You've been redeemed, my man. I figure by you saying this, it won't kill you if you keep this to yourself, since you don't see his wife often. This is BAD. When you have kids, it's DOUBLE WORSE to cheat. You're teaching your children stuff they shouldn't learn. DOUBLE WHAMMY right there. I certainly don't want my kids doing the bad things I have done before. That's SAD right there, man. I would NEVER do anything to be considered CHEATING on my wife with a stripper. Get a dance, OK. get a LAP DANCE, OK. NOT CHEATING. But BJs, KISSING on the mouth, certainly a NO NO. Yes, it's CHEATING. He's getting an unfair advantage over his marriage, and on top of that, maybe picking up something from someone else's mouth and taking it home, even when he kisses his kids. just another guy who gives US dudes a bad name, that's all. That's all, but that's ALL BAD.
If he'd be ok with his wife 'not cheating' in that way then I guess it's cool. If he'd be pissed if you told his wife (and, more importantly, she'd be pissed if she found out) then it's cheating. Don't be offering your spare room to this dude unless you're prepared for him to show up in the middle of the night with all his suitcases! As an aside...i have known couples who accepted this. One was a pro sports guy, who's wife knew what happened 'on the road' and simply told him not to embarrass her...the other couple were ok as long as they didn't sleep around -- but they both knew what was going on. Odd folks. Not my scene. (and they eventually broke up...).
The thought of doing something with someone that your significant other would not approve of is NOT cheating. Acting on that thought in any way, in my opinion, IS cheating. EDIT: I just thought about it and I'll have to exclude looking at or pleasuring yourself to p*rn. It's not a real person that you're in contact with in any way, so I certainly don't count it.
No offense, but friends like yours should never get married. Yes, he's cheating and it's not like it's not obvious. lol.
I think doing anything that you won't tell your partner about is cheating. If you have to hide it, it is a safe bet that you shouldn't be doing it, because you know they don't want you doing it.
That is cheating, without a doubt. If he has kids he is just not a very kind person. I cannot stand people who cheat(just break up if you are not happy, otherwise stay togheter and do not cheat). And esppecially when he has kids, it is terrible.
then what is cheating in your book? If he trully loves his wife(and child), he would not make out with another woman.(and he does it often). I'm wondering what your girlfriend/ wife thinks of it
It's not your job to tell the wife, hell she may know, women aren't stupid about that kind of thing, there is always evidence. She might even like it if he comes home all hot and bothered. But if your friend's behavior bothers you by all means, don't you go to bars with him. You are only in charge of you.
It's not cheating if you spread peanut butter on your balls and let your dog lick it off. Because it's your dog.
The guy is sleazy. I wouldn't call it cheating. Besides, many would be considered cheaters if the narrow definition used here was applied to them. How many here have received full contact lap dances? This isn't strip joint capital for nothing. Glass houses people.
That's what I was thinking too. If you have to hide it, it's pretty much cheating.... Dictionary.com's definition of cheating: cheat Audio pronunciation of "cheating" ( P ) Pronunciation Key (cht) v. cheat·ed, cheat·ing, cheats v. tr. 1. To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases. 2. To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land. 3. To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye. 4. To elude; escape: cheat death. If you have to hide it, you're pretty much doing all of the following in a sense.
That pretty much sums it up...Hell, even the physical aspect can lead to something more, so in other words, don't do it...It is cheating and RL is a genius...No matter how much he convinces himself it isn't, there will come a day when his secret is discovered and he'll be a sad, lonely man... So...is his wife hot?
So, since I've never had a lap dance or otherwise watched a stripper perform (during or prior to my marriage), I can go ahead and throw stones? Even cheaters can tell what is cheating and what isn't. I'm not sure why someone would have to pass an ethics test to call a spade a spade.
I never have, and i probably never will. So can i now call him a cheater? What do you consider cheating?
