lol... some people portray themselves differently on this board, and some of us don't (in other words, what you see is what you get, and if I'm a drama queen with relationship troubles who won't act my age, so be it)... but we can all agree on one thing: DATING IS OVERRATED. Seriously, you haven't missed much, especially the part that happens when you're young and no one knows what they're doing anyway. There are worse things than having high standards (as I learn every time I lower them just to see what will happen ).
Wow! Are you married to Doug Christie?? Hehe thanks for being honest, you shuold print this out and bring it on the first dates so they know what to expect..I wish all girls had a (warning) list like this.
Agreed. Isabel, if you've only dated one person, how do you know it's overrated yet? I enjoy the chase, personally.
it's a b**** when she's lookin elsewhere as well...but once you conquer won the "chase," you feel like a million bucks. but then you realize you're stuck with the girl and can't keep on flirting around with others as well.
Maybe because I haven't had the opportunity to date others. Nor do I see any coming anytime soon. (and no, guys, no offers from the bbs ) The chase makes me miserable. I like security. I wish people could just have good friends and not even have to "date". That's why I will be an old maid. I like relationships, but not what goes into getting there, especially the randomness of the procedure...
Isabel, this attitude is what got you into marrying into Ferdinand in the first place. Maybe you should bear the miserableness of dating new people if it makes you happy in the end.
Oh, just try it. Dating can be fun. Enjoy being single, and enjoy getting free drinks. Find a group of friends and start at a happy hour. How do you know you won't like it if you've never done it? And, no. High school doesn't count.
Exactly. Isabel, I like you and I think you know that, but you have got to change your attitude on some things IF you truly want to be happy. Go back and re-read your last post in this thread and objectively look at it from someone else's viewpoint. They would think that you wish you could just snap your fingers and have an instant spouse. Haven't you heard that if something is worth having in life that there are going to be some struggles - nothing comes easy. No offense, but the attitude of your last post reeks of desperation. Ferdinand, most likely, picked up on that and well, he was a desperate guy so you seemed to be a perfect match for him. It is also probably why he can't understand you are leaving him now because he still senses that hopelessness and desperation that you have. You have got to show him (fake it if you have to) that you don't have that type of attitude now or else he will bother you until he or you dies.
desperate? ouch. oh well, this is the bbs and we tell each other the truth even if it hurts, I guess. Anyway, for those who think they have easy desperate pickings here... what part of Sister Isabel of the bbs Convent don't you understand? I'm not letting anybody mess with me anymore.
Well this attitude of not wanting to date because it might be "too much work" and that you wished you could just find an instant spouse due to the "security of the relationship". It is like Mr. Clutch said - that is how you got in the situation you are now in the first place. It's a mindset, Isabel and I feel that you need to change it.
Back from the dead. The main thing most girls want these days is a decent/good looking guy who has money that treats them ok. What they really want is a guy who can make them laugh, feel good, caring, good sex and a man who can support himself. This reminds me what happened a few weeks ago. A ex calls me and starts telling me how she wants a man w/money. I told her, no we're never getting back together again. She shuts up. haha. Stupid gooold digger, hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate hate.
So now that we now what you want, what is it that you give in a relationship? What are your selling points?
wow, this thread is really back from the dead. too bad amfootball can't read anyone's replies anymore.
I want: A man who will give me Astros season tickets and go with me to the game to have fun, drink beer and eat hot dogs. Someone who will hit the gym with me, and let me read once in a while. What I got: A man who gave me a big house, a big screen TV, a pool and hot tub, who loves that I try to stay in shape (And is incredibly fine himself), lets me have a room for my books, and bought me a really pretty ring when we got engaged. I actually just wanted to date a cute boy when we met (I was 17). Years down the road to today, I don't want anyone else, and I wouldn't change anything about him. I have no freaking clue about other girls though. Half are hos, half are genuinely nice girls. (Hot kiny girls can be in either category). Don't try to find out anything particular and apply it to the population, it's useless.
What women want vs. What women SAY they want Cause lord knows. . . a woman will say all the things they want then you see what they end up with . . and it ain't half of the list of things they say they want and alot of stuff the SWORE they did not want Rocket River RULE #1 - Don't listen to women when they say what they want. .. look at what they react too.
I think women don't want to be generalized. Every one is their own individual. Finding the one that wants what you have to offer is the key. Of course you have to know what you want first. (That usually happens right after you lose it) Once you know what kind of fish you want then you decide what kind of bait to use and what fishing hole you fish in. If you want a wholesome, church going, mother of your children, married for life type you probably don't want to look in smokey bars at closing time. If you want the come and go, hot sex, low commitmant type, don't let your Mom fix you up with her friends daughter.
