This. While your comment, You have to be able to say to yourself, "I want her, but I don't NEED her." ...has to be adaptive to when you're deep into a relationship and possibly living with someone you've finally figured out that you love, for where the OP is, it is perfect. Kudos!
Me 21 Her 20, that was 36 years ago this month. Since I don't live in the mainstream I won't offer much advice about staying married except you do it by wanting to do it. What motivates you to want to though is widely variable.
Man, that's some crazy stuff... just happened to stumble across this acticle, while not directly related to the topic at hand, it is inderctly tied to married... The Un-Divorced
There are more than 3 billion women in the world, most of whom you've never met. How can you say that the one you're with is the only one you could be happy with?
Actually, I'm happily married. I just happen to recognize that while I am very happy with my wife, she is not the only woman in the world that could make me happy.
Lol, DID YOU READ MY POST?!?! No but this one is right, I learned a lot from my first and it takes a lot to make a marriage work. That and not to marry a jealous, self absorbed, Puerto Rican. I'm just a hopeless romantic.
I'm 21 now, haven't even thought of marriage yet. Then again, I haven't been in a serious relationship.
Married at 22 and she was 19. Later I realized we were way too young. We divorced when I was 30 and found out she wasn't the person I thought she was from the start. I'd say marrying her was HUGE mistake, but I never would have got my son who IS and always will be the ONLY love of my life. There are no soul mates or the "right one". That's all fairy tale talk. It's all attraction (both physical and emotionally) and all chemicals produced in your brain that makes you feel "in love". OP, I know much being lonely and not having a companion sucks. But, you have PLENTY of time to find someone who will "complete you" and who you both can stand and work together as a team for the rest of your lives. For now, and take this from my experience, have your fun while you're still young.
I whole-heartedly subscribe to the Living Apart Together (LAT) relationship. the problem is trying to convince the other half.
I had a couple of girls who I was playing for sex for a while but then ended up becoming relationships (that usually doesn't happen in that order btw). Then it got to the point where they started talking about marriage and I was out the door cuz I wasn't ready (i'm 24). Point is, play the game playa lots of girls out there just be confident and if they're feelin u do your thing. Main thing with your viewpoint is that you need to find someone who's mentally at the same place you are. If they're ready to make the commitment the other person should be too, otherwise it's going to be a disaster. Life is better with company I'm feeling you there man but just remember lots of girls out there you won't be alone forever and your girl will be lucky you seem like a good person.
There is the idea that we cross paths with people in this lifetime from whom we are meant (destined) to learn from. The lessons may be to teach us humility, sacrifice, tolerance, patience, etc. In that regard, there certainly is the concept of the "right one". It may not be that the relationship lasts forever, but that it was one that was necessary. If the lesson isn't learned, it could be that the person, or another who can provide similar opportunities, repeatedly shows up in your life.
Me being 25 (getting old) was 1 of the 8 reasons I had for marrying my first wife. We didn't make it to our 1st anniversary. The other 7 reasons were equally as faulty - some even comical. I wish I could remember them all but too many years have passed since then. I do remember a moment of reflection where I went back over my 8 reasons. A head shaking day that was. As others have said - you are still young. Go out and have fun. That doesn't mean sew your oats, just don't focus on marriage. Either you will have a fun life or you will meet someone who wants to have the same kind of fun as you. And if you do find someone like that, those are the marriages that last. My 2nd wife and I have now been married over 20 years.
