I call b.s. on this one. I saw many stupid Asians when I was in college who had trouble passing classes. The stereotype that Asians are smart is fading.
BetterThanI said it best, differing opinions on what works and what doesn't. I don't put too much stock with what child psychologists say. I spend enough time with academia and intellectuals to realize many of them know little about life, much less make definitive statements on how to discipline kids. There also seems to be a racial divide between how they punish their children (the few that believe in marriage and family) i.e. time-outs vs. physical force. On child rearing, I will do my best to discipline my children the same way my parents did my siblings and I: corporal punishment like spanking. Until a few years after puberty, I think kids are entirely under the domain of parents. They are not adults, and they will be raised in the way the parent sees fit. Never once did I embarrass my parents in public by throwing a tantrum, talking back to them, or speaking when I should've been quiet. I remember other adults would remark on how disciplined we were. I can't say the same for my friends of which neither was ever subjected to corporal punishment. Again, there was a clear racial divide but that's for the D&D.
Hah a cold shower is not punishment... when I was kid..living with my parents brothers and 2 uncles living with us.. a cold shower was all I ever had...cause all the adults would use up the hot water... hot sauce??? indian food is spicy and the spicer is is.. the more I like it... I don't agree with people talking about punishing/spanking kids will traumatize them and haunt them for ever.. honestly coming from a south asian family... I got my ass beat... many people would consider it abuse.. but hey i turned out fine... there is a difference when parents spank there kids for no legitimate reason and completely neglect them.. and when the parents show em love most of the time but when the kid makes mistakes.. they should deserve an ass whoopin... If anyone wondering what kind of punishment I got.. well here it goes... hit with a belt (yes the buckle too).. a spatuala.. a broomstick...a boot.. random places on the body majority back or butt.. a quick touch of a hot frypan on the thigh or inner bicep area... slapped in the face.. pinched.. etc... and you know what.. I don't consider it abuse.. I'm glad my parents kept me in check like that.. I turned out fine.. I respect my parents.. I graduated both high school and college.. I got a job.. I'm doing fine.. I didn't get psychologically scarred.. So when I say this kid doesn't have it bad at all compared to how I had it.. I mean it.. More props to this mom.. I'm surprised thats all she did was hot sauce and a shower.. not even once did she spank him and people consider this insane and the OP titled this thread "this mom should die"???? for what?? raising her kid and punishing him when its deserved???
cold water and spicy condiments.... oh no!! big whoop. the women crying in the video make me laugh. seriously? this isn't even abusive.
Fine? You obviously lost the ability to spell. I'm eh on the whole thing. I got spanked my entire life, both through Parents and through school. I'm sure I'm better due to it. My point is it does nothing in the longer scheme of things.
wow i knew some smartass was gonna comment on spelling..grammar rules.. etc... my bad i took this to be a online forum but i guess i forgot that majority of the users are composition professors????
I don't think Asians are innately smarter, but Asian parents do beat their kids. My parents beat me with a cane till I was 6. I have friends who were still getting spanked at 12. Russell Peters sums it up: <object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/Nn5jlrxcpkI?fs=1&hl=en_US"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/Nn5jlrxcpkI?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object>
Generalize much. Not all Asian kids get spanked and I doubt most get spanked with a cane. I'm all for spanking a kid on their booty when they need to be reset but requiring equipment is just too much.
lol! Of course not all Asian kids get spanked. I was speaking from my own experience of getting hit with a cane as well as seeing my friends get spanked. My point in relation to the OP is there are Asian parents that hit their kids, and the beatings would make what the mom is doing in the vid look tame. You can argue about the percentages, but if what the woman in the vid is doing is considered child abuse, and if even a miniscule percentage of Asian parents are beating their kids, then that's a whole lot of parents out there who are guilty of "child abuse".
So you had to be hit in order to respect your parents? There aren't more positive, healthier ways of gaining the respect of a child? Hitting comes into play as a last alternative, when the parent says, "ok, I give up". There are ways to have a child listen and obey without the need to get physical.
I'd like to interrupt to indicate: there's a difference between "hitting" and "spanking." The terms are not interchangeable.
To a lot of idiots, they are. Of course "no child left behind" also tries to show that there are no stupid children. Of course, we all know better. And we wonder why America is falling behind?
thats way too much. i mean the kid is what 5? Good way to tramatize your kid, everytime they do something wrong or bad they should expect drastic punishment. I have a 5 year old nephew and i feel bad if i even scream at him. Maybe im way too relaxed with him. But I just dont believe in instilling fear into a child.