not too honest though. Too honest is worse than being dishonest. I am the epitome of too honest so i should know.
this is one of the things that makes women so complicated. while in a relationship, they want to hear their SO compliment them on their looks b/c it makes then feel good. but, when they are single and guys compliment them, it's just a sign of sucking up. in one instance, the validation would be welcomed and considered endearing. the other instance, it's welcomed but considered insincere.
Golden Rule: Women don't really know what they want. There are certain attributes that women are attracted to on a psychological level, but often times they won't express this or aren't fully aware of this. How many times have you seen a woman say: I want a nice guy, but ends up with an ahole. I don't care about money, but automatically judge against guys in certain professions. Say physical fitness is important to them, but end up with a fat slob. Your biggest mistake would be asking women how to get more women to be attracted to you. If you are looking for a relationship, I'd say just be yourself and work on improving yourself (mind, body, and spirit). That will attract someone who will like you for the person you are. However, if you aren't looking for a serious or long-term relationship...I've got some tips that will definitely bring in the girls.
I don't know if my friends and I are typical women - maybe not - but I'm going to go ahead and state what we do and don't want. Some of it's just my own preferences, but it's what I've got to go on. What women don't want: shoes, shopping, confidence, arrogance, ego, having to compete with other women, money, financial security, easy impregnation. (and it's not the size of the sword, but how you swing it... and even that really depends on what kind of emotional connection is going on between you) Looks and physical fitness are relatively unimportant, really. What women do want: Respect, caring, a good listener, someone who also shares his own thoughts and feelings, a good friend, someone who is responsible and has a job (doesn't have to be rich, but at least work - get off your butt - and have some sort of life plan for how you can help provide for your kids), someone who appreciates us for who we are. Right now I would just settle for someone who really cares. rubytuesday - interesting about wanting to be found physically attractive. I know that's important. Oddly enough, in my rapidly disintegrating situation with "Ferdinand", that's the one thing he was good about... finding me physically attractive. (and I've never been conventionally pretty - I do have kind of an extreme hourglass figure, though, and the 34DD's don't hurt) However, he was otherwise only considerate of my needs every once in a while or when he got in trouble. I eventually felt like a sex object. Like he had the lust thing down, but not the love thing. I guess it really helps to be treated well in both respects. (come on, guys, surely it's not that difficult)
Ah yes, in my experience with women as friends, this will make them think you are some all powerful love expert and they would jump your bones in a second if only you didn't have leprosy.
Wants: 1) Someone who can accept them for who they are and respect their passions and pursuits and the time involved in that 2) Someone who knows how to lay the pipe 3) Someone that is confident, not cocky, smart, financially stable, funny and has their sh*t together
Women often say this but I'm not sure how true that is. As someone else pointed out there are a lot of A-holes who date a lot of women and there are a lot of nice, quiet caring guys not getting any. Speaking for myself I would like to think of myself as being a nice guy but I've found that just being a nice guy doesn't usually arouse interests from women. Sometimes when I act a little obnoxious women seem to respond to that much better than as someone's who's caring and thoughtful. As for the confidence thing I think that has more to do with getting the nerve to go up and talk to women and do it in a way that seems natural and unforced. I don't think its confidence in and of itself but its that confidence makes a man feel comfortable enough around women to not seem desperate or nervous and in most things no one likes to be around someone who's desperate or nervous.
I sincerely compliment my wife very often (several times a week), and she hates it. She is very insecure in her own physical appearance and when I compliment her, she feels like I'm either (a) lying to her (because she feels like she's not that attractive) or (b) an idiot (for being attracted to such an unattractive person). I try to tell her that she's my wife, she's always been beautiful to me and she always will. But my words fall on deaf ears.
Just to follow up on my last post. If you want to meet women you have to be a bit of a jerk. If you want to keep a woman you have to be a really nice guy. I think there's more truth to The 40 Year Old Virgin than people imagine. Nice quiet thoughtful guys don't get a lot of action but jerks don't have fulfilling relationships.
This is all complete hogwash and an excellent example of how women don't know what they want. I cannot tell you how many times women have said that they're unhappy and want a man who cares and is a good listener and yada yada yada... and then they go out and shack up with a dumb jock. And when that falls apart, they find another dumb jock.... repeat cycle. And nobody told women to go out and buy a ton of shoes... go on ridiculous shopping sprees...No. Women came up with this crap on their own. If womend didn't want to do it, then they simply wouldn't do it. And they do it to fulfill deeper issues that they all share.
