minute to realize why I was laughing. The number? 867-5309.
I never had a girl give me a fake number. It was probably because I never asked "can I have your number" right away like you dudes do nowadays. Basically, if you get rejected for a dance, a drink, a walk, or a study buddy time, you know how she will respond if you ask for a number by the way she rejects you or accepts you the first time. If you're both having a good time, and you can see she digs you or she has no problem going "further" with you than what you're doing now, asking for the number should not be on your priority list. I HAVE, however, gotten rejected for a dance. Why dudes now ask for girls' digits from the get go without even talking to a lady before asking for it is beyond my understanding.
That's what I suspect. In this particular case from what I know of my friend he's not the type to be persistent and his bigger problem is working up the nerve to talk to girls. Part of this has to do with how and where you meet the opposite sex. I work for a small business with the office in my house, I coach a sport that is overwhelmingly male, and while I play in a band we don't play a regular venue so if I'm meeting women at a gig its usually the first and likely only time unless we exchange contact info. For my friend he works in IT and at someplace with almost no single women. He's also a geek who likes to role play, unfortunately not the sexy kind. Generally bars are the place where we will meet women. As for a lot of rejection I can say from personal experience that is the case but that is the case with trying to date in any situation. Sometimes its better to just get it over with meeting someone at a bar who you probably aren't going to see again than getting worked up over a period of time with someone you see regularly and then having to deal with the awkwardness of still having to deal with them after the rejection. So I guess there is some truth to playing hard to get from the male side. The one thing I have learned is that desperation is never good and if a guy handing out his number seems desperate then I can see how that wouldn't work. I've handed out my contact info and it has worked a couple of times where the woman contacted me so I guess there are times it works. This is very ironic in regard to my friend who got the fake number. He considers himself a romantic and had been a in a situation where he was wooing a girl in what could be considered an old fashioned gentlemanly way for months. She ended up dating some guy she met in a bar. My own view is different. In general I'm not going to woo a woman if she doesn't show much interest and will move on. I try to be a gentleman but my opinion is if I like you and you like me why bother with playing that sort of game. Yes there is a lot of truth to what Mr. Valdez says but not always. As I noted earlier for a lot of people the only place they get to interact with the opposite gender is at a bar or someplace where you won't see them again. If you are interested in them why not ask for their number since you might not see them again. I've learned from personal experience that exchanging number doesn't and shouldn't necessarily mean you're jumping in the sack right away but that you would like to see the other person again.
