I hope so. Just make sure to avoid that mid-life divorce that seems to happen after 15-20 years of marriage.
I find this notion of the "right person" to be highly dubious. As much as we all love the romantic notion of that one magic, special person, to me, it's all about timing and chemistry. When it happens, it happens and there is no guarantee that it will last. You just have to make the best of where you are right now.
Because then the thread would deteriorate into yet another boring and predictable "marriage vs. non-marriage" thread... Dude..... You have a LOT of time to find the person you're going to have 10 kids and spend the rest of your life with. I didn't get married until 38. You don't necessarily have to do it by age 24. LOL. I would suggest being on your own for a few years until you get over this need to constantly hide in a relationship.
I can actually admit now that my wife didnt find the right person in me, she made me 'mr right'. Been together with this woman for over 20 years now and its awesome. Has it been a fairy tale? Hell no. Good luck brother and keep your chin up and stay positive. Enjoy your life now.
I'm not that wise, the only reason I know a little bit about relationships is because I've made the mistakes firsthand and sometimes I learned through observation, but other times I had to find out the stove was hot by pressing my entire face right onto the burner. You sound like a pretty emotional guy, a guy who is a little more in touch with his feelings, perhaps you are a little more "love-centric" than other guys. You probably think "I have so much love to give". This isn't really a bad thing to be in the long run, in fact it bodes well for you and your long-term prospects. The problem is a lot of girls your age aren't ready for that kind of commitment. They will tell you they want a sensitive, caring man who is in touch with his feelings, open about his desires, his dreams. BULL****. They aren't ready for that kind of emotional intimacy. You give them that and watch how quickly you enter the dreaded FRIEND ZONE. They find that guy and it weirds them out because they aren't ready to deal with that. So they'll be more inclined to find a guy who looks nice, wears pink polo shirts, pops his collar, and has an IQ in the George W Bush range. Most people your age just want to have some fun and enjoy being young and stupid. You should do the same. Rule #1... Don't make yourself too available. This goes for anything... any relationship. Business, Friendship, Romantic, anything. The quickest way to really turn somebody off is to try and smother them. Your perspective shift has to come from within. If you really "care so much", then you need to start caring about yourself. Be selfish. You are young, nobody is as selfish and materialistic as twenty-somethings, we're all still too soon out of the nest to really know how to care about somebody else.
40 years old, never been married. One 4 year relationship and another 2 year relationship. Came close enough to make a couple payments on an engagement ring. Deal was, the girl in question had bridal magazines under her bed since she was 11. I suspected she wanted to get married and I was an acceptable candidate more than she wanted to marry me, in specific. That wasn't good enough for me. I'm not ruling out marriage, but at this point it's entirely possible I will go through this life without it. That isn't necessarily a good or bad thing. It just is what it is.
I found the 'right person' without use of magic, but plenty of timing and chemistry. Agreed, there are no guarantees, but so far I've not lost the feeling that I found the right person for me, and that's after decades of 'evaluation.' Could there be someone else in the world that would be also or more right? It's possible, but for me the point is moot. I have found a soul mate and have no reason to doubt her being the one after so many years.
You know what you need? A little comic strip called "Love Is...". It's about two naked eight-year-olds who are married...
Yep, and Jeff and macalu as well. Summary: Live for yourself, be a man around women (don't be an ass, but cut out most of the emotional stuff if you are that type), and with proper timing and chemistry it will happen without even trying.
Women love men who are passionate about other things besides women. Basically, have a life. Do something because you want to, not because you might meet a girl out of it. You can't tie your whole emotional well being to a woman...even if she's the best you've ever found. You have to be able to say to yourself, "I want her, but I don't NEED her." Until you've come to that realization, you'll always put the p***y on the pedestal. That only spells heartbreak.
"Strive to be attractive, novel and aloof and you will go far." -Ladder Theory www.laddertheory.com (There's always room for a Ladder Theory reference...)
Met her when we were 25, we are getting married in June 2011, we will both be 28. shocker that i found someone to tolerate me huh?
Maybe you're like my best friend was when he was single. He always acted like the perfect gentleman when he first met a woman. Then as time passed, he began acting his normal self. The problem was, the women he dated didn't like who he really was. Act like yourself from day 1 and you stand a better chance of keeping someone who likes who you really are.
