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What's with the lull in relationship threads?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by FranchiseBlade, Mar 22, 2007.

  1. hotballa

    hotballa Contributing Member

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    exactly Sishir, that's why it's "dated" and not "dating"

    well i'm sure there were other problems, but since it helps my point, i'll trivialize your previous relationship down to my referenced post. :D
     
  2. rrj_gamz

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    Well, good luck with that...Hopefully he won't be looking though your mail, or e-mail, but that'll be coming soon...Glad you're back and you seem happy and that's all that matters...

    So you do buy engagement and wedding bands? Do you weear both on the same finger once you're married?
     
  3. JuanValdez

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    I think you need to wait until the Spurs are eliminated. You probably wouldn't be able to stop yourself from trash-talking, which will probably knock the relationship off-kilter before it has time to establish itself.
     
  4. rimbaud

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    It was a while ago so let's see how my memory is:

    I did not give her an engagement ring (a combination of us not htinking they are important and - if she got one - her choice would have been about $15,000) so we did not shop together.

    We did go together to pick out wedding bands. I still wear mine (although I don't particularly like it) but she has had two new ones...neither of which were as expensive as the first.

    We knew we were getting married our second year together, though, so by the next year everything was just kind of obvious. I "officially" proposed as part of her Christmas present after we had already booked the venue. I did not ask her parents (looking back I should have but at the time I was in a different city and it was just so obvious it seemed pointless.

    So actually I think it was:

    - book venue
    - propose
    - buy rings & dress
    - plan wedding
    - get married
    - move into new place
    - go on honeymoon in Scotland
    - become each other's arch-nemesis
     
  5. AroundTheWorld

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    Sadly, I have to say this:

    I can foresee more relationship advice threads in the future.

    You seem to attract trouble :(.
     
  6. Fatty FatBastard

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    I wouldn't worry about it. She doesn't follow the advice anyway.
     
  7. Isabel

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    thanks very much, I love you guys too :rolleyes: :p ;)
     
  8. heypartner

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    That's because she's a hardheaded Rice alumn, like me. I don't follow my girl friend's advice, either, and I certainly wouldn't follow yours Fatty Fat b*stard. lol

    I just think that I can't screw up the early relationship part, but the girl can. Funny thing about girls is they think they are the ones doing the testing.

    haha!!
     
  9. Rocketman95

    Rocketman95 Hangout Boy

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    Depending on how much money he's spending, I think it's very wise to make sure you're getting a ring that your future wife will love. In my relationship, we started looking at rings after we had the talk about being ready to take that step. After we found a ring that she fell in love with, I made sure the jeweler knew exactly which one she wanted. She had absolutely no idea when I bought the ring or when I was planning on popping the question.

    Knowing which ring she was going to get didn't make her any less surprised when I got on one knee at the same exact spot where I had first told her I loved her exactly one year earlier. :)
     
  10. hotballa

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    i think this thread has jumped the shark with your post. now we'll be flooded with sappy tales from the older folks. bring out the cinnamon tea!
     
  11. Rocketman95

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    BTW, ima, asking her parents is a great move even if you know what the answer's going to be. I drove up to The Woodlands and met them at the movies because I told them I had something important to ask them. They were actually shocked I had asked, yet they said it really meant a lot to them.
     
  12. ima_drummer2k

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    Thanks, man. We actually talked about finances last night, believe it or not. Where we would live at first, which one of us would sell our house first, what size house we would look for once one of our houses sells, putting away funds for a rainy day, even college funds for the future kiddies.

    Kind of the way I thought it would go. You can buy the ring without her knowing and it will still be a huge surprise when you popped the question. We've even talked about that.

    Yep, I'm a traditional kinda guy. Plus that would get me serious points with the future in-laws. So, I'd have that going for me....which is nice.
     
  13. hotballa

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    On a completely unrelated note, does your future mother in law have good looking friends?
     
  14. AroundTheWorld

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    Have heypartner and Isabel ever met?
     
  15. FranchiseBlade

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    That sounds like you guys are off to a good start. It's great that he is willing to work on improvement. It shows promise for the future because you know they won't stagnate, and they are willing to attempt the often difficult task of making themselves better.

    That was one of the things that made me realize my wife was the one for me. She had been working hard on making positive changes and breaking away from bad situations. That crap can be hard, but it impressed me.

    The fact that you are such good friends already also sounds promising for something long term.

    Don't be too hard on him for some of his immaturity. Nobody is perfect, and as long as the immaturity is harmless it might help keep him young for his age so he will keep pace with you.
     
  16. Fatty FatBastard

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    Here's what you don't do:

    Get the engagement ring on your own.
    Pay less than $500 for it.
    Toss it to her on a piece of beef jerky.

    At least, it didn't work out for me, in the long run.
     
  17. heypartner

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    you placed it on a slim jim.

    yeah, that won't work on several levels. haha
     
  18. Fatty FatBastard

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    I'm aware, but that is "technically" crappy beef jerky, isn't it? Didn't feel like product placement this time.
     
  19. Sishir Chang

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    Although she did get me a grill that I still use to this day. To be fair there are probably no women who know what I want when it comes to gifts since most of the time I don't know myself.

    That said TRIVIALIZE AWAY!
     
  20. Buck Turgidson

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    No. Much like a McNugget is not fried chicken.
     

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