Work. So, yes, it's wasted in the sense that I'm not catching up on work or sleep. Unlike those of you who are off at 5:00, my work just remains undone until I do it. But this bbs is so therapeutic right now...
Never hit a woman. Fear no man. Never give up. Avoid violence, but if unavoidable, fight as if you are prepared to die. Family and honor above all.
My family accepts me for who I am. I ty to improve myself, and of course, I will sacrifice for my family. That's the kind of man I am. I didn't act a certain way to "hook" Tara and try to keep her by acting in a manner in which I could not live a happy life. I discovered in my first marriage that I was not enjoying myself because I was too busy trying to be the person that would make the wife-at-the time happy. I was who the ex wanted me to be. Not who I wanted to be. Eventually, it got old. Tara accepts me for who I am, as does my family. The kids know exactly what to expect from me, because I have been and will be the same person tomorrow as I was the day the kids were born. Will I change some things that I do for my family? Of course. Will I change who I am? Never again.
I know what you mean. But, if your family needs you to change your spending habits, you must do so. If your family needs you to be at home instead of going out, you must do so. If your wife needs you to curb your interests in other women, you must do so. If they need you to work more... work less... stay home... spend money... save money... When you're a husband and/or a father, you must be willing to change your life in these serious areas (and others) at an instant. I don't think you I are in disagreement. The accurate statement is: a good husband and father may (and must) make changes in his life choices and actions to benefit his wife and family, but doesn't have to (and shouldn't) change the things he likes or doesn't like. 'what you like to do' and 'what you choose to do' are two entirely different things. -- droxford
dr oxford, Your post is the EXACT REASON WHY I SPIT IN THE FACE OF MARRIAGE. As I get older, I'm a firm believer that not everyone is meant for marriage. I'm one of those people. Call in to ask if I can go play poker for 20 hrs straight with friends? Yeah right. Call in to ask if I can go to the bar with co-workers after work? Yeah right. Hide my affairs? Well, this one still has to happen. Maybe I'll change my views when all of my buddies get married or I become the old creepy guy in the clubs, but until then...
Just remember one thing, coma...in the immortal words of the great philosopher, Chris Rock... new p***y can't cook new p***y is illiterate
I understand what you're saying, and I agree that you have to do things for your family, but I'm talking BIG picture. Don;t become a husband/father if it is something that someone else wants you to be, or if you think that it is something that should be done. In everything you do, be yourself.
Haha.... my average work week for the past 5 months : Wake up at 6:00am to go to work. Come home from work around 8:00pm. Work some more from home until around 10pm - midnight. Goof off for 2-4 hours. Go to bed around 2:00am. On weekends, go to work from 4-8 hours on Saturday and Sunday. They say it'll end soon, but the 100 hours a week are getting a wee bit tiresome... On the positive side, I do get paid OT so I'm not really complaining for right now. But I'm too old to be doing this. Haha.
Perseverance is the key to accomplishing goals. Be original. simple stuff that keeps my wheels turning.
Coma- Have you been married before? I certainly respect your opinion and what you are saying. However, please don't think that marriage is some eternal hell. It is not. It's definitely a sacrifice and it changes you whether you want to change or not. But the sacrifice and the change is well worth it. And I mean, WELL WORTH IT!!! To each his own I guess..
There isnt a problem on earth that can not be solved with a sufficently large crowbar. Never engage in a battle of wits with a unarmed person. Dont use 12345 for a combination on your luggage.
