Your parents could have disciplined you without the spanking. Getting physical isn't the only means of getting through to the child. In more cases than not, the act of this kind of abuse is more negative than positive. Also, as evidenced by the video, the child is a repeat offender...the hot sauce and cold shower obviously is not curtailing the behavior. Discipline is completely necessary in raising a child.,.any form of physical punishment, however, is completely unnecessary.
What makes you think you wouldn't be better off without the spankings? Just bc you are "normal" now doesn't mean you're definitely better off. There are thousands and thousands of studies that show the negative effects of this form of discipline. A regular spanking is much different than what this mother did in the video...I don't think the two are nearly on the same level.
I agree with everything you say. It's just a matter of degree. Just because you or I may have experienced something worse and survived does not make this ladies approach more acceptable.
you're wrong. abuse is abuse. discipline is not abuse. physical punishment completely unnecessary? that's just, like, your opinion, man.
The mother in the video doesn't know the first thing about discipline. Again, if you have to resort to getting physical to have a child listen, then you should rethink your approach.
I have probably worked more with children than anyone on this message board. In my day to day life, my patient base is approximately 90% under the age of 10. 5% between 10-15. And 5% above the age of 15. I see approximately 30 patients a day. You can do the math regarding how many children I deal with. When dealing with a pediatric patient base, the number 1 most difficult aspect is patient management. There is no difficulty in the actual treatment of children...rather, its how you manage their psychological well being that is the key to success. If you'd like, I can write details about the psychological mindset of children and what it takes to make them cooperate. Striking fear into a kid is not a solution, I'll tell you that right now...and the mom in that video, is using scare tactics to try to prevent future misconduct from her son...if anything, that kid is just becoming more fearful to admit failure to the mother in the future. Its impossible to be perfect as a 6 year old and children will make mistakes...so striking fear into a kid only makes them more scared to be honest when a mistake is made. And I dont have children of my own...but Ive been an instrumental figure in 2 of my nieces and nephews lives, as Ive played a big part in raising them.
Agreed, talking is better or just be like Whitney... <object width="480" height="385"><param name="movie" value="http://www.youtube.com/v/bKOKpdUocac?fs=1&hl=en_US"></param><param name="allowFullScreen" value="true"></param><param name="allowscriptaccess" value="always"></param><embed src="http://www.youtube.com/v/bKOKpdUocac?fs=1&hl=en_US" type="application/x-shockwave-flash" allowscriptaccess="always" allowfullscreen="true" width="480" height="385"></embed></object>
Oh how very wrong you are. I worked with more than your "30 a day" before 8am this morning. Monday through Friday, I teach over 150 kids in one day, ranging from 5-11 years old. On Fridays, it's 300 kids. In one day. The next week, I see a different group of 300 kids. Not to mention YMCA after school. In my two week rotation, I teach almost 700 kids. I've seen every conceivable discipline strategy in practice, because I get to see the product of those strategies, their kids, show up in my classroom. I get to see if what Mom and Dad are doing outside of the classroom is making a positive difference in their kids behavior. Don't presume that you're the end-all, be-all of child discipline. Fact is, there are differing opinions on what works and what doesn't.
Whats your position and your role...and how long have you worked at the YMCA.? You deal with kids that are there for fun and activity...I deal with kids that are scared ****less. I have a barrier that I have to fight through with each and every child. Totally different roles...as mine has much more to do with child psychology, behavior, and management. Do some research on physical discipline and come back so we can have a discussion...there are better ways to get through to a child than to get physical with them. This is not an opinion...sure, you might get through to a child by spanking them...but in more cases than not, there are better means to achieve the desired result, without the risk of a side effect. EDIT: If you dont want to look up scientific studies, just google "Does physical discipline work?". Thats a fair and balanced question...but you'll pretty much get a one sided answer.
Actually, if you read what I wrote, you'll see that I mentioned I'm a teacher. Elementary classroom teacher. I also work with the YMCA, but for the most part, my kids aren't there for "fun and activity". They are there to be taught. Some are willing and excited. Some are resistant and defiant. Some are disturbed and depressed. All are under my purview, and I have to reach all of them. And I also have to find disciplinary strategies that work with them, all while coexisting with the discipline strategies they experience at home. So I have some experience with what works and what doesn't, not with one specific type of child, but the entire spectrum. Actually, it is. It's an opinion. You may say that it's an opinion shared by child psychologists, but it's still an opinion. Physical discipline can and does work for some: I'm living proof.
