I missed this thread the first time around, or it wasn't yet relevant to me. My oldest pulled the same stunt a while back -- late 3 or early 4 years old -- but about her mother. She said, "I don't like mommy's dark skin! It's ugly!" I brought down the hammer. I think she was trying to push buttons, and just managed to hit a really good one. I think we managed to communicate to her what a terrible thing it was to say, because she hasn't done it since.
does your daughter have any minority friends? Could it be she's picking up something from her friends and their parents views?
I realize this is several years late, but an interesting article on this very subject that I came across a few days ago: Is My 4-Year-Old Racist? http://www.theroot.com/views/my-4-year-old-racist
she has several friends with "dark skin;" both my children do, as do we. and the distinction she makes is between "light" and "dark," not "black," "brown," "beige," "yellow," "pink," or "white."
Hence the heavy reliance on nannies rather than raising her yourself. I'm not saying...you know...just an observation.
Not too long ago, I mentioned (paraphrasing here) how sad it was that basso had morphed into this rather disgusting creature who seemingly spends his time bombarding D&D with threads intended to piss most of the folks here off, following said threads with no real comment or content created by himself, but simply tossing in what he obviously thinks are pithy remarks and then running away from any real discussion, assuming the thread was worthy of discussion in the first place. They generally are not, in my opinion. This thread from '05 is an example of the previous basso, before he was completely taken over by the current incarnation. Thought I'd just toss that into the mix. Carry on.
Lets be fair here. Basso and the Mrs. Basso could have very heavy work schedules thus the need for nannies. I don't know them personally but I have no reason to believe that they don't want the best for their daughter.
It sounds like there is too much emphasis on skin color. Every kid, by three, is noticing differences in people's appearance. Its just an observation. I think the very "stern talking too" sends the signal to the child that she will receive attention from this type of talk. I can remember our son commenting on the way people talk (languages/accents) when he first started attending a mult-cultural child care facility when he was two. We pointed out that I had a different color hair than my son, said no two people are exactly alike, and that it really doesn't matter what someone looks like, or how they talk.
This is not intended as a personal comment on the bassos (I don't know them or anything about them), but why would such people even have children?
My 5 year old is in Tae Kwon Do and for the past several weeks, his class has been taught by a young (18-20) African-American. He said he didn't like his class when the "brown guy" taught it, for which we made sure to admonish him that he should use the instructor's name, not describe him as the "brown guy." Incidentally, my son doesn't like it when his class is taught by that particular instructor because he emphasizes discipline.
People have different standards of what they consider a good life for their kids. If the Bassos enjoy living in NYC but feel that they have work two jobs to afford a nice address and to give their kids a good life, at least materially, I don't see the problem. I have friends who grew up in Manhattan and Brooklyn and many friends who grew up with nannies who turned out fine. I think we are long past the day of saying that we need at least one parent devoting their time to child rearing.
As long as that guy treats all of his students fairly I would recommend staying with that instructor.
I knew why he objected and told him that he was going. I like that instructor specifically because he is teaching discipline.
Hey now, nothing in the original old story mentioned anything about heavy reliance on nannies so what does that have to do with raising the kids themselves? If both parents have a job then there is no way to avoid having kids spend time with non-parents.
