Blind dates suck... in my experience, your friends have no idea who's going to have chemistry and who won't. Your parents would probably only be worse. (the whole "pathetic" factor aside) This is why I keep my mom miles away from my dating life unless something is serious, but some people live too close and don't have the option. I guess blind dates work for the same people that Internet dating, and dating services, work for: the people who can have a list of what they want in a partner and be happy when they see someone who fits the list. That may describe a lot of people. For me, there's no substitute for knowing the person and whether you would be mutually attracted as a couple or not; that often doesn't even end up matching your original list.
Blind dates do suck, but if you've at least talked a little on the phone or email, it makes it a lot easier...Just tell your mom you want to go out with "easy" girls...
My first date (post separation from my first wife) was with the daughter of one of my mom's friends. This lady was a lawyer. She was nice and all but I wasn't particularly attracted to her and I felt kind of uncomfortable back at her place. The year was 1990 or 91. We went to Rockefellers to hear Jerry Jeff Walker. It was a fun evening, but I never called her again. Remember, I was just visiting and lived 1200 miles away...
go for it. seduce her, then dump her. harsh words will go around and your mother will be angry at you for placing her in bad standing with her friend but she'll stop trying to set you up. this works.
So When your mom is setting you up, what's her motive? She wants you to get laid? And she hides this with she's a "nice girl" or she's "cute" = not hot and sweaty? But once again, when you filter through all the euphimisms, are they trying to help you get laid? Just creepy.
If you don't want your mother getting involved in your personal affairs, tell her. After awhile, she will understand.
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My mom has good taste in people and she knows what I like. I don't think I'd balk if she tried to fix me up. Knowing my mom, the girl would be a knockout.
My mom has tried this under the guise of showing her friends daughters around. Especially when they're visiting from way down south. My mom usualy follows up with "you know she really likes it here." As if I'm going to marry the broads just so they can score a green card. I've had some friends set me up with females. But lately they've stopped as I've gotten the "friend f*cker" label. Not that I care, I'm still trying to get with ultra cute 1960' hipster DJ chick.
interesting theory of the motives of moms. I'll stick with my Ockam's Razor theory that moms (and friends) who do this are just bored looking for projects...or they have a Julie McCoy complex. allow me to chuckle at your naivete for a second. ha haha hahaha ... sigh...that was just not fulfilling at all. What, are you my mom? Isabel strikes me as the type of girl my mom and her mom would pick for me to call for a blind date. hp: "hello, my name is hp. Your mom gave my mom your phone number. So..." isabel: "oh god, not again. I'm sorry, I'm sure you're a nice guy, but I don't do blind dates set up by my mom." hp: "right. ok then..." hp: [awkward silence] isabel: [pregnant pause] hp: "Well, do you want to just try some sweaty sex, instead, or are you just going to wank yourself asleep again tonight." isabel: "I'm going to kill my mom." hp: [silence] isabel: "um, well, you don't really fit my list, but ..." yes, but has it happened? sounds like this has not happened to you and you are speculating how it would play out. "Actually" (as you like to say a lot ) it sounds like your mom is wise enough to know it is awkward to set her son up with blind dates of her friends' daughters.
I wouldn't let my mother try to pick out a shirt for me, much less a woman (aside from the fact that I am married and that would be really wrong for her to do). My mother wanted to buy me clothes for my birthday. I told her not to because she has no idea. She buys me clothes, anyway. I got some solid colored t-shirts and elastic waisted shorts (shudder). She was sure I wore clothes like that. At least they were from Saks, though, so I could exchange them for a pair of jeans. Anyway...getting back to that goofy picture of heyp dancing. Maybe if you didn't do that and wear newborn blue caps with canary yellow silk shirts you would not have to suffer your mom's desperate attempts to overcome "the heyp factor".
heyp, what do I know? Yet. One of the finest marriages I've ever seen was started by the husband's mom. She set up the whole thing. It is a beautiful thing to behold now. And for the record, I do not think Rice grads should hook up. (shudder). Sincerely, B-Bob, not B_Bob but also sometimes Kill_Panna_Cotta
First Jeff now heypartner? Poor Isabel. Perhaps the only thing worse than mommy hooking up a blind date is ClutchFans BBS. B-Bob (shudder).
I'm ok with blind dates, as long as they are not setup by one's mom. But then again, it's not like you'd have to see this girl again the next day at work. Bad mistake, for me. If things didn't work out, just treat it as a practice in honing your communication skills
