There's still a huge debate raging in my wife's family... is he a repicant or is he human? I should retire them all!!! Maybe I'll have a drink first.
My dad told me to charge my books ($400) on my credit card and give him the bill at the end of the month. LOL He never even looked at it. She's spent that much this week on her nails, hair, and dress. FML
I'm pretty sure my parents think I'm adequate. I've done everything I was "supposed to" as a child they raised (I graduated college, got a "nice" job, and can support myself). They like my boyfriend, and they didn't bat an eyelash when I told them we were moving in together. So I'm pretty sure the only things I could do that would change their perception of me now is take a societal nosedive (quit my job, get hooked on drugs, and become a burden to them) or have babies (give them their first grandchildren).
I asked this in another thread, but nobody responded so I'll try again. Can someone fill me in on what this "incident" is involving mazyar?
Mazyar and Principal Skinner were in the closet making babies and I saw one of the babies and then the baby looked at me.
You never know just how you look through other people's eyes. Maybe a better title would be "What is your perception of your family's perception of you?" That said, I think my immediate family's perception is somewhere between "He's great, and we always knew he would be" and "He's a bit nuts and who knows what could have been." That said, they'd love me the same no matter where the needle hits the record... so I have that going for me.
This thread reminded me of a situation that happened with me and my parents last night at dinner. I've lived on my own since I was 18 keep in mind, and I go home every now and then just to visit. I have a few interviews this week (I'm 25) and my dad asks if I wanted him to pre-tie my tie for me, and I respond with a no. As I get ready to leave he reminds me that if my clothes are dirty then to get them cleaned and that you should wear dirty clothes to interviews. I think my parents perception of me is that I'm 14.
Your parents always will think you as their little boy. My mom STILL sees me as her little girl. She's always asking me if I want her to come to my doctor's appointments and stuff. I politely tell her no. My family ADORES me. They'll always tell my mom that she has a daughter that is sooo pretty and smart. My younger sister hates it when someone in my family talks about me instead of her. She has to butt in if I'm hugging or talking to mom. She thinks that my dad loves me more than her and she has this stinky attitude with him. I think she has some issues with me and needless to say, we don't have the greatest sibling relationship. She takes this whole sibling rivalry way too far. I just can't talk to her about this issue without her blowing up at me. I want to tell her that there is NO competition between us and there is no need for her to be jealous of me. She feels that I'm the prettiest and smartest out of us and she feels inadequate when people compare us. I've just gave up trying to talk to her. We do talk sometimes but not that much. I WISH she would be different with her attitude. Her attitude is just terrible. I guess maybe I should wait until she's little bit older...she's 19, though. I HOPE she will change her attitude or I will smack her. Other than that, I was the first college grad in my entire family on my mom's side. I have a good number of older cousins so it felt great to be first college grad despite my "disability". I've paved the way for my younger cousins. Now we have 4 college grads including me. Hopefully, my sister will join the ranks then she will have no reason to feel competitive with me.
I'm tolerated by them. I don't feel particularly close to my extended family. My immediate family (parents/sibling) are the main ones I make attempts with. I have extended family in the same area as my immediate family but I don't feel close to them (aunts, cousins, etc.). I'm only an hour away but, at times, it feels like a million miles. I'm somehow expected to maintain close relationships with my extended family just because my immediate family who lives close to them and has to participate in all their soap opera drama does. At times, my immediate family feels dysfunctional so I think that is why they need the extended family drama in their lives...because they are unsatisfied with their own lives. And, believe me, there is a lot of drama out of three female cousins who are grown up with families and their Mom (my Mom's sister) in the vicinity. It would blow your mind. They act like everything revolves around their lives and your either caught up in it or not. I choose not to be...because most of the time it is a disaster better left for a bad talk show. Too much stupid in-fighting and the like. Thanks...but no thanks. Plus, I don't feel them making an effort with me so why should I make an effort with them? Therefore, I'm happy with just seeing them on special occassions.
