I've given up on believing in the idea there is "the one" (outside of a Jet Li movie). I've seen a lot of people get married thinking they've found "the one" only to end up getting into an ugly divorce later on. I've seen people say they've found "the one" two or three times. IMO a relationship is something that is always evolving and changing and also somethign that takes a lot of work to maintain. This idea that you will have one true love that carries you through the end of time I think is more of a cultural creation rather than something that is truly innate to us as humans. This is obviously a hypothetical question but for me I find it harder to accept the idea of finding a magical "one true love" than of getting $10 million. Not to say that doesn't happen to a lot of people but then again there are people who win the lottery or making a killing on the stock market or gambling.
This question is flawed because you are asking people who probably have never had either. The general goal in life is to be happy, I would say. 10 million dollars can make you happy for a while, but I don't think it can sustain a lifetime of pleasures and appreciation like true love can. Look at those people who win the lottery and within 5 years are worse off than where they were beforehand. Accumulation of material possession only leads to desiring more. It is an endless cycle. Especially in America where we run on greed. We have every modern day convenience but it isn't enough. We want things faster. We want things more efficient, and when we don't get our Starbucks Latte just the way we ordered it, we complain while other people starve to death. I have a different perspective on life than most. Most of you guys have grown up in the middle class to upper-middle class societies where your parents drove it into your brain that you needed to go out and get the best grades so you can get into the best school so you can get the most money so you can buy the most stuff and that will eventually make you happy. I grew up in a poor family, but my extended family was very wealthy. Yet I saw how we could all be happy. It was in what they did for humanity more than themselves. My extended family made a lot of money, and they sent their kids to good schools and they gave a lot of money to charity and church. My family was poor, but we helped those in need when we could. We didn't have much, but we had each other. I guess it was a terrible thing when I realized I needed to go out and make a lot of money or else I was going to be a failure. There is nothing wrong with accumulating wealth. It is usually an attribute to hard work paying off. But I think only if you work hard to attain the things you have can you truly appreciate it, sadly this also can make you stingy. I watch things like that advent conspiracy where they say 10 Billion dollars would solve the world's water crisis and we spend 17 Billion dollars on makeup in America in a year and it makes me sick. We've been given so much, and we give so little back.
You can have true love and still be unhappy if you're going through hard times. I'm 20 and I'm not in love right now so give me the money. I guess if you're married right now you're answer would be true love. But I'm 20 and struggling to get a job so the 10 mil is a no brainer for me.
there are a whole mess of suffering, and you can only do what you can. it is what it is as for the true love thing, i'd choose the money. in the words of charles barkely, "i've been poor and i've been rich, rich is better." that doesn't make you a bad person.
I took the question as what you choose one over the other.... The gold digger would find ways to get at your money, such as through marriage or spawning leverage that gives her monthly payments.
Me to my female mate: If you love me you'll know its whats on the inside that counts, not what I prove to you or buy for you...The sincerity of my heart, my actions express my love. But coooooome on, how many women REALLY agree with this love principle? 99 out of a 100 will forego that amateur eligibility and enter themselves into the marriage draft. I dont think I'm being unreasonable by not making my life a journey to find the .03 % who can reciprocate my definition of true love. I'm not being less assholey telling a woman leave my money alone, than a woman making it obvious there needs to be some sort of financial investment in her to make it work. Princesses dont marry paupers. Thats why its a big story when they do. Obviously, I'm taking the money.
hmm... let me clarify what "never" means there's a chick whom you've known for all your life. she's a perfect 10 for you. her rich dad thinks you're a tool and offers you 10mil to leave her. if you say yes: she finds out and marries a douche who sends you xmas pictures of them going at it, just to piss you off. you're about a 5.0 so you're only able to find hot gold-diggers with personalities of cardboard. if you say no: her dad cuts her off and you start at dollar 1. you're forced to live in your parents basement cuz she's got bad credit. hope that helps
I actually agree with Hmm for the most part (and minus the condescending tone). Interesting. wooooo head!
Good stuff, that spells it out. Some good support there for true love...But also after reading your other responses you changed the standards as you went, to where its even now stricter to - If you take the $10 million, NO woman will EVER TRULY love you EVER or again. Hmm, can get all serious about it but to me its straight do you value freedom or do you value commitment? Are you good at giving without receiving? I dont live anything remotely close to a James Bond life, A Batman/Bruce Wayne life were having relationship commitments complicates the constant heroic deeds of keeping peace in the world. But I could maybe give to those less fortunate, see the smiles on other people'sfaces by doing good deeds for society. Feel rewarded for my time in life for SOMETHING, while banging a few loose chickenhead broads on the side. I'ma loser. $10 mil before love.
i was just using the rich father thing as an analogy. basically, 10mil or true love? there's no conditions on the 10mil except one-you can't have true love ever again.
I'd take the 10 million dollars over true love, also I would take.... a life free of cancer and illness over true love a superpower (like in comic books) over true love owning a castle for free over true love a 40,000 bars of gold over true love... What can I say I am not much of romantic or believe in soul mates?
Apparently the devil gave this lady a choice and she figured she already had 59 years of 'true love' and now chose the money. lol j/k http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20090104/ap_on_re_us/lottery_legacy
