Hang her out to dry man. Put her out to pasture. Hmm, those are bad puns. But really, let her go. It may suck for a week or so, but you will soon be over it. She may indeed call you sometime, but don't count on it. DO NOT call her, under any circumstances. Place little post it notes on the phones around your place if you have to, reminding you to be strong...but don't call.
Take the money you would ordinarily spend on dating her and buy a Gamecube instead. Mario would never treat you this way.
Take her dancing man. Try to get a couple of your friends together and some of their girlfriends or girls they like and take the group to somewhere where they will play some upbeat dance stuff. If you can swing that is great, but don't do country or anything slow and sappy. You want to tap into this girl's primal instincts and you have to claim her from this guy. Girls love to be claimed, decisively. Once you and her get a couple drinks in you (don't get wasted) kiss her on the dance floor. If she don't like it move on...
Just make sure you take your car too, and park it in a dark spot. What's the rule again? "10 minutes in the car, 5 minutes in the girl?" Have to check with Tony.
Hello? Are you two communicating clearly? What did she mean by that? You only called her umpteen times and let it be known that you called. If she never calls you and/or calls you back, then she is the problem. Did you tell her it was off or did you tell her she didn't have to go? Now, your not even sure what she's doing? I'm confused. Are you still going to the concert with her or alone? She either likes you or she doesn't. THERE IS NO...."BUT THIS OTHER GUY" crap. If she really likes you, then this other guy is noone. I'm sorry she is so indecisive that she can't figure out who she wants to be with. She doesn't deserve you if that's the case. All you have done is everything a guy should do to win the girl. And, all you get is played against another guy in her own little relationship game. I would be just like you...wondering what the future holds with this girl. Get drunk and lean over to kiss her...then vomit on her. Tell her you couldn't decide between vomitting and kissing her cheek. I know...I'm a meanie. I just don't like seeing a fellow BBSer put his heart into someone who can't figure out who or what she wants.
Frankly...that's what I would do...minus the dancing. Take her out to a fun evening. Nothing serious or romantic...just fun. Have a few drinks and kiss her. If she slaps you then you know she doesn't think of you that way.
Nah, she seems like the type that would make him do all the stuff to her, and that he should be happy that he gets to make her happy. B
This thread can be the script for Saving Silverman part 2 starrring Manny Ramirez and the cast of Clutchcity BBS Hangout.
Since you've put your private life up for discussion : I think you should keep trying. Refman seems to have some hope. The rest believe she is stringing you along with psycho head games and masked messages and that you should run quick. (Or at least counter with head games of your own). Interesting that none of the women have responded. I know of many relationships where the man has had to pursue his girl for a long time. It would be much easier if she simply fell mad in love with you, quickly realized this, and anxiously let you know immediately so you could start your blissful life together. How can she not possibly know exactly what she wants and be secure in her feelings and confident enough to let you know in no uncertain terms??? Perhaps she is insecure too? Remember, this girl is not a player. She may be struggling with her feelings too. If you shut the door and expect her to come chasing you, she may misinterpret this as a lack of interest on your part. Possibly she's posting her confusion on some obscure message board as we speak. If you enjoy your time together If you respect her ideas (even if you don't agree with them) If you laugh and make her laugh If she inspires you If you want to know more about her and are genuinely interested in her ideas If you look forward to your time together If you trust her If you share key values then maybe you shouldn't give up on her yet. If she's all that, don't pass her up because of that other chump. He doesn't have her yet, or she wouldn't be seeing you. Chivalry However, if you find she's lying to you, or using you, then try to recognize this before you get hurt. I think it's early yet. Also, if you find yourself stalking her from the roof of WholeFoods and tracking her every move, maybe back off a bit. Again -- this is none of my business -- but what the hey. She’s got to be more fun than running popularity contests with you imaginary (but very insightful) friends. Just sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong. Good luck. As always, disregard any, or all of my ramblings.
Amen. Your situation is somewhat similar to what I went through. Sorry to hear that it happened to you. Sounds like the only thing you can do is move on, and if she's interested she'll make that decision. My advice would be not to sit around and sulk over it. Don't drag yourself down by constantly thinking about her, rather than doing things that will make you get past it and be happy again.
I told Manny to ditch this girl two weeks ago: http://bbs.clutchcity.net/php3/showthread.php?s=&threadid=46044 I still stand by that advice.
I've swapped allegiances. I'm with Mrs. JB. I'd dump her just because I couldn't snog her (*and*, at the critical moment, she brings up the other guy). Jeez. See if she actually makes an effort to ring *you* at some point after days or weeks without contact. *Then* we might have some hope... Ref: *fifth* date is tonsil hockey? God, conservative women have some ridiculous dating rules...
Then again I've also dated women where it was tonsil hockey PRIOR to the first date and doing the horizontal bop on the third date. I just figured I'd give Manny the timeline for the most conservative girl I have known. And yes...I did in fact "know" her in "that" sense...after a while.
That's a good point. For future reference, it is always a good idea to get a date in an environment rich with deep, throbbing bass and vodka. As much as this sucks, you are doing the right thing, Manny. The kiss on the cheek is the kiss of death...for her. You deserve better than this woman and you'll find her...have faith in yourself. Don't worry about finding *a* relationship- don't settle for anything else than *the* relationship that is best for you. At the very least this should include a blow job by the fourth date!
This reminds me of a really bad 80s film... GUY: Wanna ****? Girl slaps him GUY: So I guess a blow job is out of the question. GIRL: Not necessarily. I can't remember which bad movie it was but it was damned funny.
