...so you decided to leave an actual house to live in your car and crash at friends houses? Problems at home?
The short answer is WHEN YOU ARE READY Depends on you, your parents and your situations. Alot of it cultural. I had a friend who was 26 yrs old living at home. He was making over 50 K a year and had already paid off his lexus When he moved out . . he was going to basically moving into a house that was substantially paid . . if not paid off. No school debts that I knew of. alot of folx would be of the mind that he is grown and he should be out of the house he makes enough money etc but . .. his parents were not broke and I beleive he still contributed to the household Why jump out of the house . . . end up with a substantially 'lesser' car, lesser house [probably would have been Renting and unable to save money for the house or at least not as much in so short a time] and maybe incurred more debt what for? to FEEL like a grown up? I say let your economic situation and plans determine you date of exiting the house. As long as they are inline with your families' ideals and situation. If you parents are not b*tching and you are helping and not a leech or irratation . . . .I say do what is best for you. Rocket River
I'm Indian and I had a laugh. Indians might be one of the worst groups when it comes to laughing at our stereotypes. Apparently we have no sense of humor.
I wasn't forced into living alone until I was 19-20, had a job while going to college. You wouldn't believe how much basic necessities cost. Bills, bills, and more bills. Then there's that GF cost. Luckily back then there were always some kind of events that gave free food at UH... free loading ftw Stay while you can. If there's one thing you should remember from this thread... Tank sa jattefint.
Isn't it hard to bring a girl home if you live with your parents? A.) Your parents are going to **** block the hell out of you. B.) Generally, it is a big turn off for girls when they find out you still live with your parents (assuming you have finished college).
whenever you can afford it... i moved away for college, came back home for a few months before moving to austin, came back broke but happy after a year or so and figured i'd be living w/ the folks for 6 months tops... fast forward 3.5 years later and im still here for all but 10 months that i've been back i've been paid (very poorly) on a cash basis, meaning that not only am i making very little, i still have wreck what little savings i have to pay my taxes. but in my line of work it takes 2 years or so to really get off the ground and start making some real $$$ and i feel i'm getting close... close enough to hopefully move out by october or november.
This. Luckily I didn't have parents that just forced me out at the age of 18. They actually enjoyed having their children around. Plus you save money and we all know how expensive college is... Sometimes it is just a culutural thing for parents to kick their kids out
For those of you saying you left your parents' house when you went off to college...this doesn't really count unless you're paying rent and bills/utilities from your own pocket. Otherwise, you're pretty much just living in your parents' other house.
Someone mentioned culture and I think that plays a very important role. My oldest brother got married and infact we built another master bedroom and bathroom for him and his wife. My other brother who's younger than him but older than me got married and moved out. I'm not married and still kick it at home. Thats just the way the southasian culture is. It's until you're married than you decide. Usually one of the son's ends up staying with the parents. Parents take care of us while we grow, in return we take care of the parents when they're older (and this is purely cultural, has nothing to do with religon).
Being one of the aforementioned Indians (one who does use deodorant, btw), I think it's up to your parents and you. In my culture, most families back in the motherland stay families and can always stay together for long past 18 or 21. People do move out, of course, but they're always welcome home. Many families who came here in the 70's, 80's, etc. still practice this to a degree. I've never been of the opinion you should boot kids out of the house at any particular age - that's what animals do. If they're going to college, let them focus on studies instead of trying to figure out where they'll be working a minimum wage or slighlty better job. If they just graduated and got a new job, let them hang out at the house and hoarde money to get a kickstart on savings, etc. It's a sacrifice for parents, but hey, sacrificing is a commitment you made when you had kids. Of course this is why I'm single. lol. :grin: I just turned 40 and my mom still says I can come live with them if I lose my job due to the economy. lol. I tell her not to worry about it. The fact I stayed at home with my parents through much of my 20's allowed me to stash away and invest my money early. If you're worried about how you're perceived by others (ie, "you're 26 and still living with your parents?!"), then all I can say is, I felt my future was more important than people asking me that for a few years in my 20's. It's worked out well.
Moved out at 18 and never went back. It's not hard to juggle work and school, just get several roommates. My in laws 33, 31, 26, 24 ALL still living with mommy at the same time. Saddest thing I have ever seen.
The guy at the mini mart I go to is Indian, never seen him smile, laugh, or do anything really. He's almost like a robot except he gets mad when there's more then two teenagers at the store.
