Again, I think I've overstated the "newness" of my relationship with some of these folks. This is probably the best way to put it: some of them have never been invited to my home. We've talked face-to-face. I've seen them here and there and have friendly, speaking relationships. They had time to send a note declining the invitation if they wanted or needed to. They had about two weeks notice. There really is no excuse...
Maybe I understated my dislike of calling people. Basically if it's not a family member, girlfriend, or life long friend, I hate to do it. Can't really explain why, because I'm not a hermit or anything and am very comfortable speaking in person. It's just one of those things.
1. For extroverts, a phone call is no big deal. For introverts, it's the most burdensome form of communication. I'm not surprised you got low participation if the only form of communication you offered was a phone number. Put an email or evite too. 2. It is inevitable you will have people not respond, whether it is regrets or RSVP. Caterers know this and will usually reduce the number they are prepping for. Maybe you should find the ratio that didn't respond to this invite and reduce the food you buy next time by this amount. 3. I'll always read an evite a couple times before responding and usually won't respond until right before the event. I have to check with my social coordinator, arrange babysitting, etc. 4. Regrets Only will reduce the number of people who show up. When you RSVP that you're going, then you're obligated. If you figure you'll go and not respond, when it gets to that day you feel at liberty to change your mind.
That's why the original poster spoke about manners. You obviously have none. With that kind of upbringing on display, I doubt it will ever be an issue for you (getting a proper invitation to a party), so don't sweat it.
Gee, I hope I wasn't on that list of non-regretters. Cause I sure don't want to be on the list that seems to be formulating in your head as you obsess over this...
So... Judging my character based on a single thread on a message board, and questioning my upbringing must be your idea of manners. Either that or I think we've got a case of hypocrisy on our hands.
it's hard enough for people to show up to parties/weddings/gatherings of people they actually like or know much less take the time to care about someone they've met maybe once or twice.
I thought of that..........but I was trying to respond in a manner in which you seemed accustomed. But although I have the knowledge of proper manners, I can be a big ******* too. In your defense, you seemed to have had an excuse based on ignorance........at least up until today that is.
Because the first time I clicked the link...I got to thinking why this person invited me when I hardly know him? Then, I got to thinking would I like his click who were close to, and did work with, him if I did show up? Then, I determined that I wouldn't know most of them because he was in a completely different area. Then, I lost interest, I left that browser window as I tasked over to something else, and this browser window instance eventually met its untimely demise...as did any future e-mails on the subject which were disposed of promptly when differentiating the "spam" from the real work e-mail in Outlook. My opportunity to click "No" fell by the wayside on the first review. I'm stubborn in that way. Sometimes, I'll be about to buy something online and, in an instant, just delete the browser window...only to be back to buy it later...when I could have bought it earlier having logged into the site and filled out most of the information already. Hey...you asked. lol
This gave me a fun idea. I'm throwing a regrets only party. While at my party you have to do something you'll regret, like your friends wife or something cool like that. Should spice things up well and make for a great time!
I, for one, can't believe that someone would actually have the NERVE to invite me to a party -- and THEN have the UNMITIGATED GALL to want to know whether I'm coming or not. Some people are so rude!!
I know, I'm jealous. I hear macalu gets invited to play Rock Band all the time. It looks like he has so much fun
My family learned quickly once we moved here that no one in Texas feels that RSVP-ing is a necessary or polite thing to do. I don't understand what is so hard to call or email that you can or cannot make it. It's especially rude now a days with the great invention of evite.com. All you have to do is click a freaking button. Is that really such an inconvenience? Evite is a fantastic site (I can't believe it's still free). It makes things so much easier for everyone involved.
That is generally expected at any wedding. If the invite doesn't say "and family", then children are not expected. If the invite doesn't say "and guest", then a guest is not expected. Oftentimes churches and/or reception halls have limited seating. In addition the food per person at weddings can be extremely expensive.
i did have a helluva time. i take it you nerved planned a party that costs $40,000 for 200 guests? i don't want my friends to bring ppl i've never met, they are not dating and they are bringing simply to bring a date to look cool. i don't feel like i should fork over $140+ on strangers. i'm not that type of a person and neither are my friends.
