I don't care if they don't cook or clean- That's basically what i grew up around with my Mexican mother(youngest of 14 siblings-never had to do anything). The bush thing, i'm not sure. Hair grosses me out. But, the good thing is hair can easily be removed so it's not something that serious.
Where are you SacTown? I seek your guidance. I seek the means to fight injustice, to turn fear against those who prey on the fearful.
interesting. I've always found that Mexican women are among the best at adhering to proper gender roles. I like many things about the Mexican culture.
A person's role in their family during childhood (provider, manager, entertainer, protector, black sheep, etc.) has much more to do with their family roles as adults than culture or anything else does.
Bro, I met my wife while working in Ukraine. Look for expat jobs in major cities and look into starting your own online business where you can travel and work from anywhere.
Well all my aunts do nothing but cook and clean. Even if my cousins or uncles just want something like a soup, my aunt immediately takes off to the grocery store, buys everything she needs and comes home and makes it for him. It's no wonder all of my male cousins with healthy diets and lots of protein grew up to be no shorter than 6ft. Me and my bro who grew up on raman noodles and cereal nearly every meal are both 5'8. The only meals she made and still makes since i was a kid- 1)spaghetti with hot dog wieners in it or ground beef. 2)rice with ground beef and veggies all mixed in one bowl. 3) Different types soups. If she didn't feel like making anything- the whole family eats fast food dollar menu. Today i would say jack-n-the box/pizza hut/mcdonalds/panda bear is nearly 50% of their diet every week. They love it when those fast food coupons come in with buy 1 get 1 free deals.
I don't know what i'm supposed to do. I don't even know who i am. I've been depressed most of my adult life. I get fatter every year. All my friends want to do is get drunk, hit on girls(fail) and then eat junk food. The ones that have settled down did just that. Settle...for the first girl that accepted their terrible advances. I don't know where i belong. Just know i've never felt at home here. There is one thing that holds me back from leaving and has brought me back when i left to other cities. I don't know how to leave it behind.
Spoiler sister. In a non politically correct way- she has mental r****dation. My family is poor. I'm the only one left to be here and help with her. It's very difficult. Each time i left, they begged me to come back b/c they needed help with her.
Well, I can tell you one thing, you are miles ahead of your loser friends because you want a change in your life - you have already taken the first step. If you listen to my advice, you will be miles ahead of most people in about 1 year. You don't have any debt really, you aren't stuck here with kids and a marriage, you aren't imprisoned by a mortgage. You are free. You are free to do this. Getting in shape is easy. Eliminate those loser friends, stop drinking beer and hitting on chicks right now because that isn't your focus at the moment. That will come later. Research "Clear Intention" you need to know exactly what you want right now and clearly take the steps to get there. You know how to eat better, start doing it, you know how to work out and you know how to run so do it. It will take time, but in 6 months you'll be in good shape if you stick with it. If you are unclear then follow this bulletproof diet, it works and it's easy: http://www.bulletproofexec.com/ Now, what if I told you that you could get an apartment in Thailand for $400 per month and live like a king? There is a city, it's a hidden gem called Chiang Mai. You can live there COMFORTABLY for $900 per month. You can eat the best food, drink, go to awesome bars, clubs, coffee shops, and you can have your fill of women. You can learn Muay Thai and stay in shape that way, you can take weekend trips to Bangkok if you really want to party. It's a big expat and tourist place - there will be women from everywhere. But, you need money to get there and you need a business to run while you are there. Let's say you have a decent internet business that pulls in 2k profit per month. You live on $900 and you have $1100 each month left over. Sounds good? Well 2k is small time, and ANYONE can do that. Anyone that tries. Do you really want to spend 4 years in college on an undecided major, end up majoring in finance, business, or marketing and join the growing pool of college grads without a job? Do you want to sit on monster.com all day and email your resume out to 100s of cubicle jobs and then go to an interview, get dressed up, and literally beg some ******* to pay you 40k per year? That sounds like a nightmare to me. An absolute nightmare. Do you want to get a decent 1 bedroom apartment in Houston for $1400 per month and get locked into a year lease? That's another form of prison bro. You are not a caged animal. You are a man, a free man who makes his own decisions for his life. You control your own destiny, not these corporate assholes or these social norms that everyone just falls into like zombies. You have clear intention and you go after what you desire. OK here's the problem. You don't have a business, you don't have money and you probably aren't very internet savy right now. But, in the next 6 months while you are working out, eating healthy, and saving money you will be learning. You won't be studying some undecided major, algebra, or some other dumb bull**** college courses, you'll be studying internet marketing. You'll be learning wordpress, you'll understand hosting accounts, servers, domain names, and you'll learn to use the google keyword traffic tool, you'll learn copywriting, you'll learn PPC advertising, facebook advertising, CPA networks, and dropshipping. I'm going to give you a few places to start. These are very basics, but you need to learn the basics right now. 1. I'm going to send you to the