The Question: # of sexual partners? Do you ask it?

you should be able to tell by how tight her vag is...

 

Thanks for the response, I appreciate it. I know I have issues with this topic...working on it, haha.

 

Yes it is.

 

I know plenty of girls that are in their upper 20's and have had 4 or less partners. Ive also known these girls for 10+ years and have seen them go in and out of their relationships. There are no "hidden" one night stands in there. They're not that type.

Its really not that far fetched.

 

I don't know but I assume so. Perhaps it's cause of the type of girls I meet. I never have long term relationships and the girls I meet are usually looking for the same thing I am... 1 nighters/couple week to a month at most flings. If I'm able to hook up in a short period of time I know there have been many before me. I guess an exception would be girls who have significant other's or just got out of a serious long term relationship since dating at a young age. I guess those ones might have low numbers? I'd seriously question that too though.

 

Well if it was hidden you wouldn't know it.

 

it's not more about quantity than it is about quality with me..

and of course.. as I always am.. about people's actions, decisions, and behavior through the course of their emotional/intellectual/sexual lives, and the subsequent path/s it all has collectively led them to as to their present point.. curious as to the "why?"

 

That's not true. Women adjust. It's about the size of the last person she adjusted to. I've always heard dudes complain about it, it's just never been a problem for me.

 

I'm with Fatty on this one. I can't believe how judgmental some of you are coming across.

I'd hardly consider a few to even several partners in a year to be whorish behavior.

Then I'd have to say that you are insecure and need to get over yourself. The only thing that should concern you is whether she's trustworthy, faithful, and clean. Those are the only things that really matter. What are you gonna do if she tells you some day? Call her a w**** and leave her?

I'm glad to hear you say this. Self-awareness is the first step to not being a jealous ass.

 

No, it really has nothing to do with insecurity. Im incredibly confident in myself and Im confident that the girl Im with would never do anything to break the trust we have with one another. Its all a matter of wanting to be with a classy woman. Not one that went wild and nuts for 10 years, then settled down. But one that was raised like a lady and only gave it up when she was in a serious relationship. I have no problems when a girl is in a solid relationship and sleeps with the guy. Thats fine. I have problems, however, with a girl sleeping with a guy when they are not in a relationship. I think that's trashy.

Im not jealous, Im not insecure, or whatever else you want to call me. I dont get involved in relationships unless they have long term potential. Im not into one night stands, casual dating, etc... I hold myself to the same standards as I hold the girl I am in a relationship with.

 

But you said this:

You've got a "great girl," but you're hesitant to ask/find out about her "shady past" because you don't want to "ruin anything."

Please pardon me for being blunt, but which one is it? Is she a great girl or some wanton w**** you don't want to associate with? Does she cease being a "great girl" the second you find that she has a sexual history you don't agree with?

Can't have it both ways.

 

This has nothing to do with being insecure or a jealous ass as you stated.

Anyways, she doesnt cease being a great girl if I dont agree with her sexual history. I have my limits, but Im willing to extend that a little for someone I feel is worthwhile. However, there are limits. If those limits are surpassed, then she is a great girl still...just not one that I see myself with. I dont settle for anything in life and I dont think I should settle for a lifelong partner either. Regardless of what her past is, I have plenty of respect and admiration for her. In any case, Im pretty confident that her past hasnt hit my "limits"...thus the reason I really dont want to ask because getting a number from her will just mess with my head even though it wont affect our relationship. Therefore, I'd rather just not know. And by "ruin" things...All I have in my head about her is positive thought so Id rather keep negative things out.

 

I don't care about raw numbers. I care about clusters. Did the girl I'm with go on a run of 10 dudes in 18 months? That's important to know.

Number of partners, otherwise, ain't really relevant. You just gotta watch for tendencies towards sexual compusivity. If they're sexually compulsive, odds are 1) they're nuts (insecure, need constant validation, or possibly bi-polar), and 2) they'll cheat on you and you'll never see it coming.

 

seriously, i don't want to start a thread on it, but the girl i'm seeing shaved my kak-n-balls the other day with a razor.

i was on the edge of pleasure and pain for about 7-10 minutes.

never had shaved balls before. and no chaffing! if you haven't tried it... GO SHAVE YOUR JUNK WITH A BLADE!!

IT'S AWESOME!

 

Pretty much what I was completely incapable of saying...I guess its not the number I want to know, but rather, how those numbers were racked up.

 

Best case scenario, 1 partner every 2 years starting at 18.

However, if the girl has some great qualities...then Im willing to loosen up. I expect the girl to have been in relationships while she has slept with the guy. If a girl has had sex with some random person, then its game over for me.

So, lets say a girl is 24 and has slept with 5 people. That would typically be too much for me. However, if she is a great person and has slept with all of them while she was in meaningful relationships with them, then Id be more prone to letting it go.

Im just not a big fan of the girl that sleeps with guys because of either being in a drunken state or because she was just curing her horny state. When that enters the picture...I exit the picture.

 

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