The law of sowing and reaping. Sow now, reap later. Always try and out "er" your "ee" - so to speak. It just grows that way.
Reading these 20 posts, I've come to the conclusion that it must be the case that most people must not really appreciate or even realize all the favors others do for them. Either out of 20 hook'ers here, none get sufficiently reciprocated, or else they don't recognize when they are reciprocated. I can't believe that 20 out of 20 actually give more than they receive. I am of the pay-it-forward philosophy. The people you do favors for may not pay you back, but there is someone else out there who has done things for you that you haven't paid back either. But, it's okay because someone else has hooked them up along the way. I helped get an acquaintance a job recently (first time I managed to execute a job hook-up, which feels pretty damned good), something he can't reciprocate. But, that's okay because my dad and his mechanic friend fixed my car when it broke down (in 100 degree heat, no less). I don't want to even contemplate how much my father or even his friend have done for me.
I think I'm weird. I don't mind helping people at all or doing favors for them but a lot of times I have trouble accepting favors or accepting help. What does that make me? one way hooker?
Anotherbrother- We're talking about the Law of Reciprocation. You 'pay it forward' so to speak, and eventually you get it back. If you're not getting it back, you're getting used. Your real friends will give back just as unselfishly. If you are surrounded by users, you need to dump 'em.
Everyone that's posted besides a few have said they are more "er" than "ee." Now for every hookup there's someone who benefits. So the percentages of everyone in the world should balance out to 50-50. So that leads me to believe that. 1. Hook"er" are more likely to post in this thread and hook"ee" aren't as likely to publicize or 2. The clutchfans demographic is more generous than the broader population or, now I'm not saying that this is the most likely, 3. The endowment effect is in play here and we always perceive our favors to be more valuable than what we receive
I understand, but was speaking more specifically about favors I get done for others that would normally cost them money (e.g. tickets, exposure, police favors). Essentially burning favors to do someone else a favor. It makes me feel good to help out my friends, or anyone for that matter and I never complain. It's all good.
So, you're the hooker and the hookee at the same time? There should be some kind of a karmic handling fee in place for these transactions. God - you listening?
I'm always hooking people up and getting hooked up... Even when I get hooked up, I'm bringing others along for the ride, so in turn I'm breaking even...
Well, either pride or the way I was raised, I feel comfortable having to rely upon favors that are unique to reciprocate. Even asking my friends to help me move doesn't feel right to me. I'd rather go out of my own way to do things than ask someone for help, but at the same time I don't begrudge my friends when they ask me for something. As long as they don't take it for granted...
Now that you mentioned it. I'm like that at work. Always helping people out but when people offer to help me, I say no. Even with friends, I'm happy to assist but when I need help I like to do it all myself unless it is absolutely necessary that I need another person.
