I have a freind that pretty much went through the same thing. I dont know what it is about situations like these, but they seem to stick with guys. I guess I am one of the lucky ones. I mean my freind is married to a great girl and is STILL bitter. My advice, lock yourself in a room and play REM's everybody hurts all day. That should snap you out of it. If not, just try your best to live your life as normal. Maybe one day you only think about her 5 times a day, then a month later its down to 4. Hey its progress. Be strong, dont let it control you. . . . and good luck.
Sorry Mulder can't do that. Can't be considered a ex that posts the girls pictures online. Its a line that once crossed, you can never return from it. 5'5, Athletic/Thin with D's!! Flawless complexion and beautiful features. Very, very passionate too! Thats all for you though kids....
Married friends have wives with un-married sisters and friends. Use your friends to hook up with people.
Buck, I've been going through something similar for 6 months, I can understand. I'm 18 and I've been love struck for a certain girl who's 16, We were at first mutual friends, we started talking and connected really well. For a month or so things were going great, We both had crushes on each other and I was going to make a move on her, (I was head over heels, She was "the one" in my mind") Then one night she tells me how her ex boyfriend (who happens to be one of my best friends at the time) is the only person she really wants to be with and there's no one else in this town worth while. Ouch. Talk about being shut down, ...or so i thought, she finally gets back with this loser, and it turns out he's a drug dealing scumbag who has probably cheated on her at least twice, Still she says she wouldn't trade the last 3 months with him for anything. One time when I was alone with her we just discussed how we both had liked each other, She even admitted she probably screwed me over, But then just calls it "her flirtacious personality" and didn't mean to do it. Super Bowl Sunday then turned into one of the worst days of my life (Not just because I'm a Raiders fan) when I found out they got really freaky in the back of her car. Well, I have been working for almost 2 months now, and I had really forgotten about any chance with her. Normally I just focused on the fact that she doesn't want me and probably I'm just a 2nd option at best (and the got ass girls at work ) Well, I guess I'm still a b**** for love, just like you. Last week I hung out with her, started getting old feelings back, and now she's breaking up with the other guy and I'm wondering if maybe I have a chance now. We're mother****ing fools for love. My advice is to just tell her how you feel and if she feels the same way, great, if she doesn't, at least you're free from all the mind games, ups and downs, and general depressive states. Maybe I need to take my own advice too.
This is good advice, I was just about to suggest it. Another idea is to completely stalk her, follow her around, and call her all the time. Then she will file a restraining order and you will have no choice but to move on.
Kill her boyfriend. Seriously, sorry I don't have any advice or experience. Keep your head up though, time heals all wounds.
I feel for you man. The “one that got away” thing really sucks. I went through that right before I graduated college. I met the perfect girl a month before graduation and we were each moving very far away from each other to pursue our career goals. My only advice is that friends are very underrated in these situations. Even if all of your friends are all married, is there one that you are particularly close to and can speak openly with? If so, my best advice is to go have a few beers and talk about it with him even if you haven’t done so in the past. Good luck
good lord! This thread is still going around! LOOK! No matter what you think, if a woman breaks up with you, it is for a reason! Not necessarily your fault, believe me! But when a woman says "I don't want to see you anymore". It is the biggest F-you that a woman can give. MOVE on!!! She will always look at you from now on as her rebound guy. Tell the b**** to shove off! Talk to any man who has been in this situation. Hell, they've made movies about it. Unless you enjoy her telling her friends that you are her puppet, MOVE ON!! She is a worthless waste of typing space, dude.
There's some kind of formula for this re: time healing all. It sounds silly but I've found it to be pretty right on. I don't remember quite how it goes. Something like 1.5 times the amount of time you were together to really get over it, which means maybe you have a long recovery in front of you but which also means there's a light at the end. I've had some bad breakups. Mostly I've been the one calling it off but it's gone the other way too and there's nothing worse than that. But it absolutely gets better. It's never a good feeling to see the person again if you've really had your heart broken, but you'll think about it less and less and when you meet the person you're meant to be with that'll just cure all. Good luck, man. And stay strong.
Ask yourself, can't get over her = really love her? I think if you really love her that much, make sure you make it known to her. She will feel ya and eventually go back to you. You don't give up someone you truely love.
buck88: dunno how this'll help you man, but i'm roughly the same age you are and single too. back in high school, i was totally totally in love with our prom queen. i mean i thought she was the ONE. beautiful, smart, gentle, and loads of fun. but she had been taken by our class president. at the time, i was heart-broken, and i remained so throughout my 4 years of high school. each time i saw them together, i felt frustrated, alone, and a resigned jealousy i don't care to discuss. well. towards the end of high school, i went to my mentor/favorite teacher, who had 6 kids through 3 marriages. and i asked him "how the hell do i get over her? i dread the day that i'll have to leave this place and forever lose her, even though she's something i've never had..." He looked at me in silence. And then I asked "Is it true what they say? That there will always be better fish in the sea? Cuz right now, I'm finding it hard to believe... Has that been the case for you?" And he replied... ALWAYS! There's ALWAYS bigger and better fish in the sea. And not just when you're single. Even when you've married, there will always be one day you wonder whether you've made a mistake, because there will come a person who'll blow your socks off, make you want to leave your wife, or, if you're divorced, wonder why you ever missed her. Just don't settle for somebody you don't feel the ummph with. That's a formula for misery, as much as trying to love someone who doesn't love you back. Go out and try for the big fish every time my friend. You fail? So what? Just wait until the next one comes along. Well. It's been 10 years since i received his advice. And i tell you, the fishes do get bigger. And so long as you improve yourself, make some money, buy a house, read some books, visit the gym, make some new friends, learn to dance, you'll always find the fishes getting bigger. That's a blessing with us men. We grow stronger and more attractive with time, while woman grow old. And there will be a day, when that woman comes back to you, and you'll be telling her "BIATCH! WAIT IN LINE!" ----------------------- f.d. khan: come on, man. so what if she's divorced with kids? if she's the one, why would you let such a stupid thing get in the way of your happiness? divorced mothers are single women too. they need a man like any other woman. they can be good mothers like any other woman. they can make great lovers and great families like any other woman. i dunno. i kind of dig divorced single mothers, cuz you know they're serious about the relationship each and every time. that's unless you're not the marrying kind, or god forbid, have one of those virgin marriage hangups... not to say there's anything wrong with that... to each his own, to each his own...
I don't agree with this. I wouldn't let a girl know that you love her unless you already know that she loves you more first. If she doesn't, this will give her liscense to make you her whipping boy.
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