Hmmm...kids can be turds when allowed to. They will do whatever they can get away with. If the parent allows that to happen, most of the responsibility falls on the parent to discipline and part on the child. Telling the kid or parent anything is always risky because a confrontation can ensue and escalate quickly. Today, I took my kids to Chuck-e-Cheese. My kids told me that a bigger kid grabbed my 4 year old and tried to scare him while they were in the tubes. As soon as I ID'ed the kid, I told him to keep his hands off my child, in a very stern voice. His eyes opened up and he avoided the tubes the rest of our stay. Turns out his momma was sitting right across from us at the tables. I hope she saw me tell her brat something.
If the kid's mom allows her kid to be that rude in public, you would've have gotten a mouthful from her had you said anything to her about her kid. No matter how bad your kids are, you aren't going to let some stranger tell you about it. It's like the truth isn't what they want to hear. You did the right thing by brushing it off your shoulder.
how is dwelling on it and saying "this country is going to hell" - brushing it off your shoulder? i consider brushing it off your shoulder as being getting over it and not overreacting to a mild situation.
Honestly You should have talked to the mother SHAME is a powerful thing I think it is a underutilized emotion Question: What could she have done to make it right for you? I mean . . I've seen folx kids do something then the people would be like oops sorry [weak halfassed apology] As Stack24 mentioned The lack of discipline and punishment in this country is ridiculous The government wants to limit how u raise your kids then hold you responsible for their actions [actions you could not curtail because of government regulation] ALSO M, I think this world is dying because we don't speak up we have been SSSOOOO ingrained to NOT be a tattletale that we tolerate any and everything . .and bite our tongues Rocket River
I'm not against your frustration, because what the kid did was wrong, but don't blame society and America. If some kid slammed the door in my face, I would ask the child straight out why he did it and hope that his mother took my side. If she supports her kid, then kindly respond with, "My parents didn't raise me to slam doors in peoples faces" and walk away. Hopefully she'll think about it eventually. If not, she doesn't deserve having children. Children don't deserve to be raised with an attitude that they expect special treatment or free rides or what ever they can take. I learned fast that you deserve what you earn. My dad busted me for everything. He was always one step ahead of me and for that, he was a great parent.
she probably grinned and laugh and reminded him about it several times later Amazing thing Parents of out of control kids. . . to an extent enjoy seeing someone DISCIPLINE their kid . . .where they cannot Rocket River
Interesting how a boy slamming a door in front of you created this story... He is mean. He is undisciplined. His mother allows it. His mother is a bad mother. Kids these days are terrible. The country is going to hell. That's quite a leap to make from one incident. A guy cut me off today in traffic. My first thought wasn't that the world sucks. My first thought was, "Maybe he didn't see me." Then, I noticed that he made the "I'm sorry" wave and I realized that is exactly what happened. He made a mistake and apologized. End of story. I'm not saying it was ok to do that to you. Just wondering why it went from this one relatively insignificant incident to the country is going to hell.
Dude, half the threads on this forum are for people to rant and rave about small things in their life (I know I do that all the time). Why is everyone jumping on this poor dude's back? Let him be for goodness sake!
Well Deckard what you posted wasn't where I was really going - I was more coming from the view that MFW must have posted a lot of incendiary (sp?) stuff and considering I don't see much of his posts here; I thought maybe he posted in the D&D. I also thought I recalled him posting some stuff that was very pro-PRC government, but I might be confusing him with some other poster with a very similar handle. But at any rate, I don't see the need for everyone coming down on him so hard - it reminds me of a beatdown on Trader_Jorge or bigtexxx except MFW is not really responding back like the Rice gang does. Maybe people think he is a racist, but I don't see how they can come to that conclusion from one post on a message board. Maybe I am being naive here, but I don't see it. If anything, he probably should have not started this thread until he calmed down. It is amazing what you will post if you are upset (been there, done that ).
Hmm, the more I think about it, I will agree that he overreacted in saying that "the country is going to hell", but I'll cut him some slack as he might have had some other bad things happen to him today.
i'm not jumping on his back...i'm just pointing out a major overreaction by him in a much less civilized way than how Jeff just stated.
That's it. We need the Tossed Salad Man in schools. If I had to choose between the Tossed Salad Man and the electric chair, I'd be like where do I plug it in? Shouldn't I be wet first? ~ Chris Rock
hell i use to shoot spit balls through straws at people at mcdonalds. hell one time I put a sprinkler up on this doorstep and knocked and ran. i wetted toilet paper and threw at peoples bedroom windows. kids nowdays just have different ways of goofing and pranking. just laugh at him next time. say that was a good one you almost got me. if it would have hit you in the face then that would have been different, you would have had every right to beat the hell out of him and his mamma.
Jeff- Sure the last one is an overreaction. The second to last one is stretching it. But, the first four, how can you deduct anything else from his behavior?
Seriously It's ridiculous. Dude is a racist and a complete incompetant bigot because of the way some little brat acted? Keep that D&D bull**** out of here please. That is the reason it was formed.
i believe the rest of Jeff's post points out that another conclusion could be drawn - maybe the kid just didn't see him (as was the case in the traffic incident).
Manny, I just wish more Hangout mavens posted in D&D. Things are really slow in there. Maybe it's the Summer doldrums or something, but a lot of folks who used to post there either don't any longer because they just don't want to, for whatever reason, or they're history. And MFW and I have a little history... enough for me to have him as the only resident on my ignore list. I popped in here to see why he thought the country was going to hell, and was surprised that it came from such a common incident. Common, but still damned aggravating. If one of my kids did that they'd face severe punishment. I don't do the corporal thing... we don't believe in it (although I got wacked on the butt with Dad's belt fewer times than I deserved!). I understand his frustration. I would just tell him that, from my experience, it's a minority of kids who are like that, and it's usually the fault of Mom and Dad for not being fair and consistent in how they discipline them. If one of my two children gets out of line, which is rare, thank goodness, I don't care where we are or what the social situation is... I take them outside and read them the riot act. (sometimes I think I should probably get an Academy Award, lol!)
