What age did you get married?

Now this is a post of yours that I agree with and/or understand well.

 

Where is the not an option choice in the poll?

 

I'm not married yet, but since it will probably be next year, I voted anyway (25-30).

Met at age 20 (both of us) and are now 27... got engaged in January. I'm a little slow, but we've basically been living together like a married couple for about 5 years now.

 

Well Moe pretty much knocked it out of the park with a lot of the stuff he said.

I would add though.... You really need to work on yourself man. You first have to learn how to be on your own and love yourself. If you can't think of yourself highly, no one else will. Women are like sharks and when you're pushover, they go in for the kill. You can't have your dick in one hand and your heart in the other. Women will take advantage of that really quick. You just need to stop looking and focus on you for right now. Things will always come your way when you least expect.

You might want to speak with someone professionally. They might be able to help you in certain areas where you struggle. Guys like you normally had issues that took place on the home front which does happen a lot. It's not a bad thing to seek professional help.

 

32 and not married yet and if this one doesn't work out you can all rest assured that I will never get married.

 

Cripes...you're 25.

Your biological clock shouldn't start ticking for another 10 years. (yet another advantage we have over the fairer sex -- even better then the ability to pee standing up).

Go out and have some fun. Join groups. Get a hobby. Learn to laugh. Be around girls. Relax.

 

If you're a sensitive or shy type, you're going to get hurt a lot. Don't take everything as failure on your part because thinking it's all on you will make you more prone to "fixing" a relationship instead of it taking its natural course, which is two people not working out and learning a little more of what they want in life.

You're wanting it too much, and my gut impression of what you're thinking is that the advice here sounds good but you don't know how to want it less. If you put p***y on a pedestal and treat them like flowers, then you might need to shift your approach and perception of women. It doesn't work and they can sniff and reject that a mile away.

So what did you want in an ideal woman? What did the last girl have that annoyed you? What were the dealbreakers that you chose to ignore?

And what do you want? Are other people or family putting their impressions and expectations on you? Maybe you don't have a purpose that you see you can do on your own. Either way it seems like your ambitions are undefined except for finding a woman and starting a family.

 

First of all, never take relationship advice from 20 year olds who have a half million posts on a message board. Chances are they talk a good game and obviously know everything but in reality they're just doing their best Troy Dyer impersonation without knowing it. Second of all, talk to your actual friends. People can give you all kinds of advice but nobody here really knows you and so while it's well intentioned it's poorly targeted. Thirst of all, just live your life. Do the things you've always wanted to do, visit the places you've always wanted to see, pursue the women you find attractive, and follow your aspirations. Get on with it, time stops for no man.

 

Not much to say that hasn't been said...but I will throw in this. Life is one fickle b**** and can make you suffer through loneliness but give you unending happiness the next. The point is not to wait for it happen to but live your life how you want to live it. The worse thing you can do is sit there and wonder why the "perfect" woman hasn't come into your life. Instead, you should go out and do what you enjoy...in which case you'll being do what you want and increase the chances you find that someone.

 

p***y on a pedestal is a universal disease. Almost every young man suffers from it. And with any disease, a change in lifestyle and diet can rid him of it.

 

No question but we really don't know his issues, he may not even know his issues.

 

The issues may not know his issues.

 

Married at 27. Been married for 2 weeks.

 

It's all downhill from there buddy! j/k

 

I recommend that you stop using basketball fans website to get relationship advice.

specially the horrid s hit you've read hear so far.

just be yourself. nothing else. it'll work itself out.

 

This. X1000

 

This could be the problem...