What's with the lull in relationship threads?

I bought the ring on my own. If you don't knwo what kind of ring your woman would like, chances are you're not ready for marriage where it's all about the little things that matter. Your woman probably knows what kind of watch and car you like, so you better make sure you know what kind of ring is her style. Otherwise, 1) you havent discussed long trm plans with her yet or b) you don't listen to her. Both points should generally be covered before you go buy an engagement ring ALONE.

The biggest difference is the diamond. Engagement rings normally have gaudy diamonds and are incredibly overpriced, while wedding rings are normally simple bands and are cosniderably cheaper. Our wedding rings cost $800 a piece, while I coulda bought a new car with her engagement ring.

 

sounds like love to me.
my marriage advice would be to just knock her up.
however, i don't think fatty can get pregnant.

 

Let's just say he definitely is not going to open and read anything with my name on it again... he wasn't thinking too rationally at the time. It's his first relationship so mistakes like that are OK as long as you learn from them.

 

No, no, no. We're just talking about it a lot. I plan on putting all this into action maybe late this summer or early fall. I have a 1 year of dating rule before popping the question. So far, so good.

Well why is Jeff opening your mail?

Seriously, sounds like you did the right thing in leaving that guy.

 

We'll my ex called last week telling me she bought some gifts for my niece and nephew. I told her not to bother sending them. This upset her but she played it cool. You spend three years with someone and you become aware of the nuances in their voice indicating hurt and rejection. So I felt bad and called explaining why it was inapropriate for her to maintain any communication with my family. Like a effin little child I had to explain step by step why families are off limits after a breakup. This is obvious to rational adults. But not my ex. She responded "I don't see why it makes a difference."

Ona side note: I bought two Erol Alkan shirts from London that I was planning on giving her for xmas. She broke up with me in Nov. so I totally forgot I ordered them. Anyway, they just came in (long story) and for a second I thought I might send them to her for her B-day this saturday but I'm planning on giving one to the new girl. It's not like it would have fit her anyway she packed on the pounds after the break up and those euro sizes are small. Besides the new girls like half her size.

There you go CFN.net enjoy.

 

My girl is 5500 miles away for the next month or so.

Our relationship is great.

 

You do realize Argentine men are notorious womainzers.

 

Get pregnant! (err....her not me)
Shop for ring w/o her but w/ mutual friends.
Didn't bother asking parents permission.
Popped the question at a perfect, romantic moment she'd least expect while giving her the engagement ring.
Plan wedding, prepare for baby, prepare for move.
Soon to be married and w/ future Astros hall of famer kid.
Be happy for the rest of my life.

...end sappiness.

 

So are Texans.

I keed, I keed.

She's already had an interesting experience at a cafe, she lived in Spain for awhile, she knew what to expect.

We'll be in Mar del Plata, btw. She loves it so far.

 

I think traditionally you buy the engagement ring on your own. But another example, two of my friends recently were engaged and she's the dominating (read: Cuban ) one. So they go 'shopping', stop by the jewlers, and she lets him know what types of rings she like.

The wedding rings, or wedding bands, are the rings you both wear (no diamonds or anything). I think you usually go shopping for those together.

 

Wow, I guess I'm a little shocked at everyone saying they shopped for the ring without the chick. But hey, like I said...this is all new to me.

So, did the chick go with you to at least get some ideas (not necessarily choose one)? I would hate to guess what she wants and get it wrong.

 

I don't have one at the moment.

When I do, you'll be the first to know.

 

i'm shocked you're shocked. don't you think it is much more romantic to do all the work without her knowing and then "pop" the quextion. where has the element of surprise gone? am i living in a different world?

 

Thanks... it's good to have a fresh start, and I consider it my own start as well. I'm not even sure how much the Ferdinand thing counts as "experience" because that one was just so weird.

I like the new guy a lot, he's my best friend in the world and adores me and all that important stuff... He's also got other problems in his life he's working out of, mood swings, etc., but as long as he works at it and it gets better, that's good. We're working with a counselor as well. I guess sometimes it gets annoying because he can be immature... like changing plans at the last minute, acting like a little kid, etc., but I don't want to be the old grown-up here. He's a bit younger than me. (Isabel likes them younger... no, not like all those schoolteachers in the news, not that young. It's more that I'm young for my age myself.) Anyway, it's a nice comfortable situation and we've gotten attached to each other.

No, not looking for relationship threads in particular... trying to find more time to post (like right now when I've got a roomful of students taking an exam, and the only thing I need to do is practice the piano but I can't very well do it in here - or sleep, but I can't do that in here either). And I don't really have the inclination to post in all those "hot supermodel" threads, and I'm not about to post in the "describe the dump you took today" threads, so...

 

I thought about starting one, but instead I'll just ask the question here:

When is it okay to date a Spurs fan? One of the few exes that I've ever wanted back now wants me back. There was promise in the relationship before, and I'd like to date her again, but there's one problem. She's a die-hard Spurs fan. She grew up in Denver, but never was a Nuggets fan. She lived in San Antonio during one of their championships and really likes their effeminate French point guard. The question really isn't whether I should date her, but rather when should I date her. Should I wait until the Spurs are eliminated from the playoffs? Or should we start dating again now?

 

You definately have your priorities in order.

 

Not always I dated a woman for four years and she didn't know that much about what I wanted. Even when I told her what sort of gift I would like, she still got me something else.

 

After a court of law declares you criminally insane....

 

With my wife, I wanted to surprise her with the engagement ring. I talked to her mother (now my mother-in-law) in depth about what type of ring to get her because I knew how close they were and that her mother would know what my wife wanted. Once it was decided that we were going to get married, I went ahead and shopped for rings. I got one that was a little over 1 karat and was in the princess setting. It had a minor flaw to it and as a result, it cost me about 4 grand - give or take. After she accepted my marriage proposal, we got our wedding bands. They were platinum and cost about $200 bucks each. I never asked permission from her parents to marry but we had talked about it, that I felt like I had pretty much asked their permission. Oh and we basically eloped so we didn't have to worry about planning the wedding. The money we saved there we put into our house (hardwood floors, painting every rooms, changing out doorknobs, etc.).

Sounds like it is going really well for you, ima. I am happy for you. You've always been one of my favorite posters and you deserve to be happy. If I could give you one tip of advice - don't be afraid to discuss with your girlfriend soon to be fiance (if it continues to go good) on how the two of you plan on doing your finances as a couple. That was a topic that my wife and me never talked about it until after the fact. Needless to say we had some pretty bad fights over money - something that might have been avoided if we had a plan ahead of time instead of doing a baptism by fire.