adsense flippers first. I know Justin and Joe personally. They are good guys and they are very honest. They live in the Philipinnes which is another place for you to go if you decide against Thailand. Read everything on this site and absorb it, they eve post their monthly income reports so that you can see what they are making. Very open and transparent guys. http://adsenseflippers.com/ 2. Read Cody Mckibben's site. Last time I talked to him, he was in Thailand making 10k+ per month on his laptop while sitting on the beach drinking water out of a coconut. Very good stuff here and it will put you to the right direction. http://www.thrillingheroics.com/ 3. Once you have absorbed those two things, I want you to research dropshipping. For you, personally I think this is the best path forward. I think you should follow the adsense flipper model to get started and get some income flowing, but then you should transition into dropshipping. What is dropshipping? You build a niche ecommerce website and sell products which are shipped by a supplier. Once you understand it, it's easy and it's gravy. This is the way to go for you. The internet marketing movement in general is saturated with wannabe guys spamming and hacking there way around, so I don't really recommend it to newbies. Check flippa.com and look at all of the dropshipping sites on sale. They usually sell for 10x the monthly profit, so if you could find one that's already making 1k per month and buy it for 10k then you'd be profitable after 10 months time assuming you didn't improve it. Also you could start listening to the build my online store podcast with Terry lin: http://www.buildmyonlinestore.com/ 4. And of course Tim Ferriss 4 hour work week if you haven't read it is a must read. Although none of us only work 4 hours per week, but we all do have ultimate freedom and that's what his book is about. Tim Ferriss is a Genius, and although his stuff is a bit outdated, the general concept is still there. http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/ I seriously just gave you something that I wish someone had given me when I was your age. What I just typed out is easily worth $500 in an eBook and definitely an hour of my time is worth $500. I did the whole college thing, got in debt, student loans, became a slave for the man, mortgage, dog, bills, bills, bills, a slave to the system, a slave to the machine - the american economy, a slave to the american healthcare system, gotta keep that corporate job just to have insurance!! You don't want this bro, I promise you, you don't want it. If you follow this advice, next summer you can send a picture to your loser friends of you working from the beach in Thailand, you'll be in good shape, you'll be healthy, you'll be happy and you won't be depressed anymore. You'll have new friends, friends from all over the world from every culture, go getters, friends who are motivated, hustlin, living. Not these drunk clowns you currently hang with who are stuck, clueless, and will never even be able to grasp the concept of your new life.
Spoiler I'm sorry as well. My sis can't speak, can't feed herself, can't go potty on her own. Nothing. She needs us for everything and with both of my parents needing to work just to get by, i have to be there. I of course love her with all my heart and if there is any good in me, it's b/c of her. But, i can't help but feel so trapped all the time. My older brother took off immediately after graduating high school, he's been on the east coast since he was 18. I see how unhealthy my dad is and won't be shocked if he has a heart attack soon. If he goes, i will have to take his place as my bro has already been gone so long and started a new family. I feel like i'll just end up like my dad. I get so depressed thinking back on my parents lives. They've done nothing. They can't. My dad once suggested that they find a home for my sister so that they could finally start living their lives. My mom rejected the idea and threatened to divorce him if he ever brought it up again. I'm closer and closer to hitting 30 and i never lived my 20's. I know i can do it, but how can i not tear myself apart and feel guilty if i do. My sis could go at any moment. What if i never see her again? How could i live with that? I think the only peace in my head would be my parents telling me it's ok to go and live. But, i know they wouldn't. B/c they can't both work if i'm gone and if they can't both work. They can't afford to live comfortably. One of the reasons why i search for a Euro girl. Most of the different cultures there are very family oriented like hispanic families. I've never been able to bring an american girl home into my private life. And if i told them about it, they didn't understand and just take it as baggage or issues they don't want to deal with.
SacTown: I can't tell you how much i appreciate the help. I've bookmarked this page. I do have a cousin in Russia who travels to Thailand a lot, and his best friend lives in Thailand if i'm not mistaken. So they could be a great help along with your information. Though one thing that i do have going for me with the school route is that i'm exempt from paying tuition in any Texas public university for 150 credit hours. So school won't put me in debt either. But, you were pretty spot on about learning crap i don't need and begging for some **** job i can't even stand. I can already see myself ending up in the same depressed state i've been in all my adult life.
Han Solo- you sound like a very selfless person. That's a good way to be and I have to give you a lot of credit. That said, I strongly recommend you follow your heart, live your own life. Travel, see the world while you can. As tough as it is leaving your sister and your parents- consider how bad off it would be if you never leave? I, obviously, can't judge you or put myself in your POV- but I want you to ask yourself. What's worse- leaving your family temporarily? Or being grounded your whole life? Seize the day. Seize it while you still can.
