That's a tough one. I think so highly of my Dad-he's gonna be my Best Man-that I think him lying and covering up something like that would break my heart. I'd be much more disappointed and think less of him rather than really being upset about it. Note to self: Hire professional.
let it go. seven years ago. no harm meant. what possible good can come from confronting him. forgive and forget. (the forget part is the hard part!).
If I were you, I'd cut off the head of a horse and set it by his bed while he is sleeping. When he wakes up, he'll realize that he should never lie to you again. Ok, now seriously, I would just do like what most of the people advised. Either let it go, or if you must bring it up, just kind of joke around about it with him and see what he does. Of course, why you would be taking advice like this from a 17 year old who knows nothing about what it feels to be married is beyond me.
What kind of relationship do you have with your Dad where your Dad feels it is necessary to go to the extent he did and lie all about it? I would expect nothing but honesty in regards to what happened and nothing else. If my Dad ever lied to me about such an incident, then I would have a hard time relying on him or being honest with him. I would come to resent him in a way. Better to confront and get the truth to reconcile than it is to go on as if nothing ever happened while Dad's(and possibly Mom's) lie is in place for life. If your Dad made a mistake, then he should 'fess up. There is no sense in compounding the incident by lying on top of it. Very strange behavior coming from a Dad if you ask me. Confront him, have it out, make up, and move on.
At what point in your life would you be so bored that you would actually watch your wedding video?\ Cut him some slack, I'm sure it was just a mistake that he is so embarassed about he felt compelled to lie. Forgivness and familial relationships are much more important than an old tape. Laugh it off and live happy.
Wife is pregnant and hormonal....she suddenly said she wanted to watch it. I've learned in the past 3 months of pregnancy to say "yes". And Faos....we tried to get the video from him, but he "didnt want us messing anything up on his camera." (the irony!) My brother is getting married in 8 months, I was thinking about telling Dad that maybe he should hire a video guy who knows what he's doing. Like I said before, I am only pissed about the lie and framing my uncle. Dirty, dirty pool. I dont care about the tape. I'd rather watch Caddyshack.
I expect lies from my father. Of course, if he had taped my wedding, I'd have ended up with a couple of hours of footage of his feet as he walked around broken up only with the camera swinging up to his face and suddenly turning off (my Dad always managed to have the camera running when he thought it was off and would turn it off when he thought he was turning it on). Of course, we didn't tape our wedding at all.
mateo... caddyshack.. that's what is sitting in my dvd player right now.. watched it for first time ever the other day
Use it as a weapon of manipulation: The next time you have an argument with your dad, and you want to win, bring up the video tape blunder he made. The mistake has been made. You can't change it. So fighting about it now only has negative accomplishments. Quietly accept that it has happened, move on, and then one day when your dad is insistant on doing something his way, whip it out. Tell him, with detail, that you know that he taped over your wedding video with his vacation w/ step-mom, and that you know that he lied and tried to cover it up, and that you've known for a long time (don't tell him how long). Then tell him you're gonna do things your way, dammit. He'll have no choice but to give in. I'm surprised no one here has thought of this yet. (BTW - in case you can't tell, my family is very manipulative). -- droxford
completely agree, Mrs Smeg family was big on taping our wedding, i refuse to watch it, it is terrribly disturbing as for the situation at hand, make a joke about it if you do want to bring it up, otherwise let it go
Or from the wife's perspective, he didn't tape the superbowl over the wedding tape. Yes I know perfectly well that I just ripped that off Everybody Loves Raymond.
I'm sure your uncle still feels terrible about it; I'd make it a point to tell him it wasn't his fault. If you do tell your uncle, I would factor in his response and what he might say to your dad in whether you tell your dad or not. If you don't think you'll be able to talk him out of bringing it up with your dad or spreading it around the family, you most likely need to bring it up with your dad first.
actually, i think you just ripped off KaiSeR SoZe who ripped off Everybody Loves Raymond (which i assume is why the smily was at the end of his post).
