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The Question: # of sexual partners? Do you ask it?

Discussion in 'BBS Hangout' started by Franchise3, Jan 28, 2009.

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  1. Franchise3

    Franchise3 Member

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    Oh yeah...my fault, I remember you said that earlier in this thread, but to tell you the truth, it was tough for me to discern if you were being facetious or not because that is a pretty tough standard. I mean, I know a lot of girls who lost their virginity before 18, but at least you said you are somewhat flexible instead of making it a bright-line rule. If you have these standards because of strong religious or moral convictions, and not some misguided view of female idealism, then I sincerely say good luck to you. God knows it is tough enough to find a great woman without imposing stringent restrictions on her sexual past.

    Oh yeah, and a pointer from experience. If you want to really find out her real sexual past, don't give off the vibe that you are judging her for it. I have a lot of female friends, exes, and so forth that tell me a ton of secrets because they know I won't judge them for it, and you would not believe some of the things from their past that they keep from whoever they are dating. Their mindset is that they don't want to throw away a good relationship with a guy they really like in the present because of a stupid mistake they did many years ago in the past. So yeah, haha, sorry to make you paranoid.

    Seriously though, I used to be a jealous, uptight ass about this stuff in my younger days. I really put some girls through the wringer and grilled them when it came to their sexual past. I'm pretty disgusted now about how I acted back then.
     
    #61 Franchise3, Jan 28, 2009
  2. rezdawg

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    Yeah, thats a good point. She wanted me to know about her past in case it was something I was thinking about and I just told her that she doesnt need to tell me anything because it doesnt matter. Then she said that if Im ever interested in knowing, that I just need to ask. I do get the feeling that she believes I wont judge her based on how Ive handled the situation thus far...so if the topic ever does come up, then hopefully I'll be able to get an honest answer.

    And yeah, I was pretty tough on my ex about this, so Im trying my best to make it a non issue this time around.
     
    #62 rezdawg, Jan 28, 2009
  3. fadeaway

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    For real. Laughing will turn to crying real soon.
     
    #63 fadeaway, Jan 28, 2009
  4. rocketsjudoka

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    I don't really care. I've dated a few girls who have had the loose reputations and it hasn't bothered me. I don't bring up how many I've been with but won't hide it.
     
    #64 rocketsjudoka, Jan 28, 2009
  5. Sooner423

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    I've found that just trimming it relatively short is the best answer. Of course, I've never been adventurous enough to allow a razor blade that close to the family jewels.
     
    #65 Sooner423, Jan 28, 2009
  6. droxford

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    i dunno, guys...

    I just wouldn't want to hook up with some chick who let the high school football team take turns on her. That's just skanky. It's not an insecurity thing, I just wouldn't want a gal that had that on her resumé. ya know?

    I also think it's funny that, in the other thread, there were a lot of posts about how x number of previous partners was a deal-breaker, but in this thread there's a lot of posts saying, "it doesn't matter". Very interesting.
     
    #66 droxford, Jan 28, 2009
  7. Franchise3

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    This is what actually gave me the inspiration for the thread.
     
    #67 Franchise3, Jan 28, 2009
  8. percicles

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    You ask and regardless of number you make that gross face. Then you go Woody Allen on her ass and over analyze the number and insert how you feel like just another skin on the wall and not special to her in the grand scheme of life.

    Upon the next time you're intimate go for some Anne Hathaway. If she hesitates tell her it would make you feel special. If she says she's never tried it then tell her it would make you feel really special.

    Works every time.

    Especially on Mormons & Jehovah's Witness ladies.
     
    #68 percicles, Jan 29, 2009
  9. Invisible Fan

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    It doesn't really matter.

    Only takes one random person to get the clap.

    Now that matters until you become that random dude.

    Outside of STDs, it's a pride issue...
     
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  10. IROC it

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    At least you admit your double standard.


    Fine to be a slut, but only have the "marrying type" to have a family with?


    That's a nice cop out.


    BTW- "1... you." Is the best answer... if it's true, and remains as such.
     
    #70 IROC it, Jan 29, 2009
  11. Landlord Landry

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    no need to ask. I have only been with one woman my whole life. mi esposa tambian.
     
    #71 Landlord Landry, Jan 29, 2009
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    Good answer, no_answer
     
    #72 Pezmonger, Jan 29, 2009
  13. rocketsjudoka

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    4 pages and no Chasing Amy reference.

    This explains it all. NSFW Langauge

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    #73 rocketsjudoka, Jan 29, 2009
  14. keeyanballa08

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    I ask. Usually when I start talking to girls they tell me about their whole past anyways. I would rather be the first to pave the road, but being 18, if they have given the business more than I feel they should, we have a problem.
     
    #74 keeyanballa08, Jan 29, 2009
  15. rezdawg

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    I live by the standard that I expect from a woman. By double standard, I meant that if a guy tells me theyve been with 10 girls, I dont see that as that bad compared to a girl telling me the same thing.

    Im not copping out of anything...Every girl Ive been with has been with more partners than I have. Ive never had a one night stand and never will. Im a relationship person.
     
    #75 rezdawg, Jan 29, 2009
  16. Fatty FatBastard

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    How do you find out if they're being truthful about their #? Take them on the Maury Povich show?
     
    #76 Fatty FatBastard, Jan 29, 2009
  17. Lady_Di

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    Yeah... any girl could easily lie about their numbers and you'll never know. It's just not worth it. I would rather not know about the number as long he's clean. Use protection, regardless.
     
    #77 Lady_Di, Jan 29, 2009
  18. rezdawg

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    Ive had mutual friends with every girl Ive dated, so there isnt much theyd be able to hide from me...the truth would come out. For instance, my current gf...we share over 100 friends on facebook. I grew up with some of her good friends, so Im fairly confident that whatever she tells me, I can verify through others if I really felt the need to. Although, with this one, I really have no reason to question her because she is a straight shooter, for better or worse.
     
    #78 rezdawg, Jan 29, 2009
  19. rocketsjudoka

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    Couldn't agree more.
     
    #79 rocketsjudoka, Jan 29, 2009
  20. Lil Pun

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    Me and my girlfriend discussed it before but the more we have been together the more we realize it does not matter.
     
    #80 Lil Pun, Jan 29, 2009
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