Oops, nevermind. I'll go out on a limb and assume H.S. stands for Homer Simpson. Back to the topic at hand, perhaps you should talk to her about how you feel. Like one poster stated, perhaps she's growing anxious and weary at the fact that you haven't proposed to her... maybe? The only way to find out is to talk to her about it. However, if you're already having doubts, then it may be best for both of you to part ways.
damn, im going thru the same stuff. I feel just like she doesnt respect me at time and im thinkin about cuttin everything off, i dont know what to do tho becuase i know i still have feelings towards her..
She's brought up marriage but is treating you coldly? I think yall are too young to talk about marriage, but that's just my flea bitten opinion. I would read Meggo's post in this thread and follow it.
Ditch, ditch, ditch. Every single time I've felt feelings similar to yours, I've ended up talking to them, breaking up, and getting back together. ONLY to discover that yeah I did the get back together just in the passion of the moment type deal, and ended up a few weeks later breaking up for good. I hate breakups, I hate them a lot, but its a lot better to do it now than years down the road when yall are married or engaged, etc.
You won't break her heart if she truely isn't in it for love. It is a really shtty feeling knowing that she doesn't feel the same way for you, I've been there. Go your separate ways now, and feel down for a few weeks. Things will get better.
Just for a little irony, I'll say that every time a thread like this is started, the poster automatically knows the answer. It's just funny how advice works sometimes. We know exactly what we need to do, but sometimes we feel better if other people agree with what we want them to say. Not knocking you at all, just a dark humor post on the whole matter.
absolutely true abso-f'n-lutely true it hasnt been 6 months let alone a year yet man? you're young you can and will find someone better than her. you just need to train yourself to be able to cut her out of your life after you do break up with her. find something or someone else to help take your mind off of things. i used to have lingering doubts before when i broke up/got dumped with my ex-es but one of my friends who i thought was a bit mean in the way he just cut people out of his life when things went south actually taught me something pretty useful he never let people who may have hurt him in the past effect him today.
5 months is an eternity if you are RM95. Rushing into marriage is one of the worst mistakes you can make IMO. And yes, I know sometimes rushed marriages do last, but most the time they don't.
Yep. Been there done that. If you break up, stick with it - don't get back together in a week or two during the passion of the moment.
I've noticed (for better or worse) that the better looking the girl is, the more she can get away with. Some of the most beautiful people have the most twisted relationships. The only times I've been severely emotionally distressed, it's been in a relationship with someone prooobably better looking than me. There's no greater threat to a young hormone driven male than losing good lovin'. The good advice in these threads always suggest communication. It's either going to be the cure-all or the end-all. Write out talking points beforehand so it doesn't feel like trying to diffuse a bomb. Keep in mind that you're only 22. Think how differently your mind worked at age 12 and imagine how differently it'll work at 32.
tell her when you become a doc youre going to work in a 3rd world country for peanuts. see what her response is then.
You are 22 and have only been dating for 5 months? If she acts like this after only 5 months, cut her loose No way she makes it through 4 years of med school and a crap paying 4+ years of residency.
Are you in med school yet? If not, when do you start? Here's the deal. If you're getting doubts, best to end the relationship before you start school, or if in school, during a time when you can rebound and it not affect your studying. This probably means ASAP assuming you're not looking at finals soon. Truth is, it takes either a very strong relationship or a very casual relationship to survive grad school. The other person needs to understand your need to study, be alone during finals, etc. Having done both, grad school (law school in my case) is easier single. Lucky for me, my last ex dumped me the day after Christmas, which was only lucky because it was after finals. (the stupid wh*re was planning an affair with a married man for a month BEFORE she dumped me, but I digress...) I totally relate to your gold-digging concerns, though I'll tell you that may be a false positive just because the true gold-diggers are pretty good at keeping you happy and not tipping their hands. She may just be cheating
